"Singles widely regard this as an insurmountable obstacle, not to mention a sheer waste of time. As one who has always feared losing time more than losing money and who is almost as easily bored as a 4 yr old, I was the perfect candidate for having - and loathing - boring dates. Yet, I can honestly say that I never felt that even the most boring date was a waste of time.

Thanks to applying my philosophy of finding the positive in every situation, I turned boring dates - especially the most boring dates - into learning experiences: I decided to find out what rendered a person boring. It's a way to turn a situation that most people find entirely NEGATIVE into a POSITIVE one.

The more boring I found my date, the more ?'s I would ask her to determine the roots and characteristics of being a boring person - and therefor also of being an interesting one. (you gotta love the way this guy thinks eh? )

I believe that I learned much about that area (he used it in teaching later). I learned, among other things, that some people lack passion and a lack of passion makes people uninteresting; that a lack of introspection makes people boring; that being interested only in oneself or only in macro subjects makes a person boring. and I learned how and why I get bored. I grew from boring dates.

Then there were the bad dates, dates with women who were not necessarily boring but with whom I had almost nothing in common or, actually disliked. I learned even more from these dates. I learned first, about me. Why didn't I have any chemistry with this person? What was it perhaps that I lacked that prevented me from liking this person more"

I find I cut bad dates short, dont want to waste my time nor his. Rather do my hair or laundry.

So you see I too turn it into a positive

It Doctor Phil isn’t it …tell me please!!! I have to know…is it ,is it????????????

If we went out I would show you a great time. I might even let you look at my collection of 1978-1980 Burger King glasses. The Hamburglar is the best!!!!

If I let you in the house you would have to be quiet though . Mother goes to bed early.

I know…. pretty cool right???

That's because they knew they sucked. Some people have no idea that they are boring.

Someone needs to write a book for them.

I admire people who try and fail. Hell, it takes some serious nuts to get on national TV and end up drop'en a terd on stage.

Not me ...No Sir-reeeeee-bobalhead.

So I'm reading a book and 1 point well taken is finding the positive in everything (which I've been accused of more than once )

The author says one ex. that served him well was the problem of boring dates. He goes on & I cite him:





I thought this chapter was very interesting .. we all talk about the wasted dates we've been on. This guy is using that to GROW. What a concept!!

So ..



thoughts?

thoughts?

yes, will you type the whole book so we don't have to go out and buy it.

yes, will you type the whole book so we don't have to go out and buy it.

Well, I get so few dates, that I actually treasure all (both) of them.

No, seriously, I've been just flabergasted on a date (I didn't know people could actually be like that, I thought it was just in movies), I've been stunned (not so far as having an eye twitch though), but never bored. Of course I'm the type of person that finds the humor in any situation, that might have something to do with it.

If I find myself even drifting towards bored, I switch the conversation. Now I had this one person that kept bringing it back to the same topic, over and over, but fortunately, I knew little about figure skating, so like our author suggested, I just learned some stuff.

Joy is always in the eye of the beholder, if you aren't having a good time on a date, the problem might actually be with you, not who you are with.