Oh joy. Another pissing contest.

* grabs the popcorn *

nope, I can't beat that one!

Oh no! there will no none of that unless you all want to put on the rubber gloves and scrub the walls with bleach!

* puts down the popcorn *

Oh fine then. Take away all my fun...lol

jk

mister ur still on timeout

I have to say I like the idea of this post. But it did make me think of the movie Hitch. lol

My views on love are similar to those in your original post. However I think there are more than just two types. Some fall inbetween and some are in a completely different spectrum. In my opinion, love doesn't know logic or reasoning. It just is.

Love is a tricky emotion. There are some things that feel like love, but are too superficial to be the real deal. Love takes time and doesn't happen over night. Here are three things that people often mistake for love.

Lust

Lust is the feeling that is often mistaken for love at first sight. Lust is an intense and sudden attraction to someone you hardly know. It is mistaken for love because the attraction is so strong.

The emotions stirred up by lust can feel very real, but they are based on fantasy. To love someone, you must know them well, but many people fall in lust while they are still strangers. What people in lust fall for is a fantasy of what might be and reality can get lost in the excitement. If you are inexperienced in matters of the heart, it is very easy to mistake all of that passion for love.

Obsession

Obsessions are often mistaken for love because people rationalize the crazy feelings they are having. They assume that it must be love if the other person is always on their mind. Obsession is similar to lust, but much more misleading and destructive. While lust is often fleeting, fading as two people come to know each other better, obsession sticks around.

The more time and effort invested in an unhealthy obsession, the more intense the obsession can become. People in an obsessed state have a one track mind where the other person is concerned and they often lose touch with who they are as an individual. The loss of individuality creates a vicious circle of behavior where the obsessed person grows more and more dependant on the other person to bolster their sense of self.

Real love is nurturing and helps people grow, but obsession is debilitating. If you feel like you have lost yourself, if you are always striving to please your partner without reciprocation, and if you find yourself making all of decisions in your life based on the feelings and needs of the other person, you could be dealing with obsession.

Rebounding

A rebound relationship that starts off rather quickly after another relationship has ended is rarely based on love. It's really a way of alleviating the loneliness people feel when a relationship ends.

Rebounding can feel like love simply because the people envolved want to be in love. They are used to the security of being in love and more than anything else, they want to feel that security again. They convince themselves that they are in love when they are actually missing the safety and comfort of the relationship they left behind.

If an old relationship keeps interfering with the progress of a new relationship, it could mean that the relationship is a rebound. When someone is on the rebound, they are not entirely over their previous relationship. They may still be trying to work out unresolved issues from that relationship. Rebound relationships may feel like love, but they are still impacted by unsettled feelings from the past.

Amathyst, thanks for sharing.

I do believe I mentions that those are the polar ends of love... that it falls on a spectrum... meaning someone could possibly fall somewhere in the middle.

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I have to get some more Irish coffeee from bad bad.

I know its all in fun, but tone it down!

t tell me about latinos lins apperently they dont know yet

huh?

yes Ok I will behave my self just for you LD

Thank you!

No problem! And I thought I would go into a little more detail for those who seem to be going through rough times. Sometimes reading it helps to distinguish between what they are really feeling.

Thanks!

The Love Doctor will be in the office for about another hour or so... if you have any questions please post now or you'll have to wait for a response tomorrow.