Yes... you need to lay it on the line. He seems to have some serious esteem issues and I find it ridiculous he has not introduced you to her. That needs to end..... meet her!

IF you really friends, you can talk about anything.

IF you have an agenda, admit that also.

(((Lilith))) he barely sees her, kind of avoids her. And honestly I don't want to meet her because I'd probably be blunt and not very nice to her. Not that I'm mean but just because I'll always take my friends back over anything.

(((oldsage))) We've talked about it. I don't have an agenda. I won't be that girl that messes around with him on the side.

Hmmm. Okay here I go.

How can you be friends, and I mean truly friends and respectful of a dude who is going to marry some biotchy chick he doesn't like or love simply because he thinks he deserves no better? He obviously doesn't respect the institution of marriage.... A woman he avoids and trash talks about behind her back? Trust me.... I'm not saying you've at all done anything wrong. But look at it from my side of the coin.

That biotchy chic sounds like my ex & her friends, they wouldn't even wait til you were completly out of the room before they would start backstabbing anybody, It was like high school, I hated that crap!!

you need to leave him alone until he figures things out...be a friend but not too friendly

hmmmmmmm nice love triangle.......ahhhhhhhhh the other woman is always the "biotch".........cut your losses and run!!

You say, you have no visual evidence, of the fiance?
But yet, he claims to be engaged to antoher girl? And he's not happy with her? Well, if that's true, then he should end it with her and give you a chance. He says, he's with her, because she's the only one who wants him? tsk, tsk, he's mistaken. He's saying, in essence, he doens't know that you want him. When he gave that excuse you should have replied, "Oh? Am I chopped liver?". I was once engaged to a girl, I wasn't happy with, mainly because I didn't want her to date other men, and I couldn't get rid of her, even after I graduated. (This yhwas many years ago). And becaus I couldn't find someone else. Yes, He needs to end it with her, promptly. You persist, girl! I really think you should!

Well I'd like to thank all of you for your advice. I really do appreciate it.
I'll let you know what I decide...but keep posting.

Step back and let nature take it's course. When he finally leaves her, be there for him, but don't make your move until he is over her. It doesn't sound like they'll be together too long, just don't get involved right now.

Personaly i think you should stop waiting and just tell him how you feel. like today.

I think a guy who would marry someone just because he thinks he can't get someone else is not a very nice guy. Does this woman know he feels that way about her? Doesn't he think she deserves to have someone who is head over heels for her, rather than some schmuck who is just settling for her because he apparently just wants to get married? How selfish can a person be?

He is a lout, a cad, a bad man. Dump him in the dust and let him learn how to treat people.