We are raising a country full of spoiled disrespectful and wimpy children. Children should be whacked once in a while in order to show them when they did something wrong. I’m not talking about beating kids like rented mulls or abuse.

I’m saying a spanking in a supermarket should not cause a parent to be thrown in jail. The state and local governments have clearly stepped over their bounds with this as far as I am concerned.


What do you think?

I agree...and I just learned that CT allows spankings, apparently even if it makes the skin raised and all. I didn't know that...I don't think that was always the CT law, I believe it's fairly new.

It seems like so many parents run around finding ways to keep their kids happy. They don't have chores, don't have to help around the house...nothing is expected of them. It's not the kids fault truthfully. My boys help do all sorts of things, and they feel good about it...and they aren't looking for a buck for every chore they do...they just do it to be helpful. I also like them to have opportunities to help other people, learn to feel a little empathy, etc. Recently we went with a friend of mine to help serve food at a soup kitchen...and then this last Sunday my oldest went back with him to do it again. This time he also handed out clothes. It's important for them to know when they go to bed at night in a BED, with a PILLOW, and an ANIMAL, in a room with a ROOF and WINDOWS...there are people who are outside trying to stay safe from the elements...and they may not have eaten that night..or the night before. I refuse to raise spoiled rotten boys, and parents need to put in the effort to do it.

If you raise them right to begin with, and that starts from the age of about 1, once they are out of diapers you never have to spank them again.

<-----haven't had to spank my daughter since the diapers came off.

It's called follow through with the punishment. Hitting a child only teaches them to hit when they are angry or don't get what they want, follow through teaches more cause and effect.

That is true, and I never hit my boys either...and like u said, just don't have to.

I'm not against spanking, I've seen a kid or two that needed the crap kicked out of them, but it makes me sad to think it could have been avoided by constant and determined parenting.

Good for you Jolynn I did the same thing one Christmas when I thought my kids were getting a little too greedy in their gifts requests. I took back what I had purchased and spent christmas day in a soup kitchen with them. Made them see how fortunate they are.
Hate to be in the mall and hear a kid have a screaming fit. Then the mother looks at you like its your fault their child is a spoiled brat.

Same here lily... I haven't had to spank my daughter in years. However, I don't allow her to behave like a fool whether we're at home, the store, park, anywhere. I already taught her and continue to teach her how to act properly. I can be very strict without beating my kid. Tho when I am at the store ( wal mart in particular) I would like to take up whacking someone else's kids sometimes.

Thanks bikernurse ;-) That is great you did that. You know though, it feels great to give them those opportunities. And when we pray at night, we remember our soldiers, homeless, family, etc etc...because you know what? How do we know we will always have a home? We have to value what we have while we have it...and my list of things to value becomes more and more realistic everyday. The milk in the fridge, the van is still running, the gas in the van, the electricity is still on...right?

I call "those" kids the poster children for birth control....

way to go

Well I tend to agree. However... It's their parent's fault that they act like that. The parents have taught and allowed them to act like that by giving in to their tantrums. The last time my daughter threw a tantrum in a store... Not only did she NOT get anything she wanted, when we got home I cleared out her room and donated some of her toys to Goodwill. I told her maybe some of the kids that get them will appreciate them more. I never had that problem again. And I did it all without having to lay a finger on her.

I am a firm believer in the laying on of hands, my kids knew this (their adults now). As they got older they knew if I felt the need I could and would go through their backpacks and rooms, never had too though.

There are too many kids out there that need this kind of discipline, but how can the parents teach things they don't know how to do. They can't teach respect if they don't know how to do it. If the kids see their parents throwing tantrums, they're going to think its ok too.

Kids will act in a manner in which the parents allow. Children will also test boundaries with each parent, especially in a divorce situation. Sometimes negative attention is what they seek as they don't get enough positive attention for behaving.
Smacking children is not the answer, unless you have a young child in danger and you are moving their hand away from a harmful object.

It is also good to keep in mind that the children's services workers are the ones who determine what is abuse and what is discipline, so that is a fine line to walk if you dare.

I spanked so few times! I quickly realized that if it's done in anger it's just wrong...and if I wasn't angry, there was a better option because my mind was engaged. I've raised to amazing kids generally without spanking...

I think the BIGGEST key to teaching kids respect is to be respectful to THEM! I've always said please and thank you and behaved in whatever way I expected them to behave (none of that "do as I say and not as I do" stuff in my house!) I have shown that I genuinely appreciate them...and of course, love them to pieces. When you kids that they have value and that so does everyone else, lack of respect is not a problem. I even get along with teens who have been labeled "bad kids" because when given a chance to interact with them...the respect thing works there too. It's an AMAZING, free, non-violent parenting tool!

"two"...egads...typos!

I never spanked. I did the time-out method and never stray from "no means no".

What do i think???

I think a divorced catholic with NO children saying "we" are raising wimpy, disrespectful children is quite suspect.

or are you referring to your own upbringing?

yikes now come the fireworks bringing religion into responses


I say parents have to take their roles as guardians and role models more seriously. Raise their kids, instill values and morals instead of having the tv, video games and other electronic gadgets babysit and rear their kids.

Take control, set boundaries and guidelines.

My daughter is now grown, she may not have gotten whooped in the sense of beating her a$$, but yes she did on occassion receive a smack, slap on her behind.

I think that even people with no children can see evidence of good parenting or not so good parenting while out in public.

hands are for loving


wooden spoons are for hitting