Listen sweetie, 1 thing Ive learned from relationships, if 2 people REALLY wanted to be 2gether, whether 1family hated the other, whether they were millions of miles apart, whether they would be outcastd for being 2gether, they wouldnt care if they really loved eath other, they would go against all odds even if in the end every1 else was right and they got broken hearted by their partner. It sounds like you are the only 1 fighting for this relationship if she gave up so quickly. Like I said b4 you guys are just too young for all this. Im 30 and I think Im too young to be in a relationship where I have to fight to be 2gether, but if I was really in love I would fight tooth and nail. Im sure its not that she doesnt care for you but I think deep down inside your GF might agree with her mom that she might be too young. If shes only 18 she just became legal and im sure she realizes she still have a lot of living to do. Ur nice looking just move on, if anything stay friends with her, give her somoe room and if you guys were meant 2 be she would come back to you.

i think this went off the original purpose of this thing i was looking for what to do about her mom so that me and her can see each other sooner than when i get my own place... or she gets her own place.

I don't think you can expect an 18 year old girl to settle down anyway. She should be out with her friends; not hanging out with a boyfriend.

hmmm interesting way to put it.
and umm no im not good looking.
but maybe your right and she doesnt want me... but if thats the case why wouldnt she just say that?

i never stopped her from going out and hanging with friends....

this just reminds me of when I was 18 and i really liked a guy and my mom said no... thinking back the man that she did like turned out abusive.

so this has to be the 18 year olds choice...she has to learn to think for herself reguardless and her parents should want her to be able to do that so one day she won't have to live with them forever...

I know she may regret not choosing you and not thinking for herself or acting on it...
i did...but then again I was not mature enough...

Okay, so you've been talking to each other for months and now started dating in person for a little over a week. I'm just throwing this out there but do you think it's possible that maybe, just maybe, she's decided that now that she's been with you in person, you're not what she really wanted and is getting her mother to do her dirty work of getting rid of you? Could this be a possibility?

its possibl but not likely...

Why not?

Because like you said shes a sweet girl,she doesnt want to hurt you, so by using her mom as an excuse it eases her concience. Now that u say that, she probably says her mom dont want to talk to you bcuz she just mightve made up the whole thing. As a mother if my daughter was dating some1 whom i didnt want her dating and he was willing to ask me why, id be more than happy to talk to him and explain why. and also part of ur problem is in ur answer, "and umm no im not good looking" trust me some1 out there would not find that to be the case or would be willing to work with u if u treat them right.

Get jobs . . . move out . . .

Happy ending.


Well only other thing to do, is send a card and some flowers to her mom asking for her to give you a chance to show that you are worthy of her wonderful daughter. Or if you think that is cheese (I have done it, it works by the way . . most grown women like cheese)
Then just send a letter.

You can also find out if her mom likes a particular group (James Taylor, blood sweat and tears ect, and send music)

Bottom line tho, some parents are unreasonable, and if the one chap is right that the mom is just helping the daughter with a decision she has already made then your wasting your time.

To me its always worth the effort as long as you don't break your own heart with the effort.

Or , you could just respect their wishes and get on with your life.

Oh I agree, but that is easier said then done . . . its very easy to say when its not your heart. . . . and it depends on who's wishes . . . the moms, well that isn't her life. The daughters well then your done already and don't know it yet.

i'd ask *her* to find out how to win her mom's approval.
then take the suggestion.

all in all "happiness is seein yur future mother n law on the back of a milk carton."!!!

Haaaaawk!!!!!!! Behave you



Chris ... Just a hunch... which may be way off... but it sounds as though this girl has been pretty sheltered. Is it possible that her mom is fearful about your chosen profession...and the potential danger of it ... and is just wanting to protect her?

you seem to have hit the perverbial nail on the head here maybe ill go with my secondary choice of jobs then i may be able to make everyone happy.... yea that may work so insurence sales here i come.

You have to make YOU happy...this is your life to live ...

selling insurence will make me happy as well.