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here is what i think...i think it doesnt really matter..its all in gods hands...what happens, happens for a reason, sometimes unknown to us here...take it with a grain of salt..and just live...

I don't see how going thru what we did it suppose to make me a better person, is what I meant.

It's also not hard to assume that a statement will not end with the first post, if I were a thinking man (which I do not claim to be, but apparently you are) I would of put down my response and waited for the other person's response, instead you attacked me after stating my opinion of which you asked for.

don't u think that perhaps it made u stronger as a person?

this leads me to another thing i wanted to assert.
if something painful happens for a reason, and we are in pain how can we be objective enough to see such reason, and grow as human beings?

Nope. I think it showed me what a strong person I already was. Frankly, a lesson I would have passed up.

ok, i understand

Miguel your question is of acceptance. Acceptance comes with age, experience, and wisdom. It is all attitude. If you have a poor attitude, acceptance becomes difficult constantly. You do not have to accept everything. Only things that you have no power to change like acts of god, the weather, others actions that do not relate to you. With proper attitude, acceptance becomes easier. A positive attitude ALWAYS and checking your expectations goes a long ways. Example? Easy. A crazy driver is driving wreckless and cuts you off. Check your expectations. That driver has a wife in the back seat in labor with their first child. Checking your expectations makes acceptance easier. Doesn't work for everyone. But it works for me. The law firm you are working with has been really hard on you on an individual case to the point of extreme. A lot of stress and anxiety and yelling. Checking your expectations you find out that the firm has personal interests in the case that has underlying tones involving the safety of some children that at first glance looked to have nothing to do with the case. Finding that out made the abuse you received easier to accept and more understandable to deal with. You can use it in all aspects of life. I hope that helps. Grieving is hard for anyone. And a young death is always the hardest to accept. Sometimes it just takes time. Don't rush anything without thought. I hope that helps a bit. Always have a deeper perception of others and look deeper into yourself for those strengths. You will find you are stronger than you think. Kyle.

Thank you Kyle.

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Well, do you have to like the outcome in order to consider it solved? If no, than everything has a solution as I see it.

There is always a solution to a problem no matter what it is, so if there is no solution then there is no problem...I'm confused I don't like being confused...

You are very welcome. I know where you are coming from on the question. I've been there too. Having a heart attack caused by stress is not where you want to go over problems with lack of acceptance. The stress is not worth it. Your strengths and attitude and patience can be the difference of a long or short life. A heart attack was a hard ugly lesson for me to learn that. It feels like an elephant is sitting on your chest, and hurts really bad. I'm an easy going guy now who avoids all stress at all costs. Drama mamas can watch me walk away.

Ummm...I stand corrected! I don't have a solution for that!

Could someone explain this to me like I'm a 2yr old??....

every problem cannot be solved,(e.g.- heart disease, brain tumor, cancer) it's how you live your life with it that determines the quality of life you have

Not really. The solution might be unattainable.

If an asteroid was headed for the earth that would be a big problem.

If we had no way of stopping it, there would be no solution as far as we were concerned.

To worry about it would be pointless.

So you should simply say your goodbyes and wait for the inevitable.

I completely agree!

if theres no solution to the problem, whats the problem.!!!

Computers try to figure out these problems daily. Celebrate life. You only get ONE. Its like a game of chess. There are only so many moves and counter moves. Once you're in a checkmate the game is over. You then have only two choices- to accept or not accept the loss. But it will not change the loss.