Topic: HELP!!!
rochelle1263's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:09 AM
Ok I met someone . The chemistry is great . Then we introduced the children . They dont get along at all . any suggestions!

seahawks's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:11 AM

Ok I met someone . The chemistry is great . Then we introduced the children . They dont get along at all . any suggestions!
kick the kids out.!!!laugh laugh jk im not sure that's a tough one.!!gl

Riding_Dubz's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:12 AM
Take em to Chunky N cheese,

always brings them together,

MsCarmen's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:12 AM
Eeek!! That's not good. But then again, maybe they are just rejecting each other because its easier to do that then say to either you or him that they don't like the new guy/gal? Just a thought.

I wish you all the luck though flowerforyou

rochelle1263's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:13 AM
They are Only 9 @ 10.

franshade's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:13 AM
wow sorry to hear, whats the ages of the children?

could just be sabotaging your "new friendship" in fear that you would love them less... depending on children ages

LIJOMA's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:14 AM

They are Only 9 @ 10.





KIDS WILL BE KIDS, OH SORRY CAPS, lol....

rochelle1263's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:15 AM
We shall see how it goes this summer my daughter will be away and I will get to know his daughter better . thanks for the advice

No1sLove's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:16 AM
Change can be very intimidating to kids. They are unsure of what new additions to your family might mean to them and the routine and lifestyle they are accustomed to. It just takes time, patience and understanding for them to come to realize that your love for them will not change and that your time, that they will have to share with others will be worth it in the end. flowerforyou

iRon's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:16 AM
I meet my step brother and sisters when I was 16.....26 years ago and we still don't get along. But my mom has been happily married to my stepfather for 25 years and he has been good to my mom and she has had a great life and as an adult now to me that is all that matters.....

Queene123's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:17 AM

They are Only 9 @ 10.



kids that age, know what we dont know and they can see through and feel the vibes.. children share the world that we dont... and they dont want to share with on another especially when it comes to a parent dating someone else...

when i was 17 my mom lived with this guy that she adored and she wanted to marry him. but the problem was he couldnt accept his own kids as well of me and my sisters.. my mom told him that we were there first and she finally left..

Queene123's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:18 AM

I meet my step brother and sisters when I was 16.....26 years ago and we still don't get along. But my mom has been happily married to my stepfather for 25 years and he has been good to my mom and she has had a great life and as an adult now to me that is all that matters.....


EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!1

beauty314's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:19 AM
good luck with that one..sometimes it does work..but never has for me..flowerforyou

Jill298's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:19 AM
I'd give it some time... let the kids know what they have in common with each other and try to find something to do they would both like

rochelle1263's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:20 AM
Well this is fairly a new relationship, we jumped in too soon and. now taking a step back . Seeing each other less. that seems to work . his daughter is not comfortable with any affection between us . this is tough . She is daddys little girl.

rochelle1263's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:22 AM
Hopefully over time she will warm up to me

No1sLove's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:29 AM

Well this is fairly a new relationship, we jumped in too soon and. now taking a step back . Seeing each other less. that seems to work . his daughter is not comfortable with any affection between us . this is tough . She is daddys little girl.
My exes children required a lot of one on one time with me to get to know me and realize that I was not a threat to them. Maybe getting to know him on their own terms would help. Having them pick an activity to engage him in allows them a comfortable environment to relax with him and maybe introduce him to one of their interests too. Same with you and his kids.

buttons's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:32 AM
simple as this....your kids dont want to share you.. nor do his kids wanna share their dad...rather it be with another adult or with other kids... they get a fear of losing you..and losing some attention... it all just takes time... just make sure you both make some time still for the childrenflowerforyou

buttons's photo
Tue 07/01/08 09:35 AM
if you use the term "date" when you go out with him... then give your kids a individual " date" too.. i loved "date" day with my kids and so did they.. and i have 3 kids... none got jealous when it was "date" day for the other one.. cause they loved to each be "special" hence taking only one you can do more cause it costs less lol...

rochelle1263's photo
Tue 07/01/08 02:26 PM
Thank you all so much on the advice I appreciate it bunches