Topic: OK, answer the ?? honestly Spank or Not | |
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There is no other opinion than "Dont hit the child!" I have never had to and my child is very well behaved.. |
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The real problem I see with spanking is that when that option presents itself I'm too angry at the girls to safely implement it...I tend to stop and just say...Your making me angry you had better just go...
They get the point and leave the room for a few minutes...We all calm down and go from there. NO spanking needed... |
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The real problem I see with spanking is that when that option presents itself I'm too angry at the girls to safely implement it...I tend to stop and just say...Your making me angry you had better just go... They get the point and leave the room for a few minutes...We all calm down and go from there. NO spanking needed... Nice to see a civil fashion |
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:) as a parent (better than some I have seen regardless of age) I say paint their back doors red! If you let children over take your home and not have respect then they will certainly remain that way into pre-teen and adulthood! I am a single mom and have a hard job. My kid went to school reading and doing math on a third grade level, yet had emotional problems when faced with authority such as shoving his desk around and kicking students. It was a little bit of a personality issue, which just has to heal in time, but he also feels smart and doesn't like being in trouble, especially if someone else "did it" or it seems "unfair" - which is a normal thought process for your everyday 6 yr old.
That def. made me more strict and enforce looking at me every time he talked or I talked, and other forms of implementing authority over him at home, but i had to UP the ENCOURAGEMENT to counter balance the new strictness. Spanking is a good thing in my opinion, but not if a parent is too frustrated or mad to deal witht he child in other ways as well. even at 6 i follow the nanny 911 rule of 1 minute time out per year of age, and my favorite is writing essays. AT 7 an essay can be a bit much, so he does a paragraph. It gives everyone time to calm down. |
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Middle child of ten kids, we were all spanked and all turned out fine...i'm actually GLAD my mom cared enough to spank me(not abuse me) My cousin...never spanked...been to jail several times, a kid at 13...last time i talked with her she was crying saying that she wished her mom cared enough to stand up to the way she was when she was a child...The results speak for themselves...as long as spanking is not done in anger, and out of love, and a last resort nothing wrong with it imho
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I turned out fine with absolutely no spankings what so ever. I was lectured, quizzed on the lecture and then grounded..... which was TORTURE but very effective. I think the important thing is to be CONSISTENT with the discipline, which ever way you choose to discipline. Sometimes I wish I could have been spanked instead of being grounded half of my youth
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I turned out fine with absolutely no spankings what so ever. I was lectured, quizzed on the lecture and then grounded..... which was TORTURE but very effective. I think the important thing is to be CONSISTENT with the discipline, which ever way you choose to discipline. Sometimes I wish I could have been spanked instead of being grounded half of my youth I can help you make up for lost time |
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I turned out fine with absolutely no spankings what so ever. I was lectured, quizzed on the lecture and then grounded..... which was TORTURE but very effective. I think the important thing is to be CONSISTENT with the discipline, which ever way you choose to discipline. Sometimes I wish I could have been spanked instead of being grounded half of my youth I can help you make up for lost time |
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Spanking a child shows hate. Enforces that hitting is alright. I have found out in court if you do this, You will go to jail. Since my former said that my punishments(talks) were not good enough. She like to use plastic cooking spoons when I wasn't around. This was the way she was punished as a child, see the pattern here. And when my sons are around me, no yelling from me or even threats. I just ask them if they would like the other to do the same to them. And the answer is no. My sons behave like children will. But to show that violence is acceptable, come on. This was taken from a web site, well many sites have this information about spanking. We feel that the debate corporal punishment of children is one of the most important, current, religiously-based, conflicts in North America. In the past, studies into spanking have been inconclusive. Those researchers who initially opposed spanking generally found that it was dangerous and ineffective. Those who initially supported spanking typically found that it was safe and effective. This is fairly common in such studies: the researchers' original opinions tend to be confirmed by the data that they collect. However, recent, longitudinal and objective studies in Ontario, Canada and New Zealand definitely show that even moderate spanking can have devastating results for a minority of children -- particularly males -- that only become obfious after they reach adulthood. We suspect that when the results of some of these large, long-term behavioral studies become generally known, that many parents will stop spanking their children. If corporal punishment opponents are correct, then the abandonment of spanking will greatly decrease adult violence, mental illness, addiction, and criminal activity |
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Everyone I have babysat for knows my policy. If it is just something like thrown stuff or making a mess, its time out, but if they do something that can potentially put their life in danger I will swat their butt. My dad yould leave marks on me as a kid, but I won"t, that is abuse. I hope that you are not a registered day care provider. And I hope that the parents will report you. If the children could put there lives in danger, what type of daycare are you running? That would have me most worried as a parent taking my children to your day care in the first place. I say this with the most respect, I know children can be a handful sometimes, I have taken parenting classes(requirement in my state for divorce) and they state do not show aggresive behavior towards children in any form. It just reinforces hitting another human being. |
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Different strokes, different folks.
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No spanking at my house. I did the time-outs.
If I ever felt like spanking, it was my problem. I was the adult losing my temper. |
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As a child I was spanked, so I know what feels like. At the same time I wouldn't spank my kids (when I have them).
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Edited by
krupa
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Thu 07/17/08 09:16 PM
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Wow...I feel like I am in a room of delicate jungle orchids who need the absolute perfect conditions to flourish.
Let me know how things work out when your kids are in Juvey. I was raised in a home where my father easily gave complete love just as quick as he gave out discipline. Verbal reprimands change nothing....not wanting to get your ass handed to you after a biblical verse...meant a bit more than Disapproval. Wish I was you guys kid(s)....I would have walked all over you. Just my opinion.....Discipline with out love...is abuse. Love without Disciplne is neglect. I guarantee you this....I would much rather kick my own kids ass and stop because I love them, than have a stranger who doesn't love them kick thier ass with no real reason to stop. Just because a person loves thier own F*ck trophy...doesn't mean the rest of us should put up with thier crap. Discipline your kids people (If they have earned it) If you think I am wrong....My kid will kick the crap out of your kid.... I will spank tears out of my kid for doing something wrong. Nice to know that some folks will give nothing but a "Time out" or a verbal reprimand..... No wonder our jails and prisons are packed by people whose parent's didn't instill a sense of responsibility for the crap that people think that they can just get away with..... Let's face it.....jail is just another, non-corpral "Time out" |
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Again... There is no other opinion than "Dont hit the child!" I have never had to and my child is very well behaved.. I don't believe in hitting a child either. I have a very well behaved child also. My child gets straight A's and particiaptes in sports. Time out's and groundings do work. |
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Wow...I feel like I am in a room of delicate jungle orchids who need the absolute perfect conditions to flourish. Let me know how things work out when your kids are in Juvey. I was raised in a home where my father easily gave complete love just as quick as he gave out discipline. Verbal reprimands change nothing....not wanting to get your ass handed to you after a biblical verse...meant a bit more than Disapproval. Wish I was you guys kid(s)....I would have walked all over you. Just my opinion.....Discipline with out love...is abuse. Love without Disciplne is neglect. I guarantee you this....I would much rather kick my own kids ass and stop because I love them, than have a stranger who doesn't love them kick thier ass with no real reason to stop. Just because a person loves thier own F*ck trophy...doesn't mean the rest of us should put up with thier crap. Discipline your kids people (If they have earned it) If you think I am wrong....My kid will kick the crap out of your kid.... I will spank tears out of my kid for doing something wrong. Nice to know that some folks will give nothing but a "Time out" or a verbal reprimand..... No wonder our jails and prisons are packed by people whose parent's didn't instill a sense of responsibility for the crap that people think that they can just get away with..... Let's face it.....jail is just another, non-corpral "Time out" Your kid will kick the crap out of my kid. I am too impressed. |
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I was smacked around a bit when I was little and it did me no harm. Maybe it did. I am shy in public and do not like to be centre of attention. I like to stay out on the edge a little.
I do not spank my kid cos I view it as a loss of vocal and emotional communication between the child and parent. The problem with spanking is that it may or may not harm the child. There is no concrete evidence to suggest either. I suggest not to!! Just my opinion, I understand that loving parents do spank as a last resort, that is much different than a continual smacking for no reasons for example, the parent may be in bad form or angry for other reasons and hits the child for no reason in regards to the child. |
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I dont believe in it no,there are way to many other ways that I have seen work my selfs,so spanking isnt right but all have there own ways they think are working.
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On one occasion my godson was trying to hit his babysister on the head with a telephone. I spanked him, and it was not a light tap. He ran into the other room crying to his father and telling him I had hit him. His father replied, "Well you must have done something wrong. Go back and thank him." The boy came back and thanked me for spanking him. Of course there are times when "reasonable chastisement" is exactly that. |
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Wow...I feel like I am in a room of delicate jungle orchids who need the absolute perfect conditions to flourish. Let me know how things work out when your kids are in Juvey. I was raised in a home where my father easily gave complete love just as quick as he gave out discipline. Verbal reprimands change nothing....not wanting to get your ass handed to you after a biblical verse...meant a bit more than Disapproval. Wish I was you guys kid(s)....I would have walked all over you. Just my opinion.....Discipline with out love...is abuse. Love without Disciplne is neglect. I guarantee you this....I would much rather kick my own kids ass and stop because I love them, than have a stranger who doesn't love them kick thier ass with no real reason to stop. Just because a person loves thier own F*ck trophy...doesn't mean the rest of us should put up with thier crap. Discipline your kids people (If they have earned it) If you think I am wrong....My kid will kick the crap out of your kid.... I will spank tears out of my kid for doing something wrong. Nice to know that some folks will give nothing but a "Time out" or a verbal reprimand..... No wonder our jails and prisons are packed by people whose parent's didn't instill a sense of responsibility for the crap that people think that they can just get away with..... Let's face it.....jail is just another, non-corpral "Time out" I see your point clearly. It goes to show that abuse even leads into more forms than just physical. It is also called mental. And you once again have proven that spanking does not affect the person’s ability to deal with life. |
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