I was talking to one of my college buddies' Dad once. He asked me how I was doing, if I was seeing anyone. I told him no, but I was still going out. He asked where I went. I said clubs and bars. His response stuck in my mind.

"Oh you'll never meet a good person in a bar. If they were a good person, they wouldn't be hanging in a bar in the first place."

Now I'll still go to a club every now and then. But ideally, I keep hoping I'll meet someone at the coffee house. (don't like to drink that much) And I see posts in here telling people all the time of other places to find someone (church, fun runs, library, mall, park). So my question for this room is:

Where do you go, hoping to meet someone?

<--- As stated before, coffee house

You know, everybody put's down the bar scene. It is a place to meet ppl and be social. I've been in two LTR with men I've met in bar's. One lasted six yr's. and the other, thirteen yr's. You can't really go specifically looking for someone. But, if you're out with friend's having a fun time, you may well be likely to meet someone for you. If you want to meet somebody, you have to be out in the public eye for period's of time. A person has to have the time to get up the nerve to talk to you. And, it's a fun way to flirt, part of the dating expierence.

Hummm...when you went to the bars and clubs, where you not a good person too then? Just another thought...I know two slutty alcoholics that hang out at coffee houses too. I don't hang at bars either, just sayin'.

I think a good way to meet people would be to go somewhere you enjoy...for example, if you like reading, then go to the library...if you like sports, a sporting event. If you meet someone somewhere that you enjoy then chances are you will hit it off because you already have something in common.

Well, you go to JUST SAY HI!!!

Good point.

About a month after I moved to my current location, a friend (who lives nearby) informed me that the only ways to meet people here are in a bar or in a church.

Neither is a suitable option for me, so I decided to try some new dating sites. I had tried on line dating before, with catastrophic results, but I figured several years had elapsed and maybe things would be different.

They aren't.

The people I want to get to know are not using dating sites.

In the end, I realized that, with few exceptions, everyone I've been involved with has been someone I met through a friend. It's a little more difficult now, because most of my old single friends with single friends from 10 years ago are all married and have 2.4 kids, and all of their formerly-single friends are also married with 2.4 kids.

But there are people slipping through the "cracks." I've met a few new ones, and I'm fortunate enough to have a couple of amiable busybodies in my life, who won't hesitate to give my number to a seemingly suitable prospect.

There's a lot of good thoughts coming in here, but I'm not asking for advice. I'm asking for a personal preference. We all always have our eyes open for something new, at least we should. But I'm just saying, your sitting around going "I"m going to meet someone new this evening." Where do you as a person want to go?

(for example) <~~~~ Bowling (I think I might actually do that tonight)

Man I've reached 38 years, and not once has a friend introduced me to anyone. I don't think my friends know any women.

I don't have anybody to hang with. My only friend's are from work. Everybody has their own live's going on so, it's hard to make real friend's on the outside of work. I went to a bar I've shot pool at(with now ex bf) by myself. Haven't done that in a few yr's. It was NO FUN.

Well I have a few words to say about this. For women like me the only place 4 me to go is these dating sites why u ask ok I will tell u I am a plus size woman and men just don't walk up to a plus size woman and ask her out. So where do I go? Dating sites is where I go a place where guys come to u just 2 say hi.

Well I have a few words to say about this. For women like me the only place 4 me to go is these dating sites why u ask ok I will tell u I am a plus size woman and men just don't walk up to a plus size woman and ask her out. So where do I go? Dating sites is where I go a place where guys come to u just 2 say hi.

if you're huntin'..go where the game is
in this case..maybe supermarkets,malls,laundramats ect..

I don't know, if a man is showing some intrest while your being goofy with the kids, you might ask for his number!!

I tried flirting with a bowling Mom once, she was really flattered and still married. She was a lefty and took her ring off oops...

Ohhh! I never go out looking. A guy has to hit me in the head usually cause I'm not even paying attention. I would not discount being knocked in the noggin just about anywhere though, since I feel there are good people everywhere. I don't assume someone is a bar fly because I meet them at one...but I might watch their drinking habits for a while before getting serious...but that's with anyone.

I haven't been to Colorado in three years. You want to go to Denver and shoot some pool over at Pinky's on Leedsdale?

wherever i go...driving to work, stopping for coffe, grocery store, dollar store (lol), hairdresser, school function, school board mtng, comm center...endless list...i always think i'll just run into "the one"...i talk to everyone i see, at least a hello how are you...i'm a pessimist by nature...but when it comes to looking for love...i'm an optimist and assume he's right around the next corner, aisle or left turn lane...good luck in your search god knows we need it

Sound's good! But, I won't be losing on purpose. I don't go out by myself to shoot hence, haven't been doing so at all.

I don't think bars/clubs are necessarily a bad place to meet people but be cautious. I rarely go out but if I see the same person there EVERY time I am there, then that is a red flag for me.

yes they do all the time...the only reason i'm on here is because i'm a mom who only dates when all 3 children have plans at the same time...rarely ever happens...hell i'd be happy to just be plus-sized...but i have confidence and it draws men like flies to sh*t...as soon as you fally madly in love w/yourself...the rest will follow