Like your nasty ass should be allowed to breed in the first place

I raised 4 children and two of them acted out the very same way. When things got out of control, I had the worst one arrested and advised I wouldn't take him back unless the court ordered him to have pschological help. They did and he was confined for a while but he was changed after that and now many years later he is a very successful business man with a wonderful wife and children.

It's called tough love. They want to see how far the envelope can be pushed. If it has reached a point where they cannot show you respect then they have no respect for themselves. When this happens, you have to reboot the computer so to speak and get the hierachy re stabilized. It is rotten so you think, but it shows them they are not in control and you are. You would be amazed how well it works, it just takes you to reach a point where you demand respect, not ask for it.

someone had ta say it. **** political correctness

Former Marine acting like that? theres alot of respect there...

I have no respect for the clueless

what year mos and rank?

It is so regrettable that you have endured such trauma. I only can sympathize with you. I also admire you for having come through the ranks and made it to become an absolute essential part of our society. I know I have had a tough childhood but not as drastic as yours so I may not be able to imagine the level of pain. However I know one thing. I don't pass the hurt to others . I don't for one minute suggest that you do, but your writing provides me enough to feel that you may. I strongly urge you that to deal with every day stresses to use the services of a therapist and before you reject the matter out of hand I have no problem to say that I do and I believe I am a better person than I used to be.

Amen

Warm family relationships can help protect children from acting violently, abusing alcohol and other drugs, or engaging in other high-risk behaviors. But family members—even in the most loving families—get angry at one another from time to time. When families communicate well and work cooperatively, anger can be resolved without a problem. Handled poorly, however, anger gets in the way of good communication between parent and child. Anger without control can sometimes be dangerous and may even become violent.

Many adults are not good at managing anger, and expressing this emotion in a healthy way. Some adults see anger as an emotion that should be suppressed, because it leads to trouble. Some grew up in families in which anger generally led to explosive behavior and even violence. Others were taught that it is not “nice” to be angry. It’s important that parents know how to manage anger successfully in family life, at work, and in the community. And that same knowledge needs to be shared with children, so that they learn this important skill. All should be aware of anger. Parants, teachers, police officers...

see tho, i dont agree with violence in any way. im not saying beat the child with a baseball bat or anything, im saying a simple spanking to remind the child who the mother is, i dont go around hitting people for no reason or anything like that..

it may have come off very abrasive the way i put it but i dont agree with child abuse or anything of the such. but a good smack on the bottom to help remind the child is all i am saying. and after that i was just stating that i dont agree with using add or adhd as an excuse for a childs behavior

I appreciate your sentiment however regardless we should lead by example and not loose respect . The power of reason is far greater than negative replies.Police officers whether we like them or not are essential part of the society, if we need to go about our business in relative safety. Only the approach is incorrect, For example UK police does not carry guns as a matter of principle and we don't have dead cops all over the place. I hope I am demonstrating the point. I am sure you will agree

Well, i have to add my 2 cents. I have a 13 year right now and fortunately she is not rebelling, yet. But I have to say being a crazy kid it started because of my surroundings. There are so many reasons that she could be acting out. OBVIOUSLY, she's just not rebelling. There is something that has triggered this reaction. You don't go to juvy just becuase your pissed about JR. High crap. Something is eating her up inside. I understand she can't talk to you but she NEEDS to. She needs to talk and you need to LISTEN. Not blow a fuse but really talk about why it is you are concerned about. I know my mom never talked to me. She just let me do my thing because it was easier (not that my mom's actions are your's, please don't think that) but what I needed was love and attention. Your daughter is not me but what we have in common is that she needs to know what ever she does, you will never stop loving her. I would strongly suggest counceling and I know this will sound corny but pray. Ask the Lord to take her into his arms and comfort her when you can't, when she won't open up to you. And she needs to find someone she can open up to and this might step on your toes but from my experience with the mistakes I've made with my own 13 year old. Own up to all and everything you have done wrong as a parent. We are all fumbling and stumbling through parenthood. There are no instructions so be honest. You are a young single mother like me and you have made some mistakes. Own up to them to your daughter and apologize and try to make them right. i'm all for spanking a child when it's necessary but no amount of beating is going to make her hurt less inside. :)hope some of this helps.

the UK police not carrying guns is actually no longer true. due to the world we live in today and the recent attacks, they now carry. its been maybe 1-2 years since that began

there is a problem with spanking let me show you
I am the child I do something. I fear spanking. If I don't get spanking I have no idea how much it would hurt
Are you with me?

Then we start spanking. The child experiences that, and thinks "Oh is that what it was?" so he has no fear so you continue. The punishment has lost its effect. Then you take it one notch up then what happens child gets used to higher level of pain. Gradually the level gets so high it becomes abuse. Yet if the treat was left there with the unknown undiscovered it would have had a better chance of success.

MOS 0385 H & S 3/7 80-83

so i should thank my dad for my great fighting career? joking, i know, uncalled ofr but eh but on a serious note, i hope the TS can get the help and guidance she needs