im 19 and have a 7month old daughter married for 2years but he desides
to take off! once in a blue moon he'll come to see her but he only uses
her for a show case! and becides that i was in a terrible reack about 2
1/2 years ago with a big rieg! so my back is messes up from a crused
pelvix so it's getting harder for me running around all the place and
lifting her! I have little help with her- and still need to find a job
that i can handle with my ingerey's! have any idias?
vanessa

Well it might not be what you want to hear I try to find solutions at
times inside of the hard knox school but this is one time I think you
need to hit reality real hard not trying to be mean. But girl first you
need to divorce this guy he don't care about you or the baby then get
some help from the state get into the county hospital or somewhere and
get your medical problems taken care of. You can cal the DA's office
about the divorce they do it on a much lower scale they will set the
court date child support and all plus you can find out from them the
other help you can get for support till you can take care of your back
and make a life for you and your baby its is not gonna be an easy road
but I promise you there is nothhing you can not do if you want to. I
wish you the best but it is up to you what to really do. I know its not
an easy road raised 2 kids on my own for 15 years anything can be done
if you want it bad enough. And the rewards in the end are well worth all
the heart ache.

yes, I know all of this!- but i am looking for a low matnence job i can
handle! thank you for your time- god bless
vanessa

ask a local pastor. there are bound to be people at a local church who
will be more than willing to help you take care of your daughter;
babysitting, advice, support, whatever. as for jobs, check with senior
centers - i bet there are shut-ins who could use someone to do grocery
shopping or visiting, and there are companies that specialize in sending
people to do that sort of thing. and again, someone at a local church
might know of something.

i can take care of my daughter- no proublem there! its just im trying to
find a low matnience job for extra money! and im trying to ask you alls
opinon what kind of work force would be suitable for a bad back?

aw ..(((((((((vanessa )))))) I know it is hard 10 years wrecked by a van
}me{ , if you need a friend look me up ,, I may be able to help with
advice I am trying to deal with raising my kids too it is hard to deal
with a wiggling toddler when you are screaming in pain ,, my youngest is
almost four now ,, and the physical limatations are murder !! maybe we
can bounce a few ideas of each other and solve the odd issue ??

was twho's at fault for the wreck? if it was the truck driver you should
be able to get a nice settlement, if so, use the money for school and
get a desk job, don't just blow it. If not, then it's going to be hard
but you said you had a little help, find an easy part time job
delivering papers or something like that and apply for pell grants,
often you get more than enough for school and you can use the extra
money for bills and such.

First get yourself a good attorney. Make sure you and your daughter
receive a proper amount of child support and alimony. Girl, you're going
to need it, AND your daughter has a birth-right to basic support.

He's going to be fuming angry. Tough sh1t. Don't back down, follow the
State guidelines for Child Support and Alimony (your attorney will
know). Make sure the Child Support is enforced. Wether or not he has a
job, or a car, or unable to get a ride to work - none of that is your
daughter's concern - she needs to eat and have shelter. His job is to
supply the $, your job to ensure she actually gets the shelter.

Its not a matter of nastiness, its a matter of fairness. Once you get
that established, get your azz in school, set an example for your
daughter - show her the value of hard work and the value of education.
You'll be stunned at her reaction to her own school work when she's been
raised on the example of her own mother sittin at the table doing her
homework.

Wow, already some great advice here. Many good words for a tough
situation.

The education thing is hard with kids but would be the advice I could
give in your situation.

Mikemontana and others are correct abou their assessement of the
situation.

Good luck to you Vanessa!

Verb

not to be harsh and bust your butt.
you should really go back to school, if you didnt finish high school
then get your g.e.d. hard to make anything of your life without an
education. i would advise some college also its hard enough now days
only having a high school level

ok!- I got it go my butt back to school! (lol)
thanks for the advise...

we are all glad to hear that... good luck vanessa...

half dozen roses fur you..

I would think your doctors would be of help there. Are you in physical
therapy? There's another option...

Most of them can help you decide what's best for you.
wish you the best.

first get rid of mr wonderful, get child support ,then get whatever help
is out there for you.As for the injury if not your fault then you need
to sue.I have a back injury and a desk job would be the worst for
you.Try babysitting a neighbors kid if you feel up to it.