misrepresentation is what woman are all about, dont get me staaaaded.

just guessing rn2000 suggests your in nursing,i assume and with all
those woman you ain't never seen all that cheating going on that
hospitals are notorius for?

Boynxdr, it hurts to cheat. I do not disagree. But you do not get my
point. This discussion is not about cheating but about men who pursue
women with lies. For example: I met my daughter's father who after we
exchanged numbers wooed me relentlessly. We spent a lot of time
together. I met his friends and he proposed to me. Only he was living 2
lives. He got married 2 months after we met and both his wife and I were
pregnant at the same time. I found out about his marriage 3 months after
I gave birth. The relationship started with lies. He did not just
"cheat" he was living 2 lives. There is a difference. There really is a
difference. Had I known the truth about this man, I would not have
continued to see him and my life would be different. I love my child to
death but he made choices for me. There is reprecussion to his deeds and
he is very unhappy right now.

boy . . . you are just that. she's looking for advice, not your
rambling on or chanting about how men are better than women because we
both know that's not true.

RN, I'm here for you; don't let those assholes defeat you

OnAlark, I am hardly defeated. And thanks for your support. But I think
they all understand what I am saying and they know that what I am saying
is true. I want someone to talk me out of not turning the next lying man
that comes my way inside out like pig's chittling (am I spelling this
right? I dont even eat pork, lol). I am just warning men of our
potential. If they want to do the same to lying women, then more power
to them. Either way it is wrong and they need to stop.

Boynxdr, there is cheating everywhere. Yes I am a nurse and I work in a
hospital. If you read my earlier posts you would see where I talk about
a doctor who lied to me and you would see where another had to restart
his residency program. But remember I am not concentrating on the broad
subject of cheating. And I am sorry that you too were hurt by lies. You
sound like a good man. Take care.

rni understand what you mean completly, but why would you take the past
out on what could be your future. every man is not a liar and cheater.at
least give some of them a chance.

Slowtogetit, I am not frying all men in my exs' fat. I did say in one of
my postings that everyone deserves a fair chance. I am not giving up on
men. I am only gearing up for the liars, lol.

The following comments are gender interchangable.
The theives don't care weather they get caught or not -
it's the game they crave.
The whores don't care weather they've been caught or not - it's the
self legitimacy that they crave.
The precious few who are objectively wise are waiting for the theives
and whores to eliminate each other; hopefully allowing us all to pusue
more pertinetly trancendent ontologies.
Put that in your narrow minded, uneducated, uncouth, sanctimonious,
selfrighteous, socialogicaly destructive,
spiritualy dereft crack pipe and smoke it.

"Sat 02/10/07 05:14 PM Listen up you all, I am not talking about
cheating. I am talking about getting a woman to love you to be in a
relationship with you by mirepresenting who you are. I am against
building a relationship on lies. Cheating happens and two people can
work things through. But when it began with lies and continues with
lies, thats what I am talking
about. Get me?"

Do I get you? Girl, do I EVER! It's one thing if the relationship is
underway and doesn't work out; it's another entirely when, for reasons
completely unfathomable to me, they try to dupe you from the beginning.
And if anyone thinks that a professional, white-collar man such as a
doctor (I was involved or on my way to being invovled, with two of them,
who did the exact same thing you're talking about) has any more
integrity than anyone else does, guess again. In fact, there may be an
ego factor involved here.

I don't know what the driving force is behind a man's (or a woman's)
motivation for hurting people, whether emotionally or physically. I
guess it's a game, to them. It's sad, really. You'd think that by the
time someone was in their 30s or 40s they'd have grown up enough to have
gotten over playing such games but, unfortunately, some people never
grow up. I'm sorry you had to go through this, girl, I know all too well
the pain and anger involved. Such a senseless drain on one's emotions
and a complete waste of time and energy.

Thanks Jean,
I was so completely amazed when I recently discovered the series on
Oxygen called SNAPPED. The defendants were mainly women who killed a man
closely related to them in an intimate way. I believe that women
generally, invest their emotions completely and are often too trusting
of men who are conditioned by society which accepts their frivolous
sexual behavior as normal. In turn we often become victims to men's
dating games. If a man decide to start a relationship with lies, how
about fessing up once he sees that the woman is serious about him? No,
they just continue as they benefit selfishly from the sex and attention
they receive.

im wondering?.... i thought adultry is not against the law so how did
she get him convicted?

not quite clear here u found out the md was married then u rove by his
house?

Hi buttons
The lady was angry I guess so she got even by turning the dude in to the
authorities about some insurance fraud he was involved with.

As for the MD. I got his address etc. He told me he was divorced and I
believed. I visited his house after getting a phone call 1am by another
female he was involved with telling me that he is still married. I
wanted the wife to know and I wanted him to know I was serious that he
stay away. He was terrified and has told me that coming to his house
opened his eyes to dangers of playing.

i was replying to hers actually but a guy like that? he just told u that
i think so u left him alone.he will cheat again. its all a waste of
time. i understand hurt but just time to move on why hurt back? i dont
get it. i guess i just want to leave this planet being remembered as a
good person. funny thing is all my ex's have tried to get back together
with me. to bad for them i say their loss.. lol wish they wouldnt though
but not into going as far as to leave my life being remembered as a
hurter rather be a remembered as a loving person.

Buttons, when you say "why hurt back," I'm not sure if you're referring
to the fact that RN visited the guy's home or not. I don't think the
motivating factor here is revenge (or maybe it is, but that's a moot
point). The reason men (and women) behave in this manner is because WE
LET THEM GET AWAY WITH IT.

If people would start holding these low-life scumn ACCOUNTABLE for their
actions, instead of just "going on with their life," "turning a blind
eye," etc., to it, then maybe their behavior will change somewhat. I'll
bet Mr. Extramarital Affair Doctorman will think twice before he cheats
on his wife again. Maybe not. Who knows? But what is the point in
letting it go? All it does is show the cheater he/she is able to get
away with their morally and ethically offensive behavior. RN did the
right thing and I applaud her for it. We need more people like her in
this world.

jean? re read the first few sentences of the first statement on here
especially the first sentence. to me that is revenge out of anger. "its
amazing how ignorant men are about women and their capabilities of
totally destroying their world" so do 2 wrongs make a right? sure he
hurt her but uhhh id say by that statement this is in fact revenge after
all dont ya really the man destroyed his own life already? yes rn was a
victum i agree and it is wrong what he did. but humm what about the wife
isnt she also a victum? why make it worse for her too? since the first
lover called the rn dont ya think maybe she already called the wife. i
understand the hurt hey ive been there i had a gal call me once. told me
that my bf gave her his business card and scratched out the number with
ink. he wrote the cell number on the back of the card. said it took her
a week to figure out the numbers that he had scratched out. funny thing
is he was my ex bf now to go that far is not weird? u tell me?

It may well be revenge. I prefer to call it "poetic justice." Call it
what you will, but turning a blind eye just enables men/women like this
to continue with their behavior. The wife has a right to know. What if
the way she found out her scum of a husband was cheating by discovering
she had HIV or something like that?

Jean,
I see you understand fully what I am saying. Some women, like my friend
who got her ex arrested are looking for revenge. My point is letting
them see that what they are doing is not right and that there are women
out there who are capable of going all out for revenge. I am not for
revenge but I wont quietly disappear either. They will know that I
respect myself and will not tolerate their lies. I will let them never
forget me and they will have no choice but to think about what the next
woman could do to them. My mother was a battered woman and I warn every
man that I date never to put their hands on me or they will live or not
live to regret it.

I am a very loving and passionate woman who would never hurt anyone. I
am honest and only want the same. I wont always get that, I know, but I
wont accept less. There are good men out there deserving of a good
woman. The liars who go around hurting women are making it extremely
hard for the good men who have to deal with the scars and hurt these
women, like myself are left with.

well i appoligise if i misunderstood all i know is... i felt creeped out
by that woman trying to figure out my number for a week and for his poor
wife.. maybe she did also for it is her choice to leave him or not to
leave him.but maybe she felt threatened too by the comfrontations due to
her husbands choices. what if there were kids there when u go to his
house should they be awoken at 3 am? hard to think things out though
when angry. this i know and have not always done either.