ditto....



Grabs children..... Let's go for walk by the river!

bc it's more rare to see a man raising kids on his own than women. And women flock to them bc they think the guy will accept them more as a single parent ( which is true more often than not) It's hard being a single mom, I am one so I know how it is... you just have to keep looking.

As far as I know, having a child never dissuaded courters, but mine was a bit older, 5, when I used to date.

how many children do you have? ages?

i think too because we may be more frugal and selective...It used to be i would sleep with anyone... but now my daughter comes first and i will not introduce her to anyone i dont see fit...i did have a nice gf for about two months and my daughter liked her and her two girls as well than she got transfered and for a short time it affected my girl so now i am even more cautious....

When I got my divorce at the old age of 27, my sons were 2 and 6. I can actually say that the guys I dated always were so good to my kids, and it didn't seem like anyone really "bolted" when they found out I had 2 little children. Guess I understand we're all different, and dating someone with children maybe isn't for everyone. I wouldn't necessarily take that to mean they're a crappy person, they just maybe don't want that responsibility. I do have to agree that people don't give kudos to women for raising their kids alone, the same that they do men who raise kids by themselves. Just my observation. I think that any single parent deserves a lot of credit for taking on the responsibility.

i have the utmost respect for single dads and give you all kudos
but the ones i talk to do not have females flocking to them

just like guys with girls that have kids

some girls dont want to raise another females kids
and "some" females get way to jealous and most want all the "dads" attention there for wishing the kids would go away or get mad because they dont get a lot of alone time with him

im kinda in the same situation..i have two small kids (ages 2years and the other 7 months) and im also 20..younger guys dont want to deal with a girl with children it seems...i once had a guy (he was 23 i think) tell me that their father probably just took off on me..he didnt even no me!..their father passed away and when people ask me and i tell them they just assume im looking for a daddy for them which their totally WRONG!..they have a daddy even though he cant he here as much as im sure he would still love to..but i def dont need a mans help as some seem to think!

Thank you duckie. If I lived closer I'd take out for a steak dinner.

ah thankyou
but keep it and take the kids to chuckie cheese

Because its always different for guys....what works for women never works for them...they are selfish *****es!! oops...sorry..did i say that out loud???

I never "bolted" because a woman had children. Of course now children are often out on their own.

I hear you, a lot of men are terrified of a woman with small children, too. I'm 35 with 3 kids under 10, it's like the plague or something

There are not many men or women my age who don't have children, so I have talked to numerous men who've stated that they like the fact that I don't. They mostly seem to feel it is too much to expect that joining two families can take on Brady Bunch-ness and not just turn into the doomsday of the relationship.

That is the response I get when talking to men about women with children. There are plenty of men who will not feel that way, and men who do, that if they meet the right woman, could set aside that fear to be with her, I've no doubt.

i disgree, i would prefer to have a man with no children, and all my female friends say the same things.

I'd never run. A woman with kids or without kids it doesn't matter to me.

guys who are GOOD with kids are kind, playful and patient
traits which are *justifiably* highly prized by all women

I really could care less, I enjoy children but won't have any of my own. I'm not going to miss out on proving my theory of love wrong just because she has some kids.

I have 5 kids and I get the time of day ALL the time ..

children dont bother me none