Chismah, I guess patience and endurance. Dont give up.

So Chismah, are you saying that guys who dont get a fair chance will
play games to get a female interested? What do you mean?

RN2000, why are you so interested in dodgy guys, surely it can,t be this
difficult to avoid them.

Slick, I think I understand where you are coming from now. So you agree
that the playing game is dangerous. People on both sides can get hurt or
be killed. But as long as people are naive to the dangers that exist
when building a relationship on lies, there will always be players. It
is sad what selfishness can do.

chismah everyone has a different taste in what attracts them to the
other sex.who knows why that is???????/

Slick, I am not interested in those guys. I am not immune to their
approaches and advances. I do like exciting and adventurous men. I get
bored easily. But I steer clear of men who are mysterious. The men that
hurt me say that once they met me and interact with me they want more
and knowing that I will turn them away if I know the truth, they lied.
Once they get a taste of me they cant resist. Thats not my fault. I am
exciting, educated, and ambitious. I hold my own. I have learnt my
lesson and now I want others to know that I was hurt to the point of
contemplating murder. I thank God I was not stupid. But others may not
be able to resist the pressure and devastion of a broken heart from a
man who plays games. I just wonder if taking that risk is worth it.

it is unreal to expect people to stay how you say faithful
the natrual human nature is to spread seed
it is only after generation of brainwashing that we come
to expect monagamy out of people
many sexual partners is what every human craves to fullfill all
of our earthly desires
but in retso spect still it is messed up to lie about your natural human
heart or maybe they fell in love too late only after they discovered
your friends and you

in other words she jacked him to be vindictive , not because it was the
right thing to do

you said: it is only after generation of brainwashing that we come to
expect monagamy out of people

If you honestly feel that way, you may need to go back many many
hundreds of years. I will NOT share my relationship, my man

and that is your personal opinion no one can say other wise its just
fact to look at it that way you dont have toshare but still play nice

Generation of brainwashing! I dont suppose God made one couple in the
Garden of Eden.

i hear all this men cheating talk, realitie is , my wife cheated on me
several times.every married men friend ive ever had has been cheated on
by her. cats are as cats do,you know there doin it,just hard to catch em
at it, especially for a hard working s.o.b. makin the world go round.
ungreatful world i mean...... i get around and i know only one guy who
cheated on his wife and he admitted it , was the only reson he got caute
and he paid dearly....yet i never met a woman that didnt cheat and they
still take the dumb as* to the cleaners just to be vindictive

go ahead bring god into it, gods word warns plenty about the evil of
what a woman will do to a man. why does that not have you stop and think
what you do with such words that you speak???

you all make some good points but it still cant argue human nature
the fact is that even if you never cheat you still develop
a "crush"and all that is your mind telling you that some part of you
wants to know what its like to be with that person
yes you make not act on it but you still thought now the only way to be
truthful and faithful is to tell your lover\partner the truth and watch
theyre reaction

Boynxdr, who cares why the woman did what she did? Two wrongs do not
make it right but tell that to a woman who ended up with a child by a
married man who lied every step of the way. Me! A man takes a risk of
getting crap happen to him when he messes with a woman's mind, heart and
her life. I have a child to raise alone because her dad cared only about
what he was getting and however he would get what he wanted from me. I
sued him for child support, he threatened to kill me bec he did not want
to pay support. He is convicted of a felony, Therroristic Threats and
is on probation for 18 months and now he cant come near me or the child
and he has to pay child support for a long, long time. I tell him to
stay away and he better or he will have to deal with me and my Jamaican
brothers. I say it again, dont play with a woman's heart.

what, cat got your tung ?

Listen up you all, I am not talking about cheating. I am talking about
getting a woman to love you to be in a relationship with you by
mirepresenting who you are. I am against building a relationship on
lies. Cheating happens and two people can work things through. But when
it began with lies and continues with lies, thats what I am talking
about. Get me?

you keep bringing up this one isolated case here and there, im talking
about a life time of expieriance......can you honestly mean to say that
you dont know of woman cheating their rear ends off while there is a
husband is at home baby sitting their kids, any time your ready ill
introduce you to plenty.... and the chick when found out always says
thats what the guys do, so they say......talk is cheaper than just a
little cheap and that is a fact

I am saying Goodbye, nice talking to you all. By the way the men I had
my encounters with both say they have changed how they relate to women.
Treat others the way you would like to be treated. It is the mature and
responsible thing to do.

AMEN