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Does sound mild we are having 40 degrees here. Seen some snow flakes but that as cold a it usually get was in the high 30's yesterday now 0 weather is to cold smiles We had one day early this week of snow. One of those days when the snow came drifting out of the sky in big white fluffly flakes just daring you to run out to try catching them on your tounge. I controled myself. 
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Not truly happy being alone. I really noticed a big difference when my son left with my grand daughter. But when I visited a friend with her grand daughter I noticed how easily her grand daughter got a long with mine. But then when how we all admitted we liked being single I came to the conclusion that I am half-assed happy.
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The only way for me to be happy is to be alone.
I hate women, and I am not gay, so there you have it. |
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I can't even hate my ex. Heck, I can't even hate my ex-mother-in-law.
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Nope not a hater to bad you feel that way Telephoneman.No one I can really say I hate. To negative of a feeling. Good rainbow you seem happy.
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I am really sorry that you feel that way, Telephone.
Hate burns so much energy & is bad for your health. I hope you can reconcile your pain, someday. I used to hate alot of things & a friend helped me to realize it is better to deal with the "whys" & move on. Than waste all that effort "HATING." |
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as long as I have Mingle, I'm never alone
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Yes very much so, I have to say I don’t hate but on the same hand I don’t think I can ever love again. Maybe it’s my age maybe it’s a combination of all life has thrown at me over the course of my life. This time of year doesn’t help any.
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Solitary, think I understand your meaning.
You prob. will never "love" like you did & that is OK. Different levels of relationships/friendships are an absolute truth. I don't ever see me marrying again, but I know that there are some VERY SPECIAL FRIENDS out there & I hope God blesses me with even more. Man was not meant to live alone. That is a scientific fact, it is not healthy. So "ALONE" is someplace I never want to be. Have a dwelling that is mine, a place where I can find solitude & "work on me" when I want...YES. Holidays are hard, I need my alone time, but I also need that friendship time. You can find a balance if you try. Reason many of us are here, to reach out & touch others; so we aren't alone. Other wise, Why are you really here?? Happy Holidays to you & all that read this. May God Bless you & your's. |
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The only way for me to be happy is to be alone. I hate women, and I am not gay, so there you have it. |
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Bet a good lady like Carold, might change your mind.
Great friend & intelligent lady. |
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I'm not a "hater' either, whatever life throws at me I just learn from it and move on and try to make the next day better than the last. Hating is so much negative energy and it only affects you, the person or persons you are hating probably aren't all that concerned about you "hating them. Happy Holidays everyone.
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Hate is such a strong word. I don't believe I hate anyone, anymore. I may have at one time, but I have learned that life is too precious to go about with such negativity. There's just too much to enjoy in life and I don't plan on wasting mine.
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Lots of good comments here. I concur with too much energy required for hating people or things. We don't have to love them, but sometimes we do have to tolerate them. Such is life. I too am here to combat loneliness; don't see me every getting married again. Hope everyone has a great holiday season.
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Hate is such a strong word. I don't believe I hate anyone, anymore. I may have at one time, but I have learned that life is too precious to go about with such negativity. There's just too much to enjoy in life and I don't plan on wasting mine. |
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Lots of good comments here. I concur with too much energy required for hating people or things. We don't have to love them, but sometimes we do have to tolerate them. Such is life. I too am here to combat loneliness; don't see me every getting married again. Hope everyone has a great holiday season. |
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THanks carold
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Well, this might seem funny, Carold but I went to an Alanon meeting once and this woman seen and could hear very plainly that I was angry and she said, "Don't tell me it is a woman who has made you so angry." I asked, "How did you know?"
It is then that I found out that it was like snake venom because the poison and the cure were the same. It helped me get my own self out of the ditch. I couldn't fix my ex just like she couldn't fix me. It was more like physician heal thyself and the more Alanon meetings I went to the more I found out that my ex had something when she said that I caused a lot of my own problems. At first it irritated me that my ex could be right because it was very ego deflating but the more meetings I went to I tried to work on my own faults. I can even remembering telling my counselor that I was amazed how people were getting better around me. But he said, "It isn't them but You are getting better." He took him a lot of work but eventually he made me capable of accepting a compliment. I think the most scariest thing I ever encountered was someone just like me. I told my counselor that I couldn't stand that person and my counselor told me that used to be me.
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Well, this might seem funny, Carold but I went to an Alanon meeting once and this woman seen and could hear very plainly that I was angry and she said, "Don't tell me it is a woman who has made you so angry." I asked, "How did you know?" It is then that I found out that it was like snake venom because the poison and the cure were the same. It helped me get my own self out of the ditch. I couldn't fix my ex just like she couldn't fix me. It was more like physician heal thyself and the more Alanon meetings I went to the more I found out that my ex had something when she said that I caused a lot of my own problems. At first it irritated me that my ex could be right because it was very ego deflating but the more meetings I went to I tried to work on my own faults. I can even remembering telling my counselor that I was amazed how people were getting better around me. But he said, "It isn't them but You are getting better." He took him a lot of work but eventually he made me capable of accepting a compliment. I think the most scariest thing I ever encountered was someone just like me. I told my counselor that I couldn't stand that person and my counselor told me that used to be me.
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Well, this might seem funny, Carold but I went to an Alanon meeting once and this woman seen and could hear very plainly that I was angry and she said, "Don't tell me it is a woman who has made you so angry." I asked, "How did you know?" It is then that I found out that it was like snake venom because the poison and the cure were the same. It helped me get my own self out of the ditch. I couldn't fix my ex just like she couldn't fix me. It was more like physician heal thyself and the more Alanon meetings I went to the more I found out that my ex had something when she said that I caused a lot of my own problems. At first it irritated me that my ex could be right because it was very ego deflating but the more meetings I went to I tried to work on my own faults. I can even remembering telling my counselor that I was amazed how people were getting better around me. But he said, "It isn't them but You are getting better." He took him a lot of work but eventually he made me capable of accepting a compliment. I think the most scariest thing I ever encountered was someone just like me. I told my counselor that I couldn't stand that person and my counselor told me that used to be me.
That's a great story Rainbow, thanks for sharing it. Not always easy to open up and share what you have been through with others. |
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