Topic: Do you still enjoy intimacy?
carolanne58's photo
Fri 07/04/08 03:07 AM

You know what is said for the first time in over 10 years I have the 4th of July off ......actually have 5 days off and I have no idea what I am going to do with that time off.


Well rose_gammie have you ever drove a tractor or baled hay? wink ,winkwell at least I will get a tan lol

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Fri 07/04/08 03:36 AM
noway OH,,,HELL NO,,,I gave them all up when I hit 49 and a half just to get a jump on it!




Here's YOUR sign!!!laugh laugh laugh laugh bigsmile

oldsage's photo
Fri 07/04/08 04:17 AM
Like everything else, you don't do it; you forget how.noway noway :tongue: laugh flowerforyou :banana:

kathy550's photo
Sun 07/06/08 12:24 AM


Once in a while, I take a good look in the mirror and am shocked to see how much this body has aged.
Most of the time, I feel younger than I look, especially, emotionally. That's where the confusion sets in.
I adore being looked at with loving eyes. I miss being randomly touched. You remember, that special person, just passing by and lays a hand on your shoulder and gives it a gentle squeeze. Or, sitting in the restaurant and she reaches over and takes your hand, for no reason.
I still enjoy being wanted, emotionally and physically.
It's been a long time and I miss those things.
Is it immature of me to still long for those things or are they normal feelings?
How about you, do you get that way? How do you feel about getting that close to someone again?


Very well said, I miss those exact same things. I miss doing those things for a woman. Yep being in love is sooo nice.

So what the body ages, that does not mean that everything stops. it is simply taking new form. A healthy mind, and young heart will always keep all else functioning. I plan on being as active and exciting no matter what age. The only problem there is that you need a partner that is on the same page as you.

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Sun 07/06/08 12:31 AM


i think that's just an excuse guys use when then dont' know what else to saylaugh

Well, really, i guess they mean that someone who is high maintenance needs a lot of nuturing and attention.


Oh,I dated someone in the past three yrs. who wanted to be with me 24/7 and when we weren't together I was accused Of messing around.He was to controling from what I wore where we went.Sure I want affection and attention and I will give that in return but not at a cost of my respect for myself.I have ny own career and hobbies and enjoy ''me ''time.

When they are that insecure or overbearing I tend to think they are reflecting what they were all about at one time or another and now feel that their special someone is doing the same. That type of person will never change and you really do not want to deal with that, old haunts and habits never die. GET RID OF HIM or he will drive you insane. Not worth it.

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Sun 07/06/08 05:27 AM
welcome to the forums Kathy

oldsage's photo
Sun 07/06/08 06:30 AM
Well said Kathy & welcome to the family.
If you take resonable care of your body, work out a little & watch the weight; we can go into our late 70's enjoying life. will post the name of a book I am reading on this very subject.
I still enjoy physical work & people get surprised at what I can still do at 57.

Good physical condition is a PLUS for the intimacy thing, also.

:wink: :wink: :tongue: devil pitchfork bigsmile

flame1cutie's photo
Sun 07/06/08 06:33 AM
Welcome kathy post and enjoy the forum. You'll like it hereflowerforyou

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Sun 07/06/08 06:33 AM
Intimacy is just air , you can not live without it ....:wink: :wink: :wink: flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou drinker waving waving

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Sun 07/06/08 06:33 AM
Intimacy is just air , you can not live without it ....:wink: :wink: :wink: flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou drinker waving waving

carold's photo
Sun 07/06/08 08:00 AM

Intimacy is just air , you can not live without it ....:wink: :wink: :wink: flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou drinker waving waving
Well said :)

BobbyJ's photo
Sun 07/06/08 09:34 AM



Once in a while, I take a good look in the mirror and am shocked to see how much this body has aged.
Most of the time, I feel younger than I look, especially, emotionally. That's where the confusion sets in.
I adore being looked at with loving eyes. I miss being randomly touched. You remember, that special person, just passing by and lays a hand on your shoulder and gives it a gentle squeeze. Or, sitting in the restaurant and she reaches over and takes your hand, for no reason.
I still enjoy being wanted, emotionally and physically.
It's been a long time and I miss those things.
Is it immature of me to still long for those things or are they normal feelings?
How about you, do you get that way? How do you feel about getting that close to someone again?


Very well said, I miss those exact same things. I miss doing those things for a woman. Yep being in love is sooo nice.

So what the body ages, that does not mean that everything stops. it is simply taking new form. A healthy mind, and young heart will always keep all else functioning. I plan on being as active and exciting no matter what age. The only problem there is that you need a partner that is on the same page as you.


It seems so sad that so many worry about what time does to their body. Our bodies go through countless changes. Once we become older (as in my age!), you'd think we'd be used to all of the changes and accepting of them. When I look in the mirror, I don't have any illusions, but still, I'm happy with what I see.

By accepting our own changes as we age, our views change, too. I often hear talk about how older men are always after younger women. I really don't understand that talk. When I was in my 20's, I found women in their 20's most attractive. When I was in my 30's, I found women in their 30's most attractive, and so on.

Now that I'm in my 50's, I find women in their 50's to be most attractive. Why? Because I really do believe that women become sexier with age. I see women in my age group as knowing what they want. They have the experience to know what it takes to make a relationship work (that's a lot to learn and know!). They are on the same page in life, too.

I think the level of intimacy that can be reached can be even deeper as we age. Our age and experiences teach us what true intimacy is and how to create true intimacy (in all respects) in a relationship.

carold's photo
Sun 07/06/08 01:23 PM




Once in a while, I take a good look in the mirror and am shocked to see how much this body has aged.
Most of the time, I feel younger than I look, especially, emotionally. That's where the confusion sets in.
I adore being looked at with loving eyes. I miss being randomly touched. You remember, that special person, just passing by and lays a hand on your shoulder and gives it a gentle squeeze. Or, sitting in the restaurant and she reaches over and takes your hand, for no reason.
I still enjoy being wanted, emotionally and physically.
It's been a long time and I miss those things.
Is it immature of me to still long for those things or are they normal feelings?
How about you, do you get that way? How do you feel about getting that close to someone again?


Very well said, I miss those exact same things. I miss doing those things for a woman. Yep being in love is sooo nice.

So what the body ages, that does not mean that everything stops. it is simply taking new form. A healthy mind, and young heart will always keep all else functioning. I plan on being as active and exciting no matter what age. The only problem there is that you need a partner that is on the same page as you.


It seems so sad that so many worry about what time does to their body. Our bodies go through countless changes. Once we become older (as in my age!), you'd think we'd be used to all of the changes and accepting of them. When I look in the mirror, I don't have any illusions, but still, I'm happy with what I see.

By accepting our own changes as we age, our views change, too. I often hear talk about how older men are always after younger women. I really don't understand that talk. When I was in my 20's, I found women in their 20's most attractive. When I was in my 30's, I found women in their 30's most attractive, and so on.

Now that I'm in my 50's, I find women in their 50's to be most attractive. Why? Because I really do believe that women become sexier with age. I see women in my age group as knowing what they want. They have the experience to know what it takes to make a relationship work (that's a lot to learn and know!). They are on the same page in life, too.

I think the level of intimacy that can be reached can be even deeper as we age. Our age and experiences teach us what true intimacy is and how to create true intimacy (in all respects) in a relationship.
So true

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Mon 07/07/08 06:50 PM

Once in a while, I take a good look in the mirror and am shocked to see how much this body has aged.
Most of the time, I feel younger than I look, especially, emotionally. That's where the confusion sets in.
I adore being looked at with loving eyes. I miss being randomly touched. You remember, that special person, just passing by and lays a hand on your shoulder and gives it a gentle squeeze. Or, sitting in the restaurant and she reaches over and takes your hand, for no reason.
I still enjoy being wanted, emotionally and physically.
It's been a long time and I miss those things.
Is it immature of me to still long for those things or are they normal feelings?
How about you, do you get that way? How do you feel about getting that close to someone again?

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Mon 07/07/08 07:03 PM

Once in a while, I take a good look in the mirror and am shocked to see how much this body has aged.
Most of the time, I feel younger than I look, especially, emotionally. That's where the confusion sets in.
I adore being looked at with loving eyes. I miss being randomly touched. You remember, that special person, just passing by and lays a hand on your shoulder and gives it a gentle squeeze. Or, sitting in the restaurant and she reaches over and takes your hand, for no reason.
I still enjoy being wanted, emotionally and physically.
It's been a long time and I miss those things.
Is it immature of me to still long for those things or are they normal feelings?
How about you, do you get that way? How do you feel about getting that close to someone again?
Sometimes I look in the mirror and say "I HAVE BECOME MY MOM." Those little things do mean alot. I feel the same way.

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Mon 07/07/08 07:38 PM
intimacy is great... but being friends first, I think, is most important...

carolanne58's photo
Mon 07/07/08 10:12 PM
Welcome Kathy,I got rid of the controling one but it was really hard. Everytime I ran into him I would get all caught up again. So true what you said he ain't going to change.One of the problems was he used to have employees and used to being the boss.It is one thing to tell someone how to do something but it is the way you tell that can ruffle my feathers. A friend told me that I was the only one that could stop the dance.Cheers!

oldsage's photo
Thu 07/10/08 06:48 AM
He had to be fullfilling some kind of need, to have such an effect.
Just figure out what it was.

HeSearches's photo
Thu 07/10/08 09:38 AM
It takes a great relationship to have great intimacy and great sex. I don't know if that's necessarily the "friends first" that women seem to think it is. It causes me to wonder how long will we be "friends" before we become "lovers" or if she has issues about being intimate.

One area where the guys really fall down on the job where women generally don't is taking care of their skin. Women use a good skin moisturizer all the time but men rarely do. Once I started using a decent drugstore moisturizer with SPF 15 I took at least five years off my face. If you want to get rid of that aged haggard look try that. It'll make ya feel sexy again fella!! :wink:

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Thu 07/10/08 09:42 AM

intimacy is great... but being friends first, I think, is most important...

Intimacy is nice all the time . friendship is a bonus .grumble grumble grumble