what they said...

Awww thanks Lilith, Mandy and Joy ... AND IZZIE

Hey wish I hadn't had the experience to post with so much clarity, but heck .. if I can help others along the way with it then so be it

At least then it's not wasted eh?

I think when I actually decided to go with "online" dating, I had consignend myself to the fact that I could only have a long distance relationship (over 100 miles). I live in a rural area, I've already asked out every unmarried woman around for 50 miles (yep, pretty sure I asked every one that wasn't related).

I'm horrible at meeting people face to face anyway. Anyone that takes the time to get to know me, thinks I'm just funny as a one legged rooster running a marathon. That same sense of humor, when taken as a first impression, generally makes people dislike me. So I think I'd actually have an easier time getting to know someone online and then meeting them. Of course I' have to be brave enough to ask one of you fine ladies if I could actually meet you. I'm kind of gun shy (or have stage fright if you'd prefer) anymore.

^^ get some confidence .. it's very sexy to women hon

Yep. I couldn't ask for a more wonderful woman to be involved with, even if it is annoyingly-long-distance.

The Gods were smiling on me the day we "met"

That's just it Fade, confidence in men is directly correlated to our success (whether dating or our vocation). If you have no success, your confidence fades. Women pick up on the fact that your confidence is waning and want nothing to do with you. It's a nice double edge sword, once you start slipping on it, there is no regaining your footing, you've already cut it off.

If you want, I can give you a short list of some women that ruined me for the rest of you. They should be hunted down like the evil sirens they are, I'll even supply the torches!!!

aaawwwww...... good luck hun

heres the deal...
with the current "non boyfriend" we made a deal.. we talked texted, emailed. webcamed (non dirty stuff), about a zillion times a day..as friends.. realy flirty friends. but still friends.. and since we met almost 9 months ago, i have tried the "dating" thing with 2 other guys. and he did with one girl.. noneof which worked for ether of us. because we dated without the in person meeting..

but not once didhim and i even refer to each other as the "non's" that we refer to eachother as now.. until we met in person. and not for a 5 min thing ether.
he came and stayed for 3 days.
and that is when we decided on non status..
only AFTER meeting in person.
btw.. for those who are confuzed.. a "non" bf/gf is a person who should/would be your bf/gf if not for stupid circumstances like the present one of his job sucking. to where he has to begone for weeks and weeks at at time... so you are essentialy bf/gf but ligicaly at this time it isnt going to work out.. but ya sill REALLY REALLY like eachother!!!
lol

Thank you

So you are letting some 'women' ruin your life? What power have you bestowed on them eh? Do they deserve that? No way. Whatever it takes to get your confidence back .. friggin do it!!!!!

It's YOUR life you are letting THEM waste for you...time is valluable. Don't throw it away hon

Folks.... it seems Fade and I have interchanged personalities today.... do NOT be alarmed.

LOVE YOU FADE!!!!!

Yup done it before doing it now . Well we've met in person now, but at one point we hadn't.

LOL .. funny I knew you were thinking that .. ah great minds think alike eh?

I'm just usually too rushed to write out all I wanna say .. today I figured this thread needed my attention .. LOL


Luv U2 Lilith

all my questions need your attention judy...i'd be lost without you woman

I have tried the LDR and it worked pretty well. It took alot of patience and understanding, ohh and TRUST between us, but eventually faded off into the sunset. And it looks like I will have to try it again, since there are not any potential women near where I am..

Judy.........But I told her it does work.......

{{{{Izzie}}}}

Thank you so much for sharing. Reading about your experience helps me put some of my on-line "adventures" in perspective.

To the OP: Be careful sweetie, listen to this lady. No reason to pee on the electric fence yourself

How romantic. See some stories can have happy endings!!!

No, I wouldn't say that I'm allowing anyone to ruin my life. I've dug my own grave, and now I'll sleep in it (it'll be nice to be able to sleep in for a change). I wouldn't presume to place the blame for my own inadequacies on another person, that's how the psuedo-science of psychology got granted mainstream acceptence.

What I meant to say, but didn't really say clear enough, is that women seem to be able to pick up on the fact that a man has had his heart beaten into oblivion. They don't have to be told, they just kind of know.

Now as far as my inablility to secure a dinner with a lovely female companion, that's my fault. I have no social skills, I'm a horrible conversationalist, not very handsome, don't have any money, and I have an inadequate education. Hmm, that sounds like someone everyone wants to date. Who's to blame for that? Me.

Besides, it can't just be my confidence levels, because 6000 women can't be wrong, and none those fine people wanted to have that dinner. (For the record, there would be seven that would argue that dinner was lovely, and you are all fools for not snatching me up while you still can. {I can only give you an address on one of those})

So, to recap (Fade, this is for you), I'll try to do better at being more confident, if you ladies will try to be better at actually showing up when you say "yes, I'd love to have dinner with you." This is a comprimise, I think will be better for all of us. :)

Roam I just read your profile and it's all positive... You have to live it and believe it for others to.. There is nothing wrong with not having a degree or not making a lot of money... Some may be ok with it and some may not... Those that are not, are NOT the women for you....