Topic: can you help me?
CleanBathroom's photo
Wed 04/23/08 08:50 AM
If you want him that badly, I can teach you something that I know he'll like. devil

KIDDING glasses flowerforyou

Sounds like some bad mugumbo there. Run, don't walk.

docburneraz's photo
Wed 04/23/08 08:51 AM
Damn sunnysad

Drivinmenutz's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:14 PM

sad ok here is the thing i have started to fall head over heals for a guy but he has a girlfriend and i really dont want to break them up and be that mean Whichgrumble if you know what i mean i just dont know what to do the more i talk to him the more i fall for him. please help!:cry:


look, survival of the fittist:wink: Ok seriously, the whole girlfriend boyfriend thing, if he is more attracted to you than her than you would be doing both of them a favor by going after him. Better he leave her now than after they get married. That's what courtship is for hun.flowerforyou

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Wed 04/23/08 05:19 PM


sad ok here is the thing i have started to fall head over heals for a guy but he has a girlfriend and i really dont want to break them up and be that mean Whichgrumble if you know what i mean i just dont know what to do the more i talk to him the more i fall for him. please help!:cry:


look, survival of the fittist:wink: Ok seriously, the whole girlfriend boyfriend thing, if he is more attracted to you than her than you would be doing both of them a favor by going after him. Better he leave her now than after they get married. That's what courtship is for hun.flowerforyou


And if she TAKES him from her..he'll do the same thing to HER later....

Drivinmenutz's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:39 PM
Edited by Drivinmenutz on Wed 04/23/08 05:40 PM
look, im not implying that she have him cheat or anything. But why stay with someone if you would be happier with someone else? This is what i am merely saying. Drop a few hints, see how he responds. The wonderful thing about guys is you can be more direct with them too. If he responds positively and acts interested you can confront himto some degree. Him leaving is GF for her will not mean that he is a bad person that follows his pecker everywhere it points him. I will admit though, i never took into any consideration how long he and his GF were together. If you are breaking up a very long term relationship i would urge you to stay out of it. But if it's only been going on a few months, than there is nothing wrong with seeing if there is something there. It's courtship. It goes through phases. Boyfriend/girlfriend stage is a bit of a trial. it has to prove itself over time. Engagement and marriage are totally different of course. Also, when you are in a relationship for over a year or longer that kinda falls under pretty much the same catagory as engagement.

And oh yeah, there is no "taking" people away from their relationship. It's a voluntary process. Even guys have free will ya knowflowerforyou :wink: :smile:

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Wed 04/23/08 05:45 PM
Try this. Tell him you are interested and if he is ever free (which he isn't) then look you up! It's morally and ethically wrong to get into a relationship without getting out of one...:cry:

Lily0923's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:46 PM

look, im not implying that she have him cheat or anything. But why stay with someone if you would be happier with someone else? This is what i am merely saying. Drop a few hints, see how he responds. The wonderful thing about guys is you can be more direct with them too. If he responds positively and acts interested you can confront himto some degree. Him leaving is GF for her will not mean that he is a bad person that follows his pecker everywhere it points him. I will admit though, i never took into any consideration how long he and his GF were together. If you are breaking up a very long term relationship i would urge you to stay out of it. But if it's only been going on a few months, than there is nothing wrong with seeing if there is something there. It's courtship. It goes through phases. Boyfriend/girlfriend stage is a bit of a trial. it has to prove itself over time. Engagement and marriage are totally different of course. Also, when you are in a relationship for over a year or longer that kinda falls under pretty much the same catagory as engagement.

And oh yeah, there is no "taking" people away from their relationship. It's a voluntary process. Even guys have free will ya knowflowerforyou :wink: :smile:


You're right they do, but if she does what you say, and he leaves FOR HER.... He very well will leave for someone else later. It's more of a character thing than a free will thing.. I would have no respect for someone who did that TO ME or FOR ME.

Let nature take it's course...after he is out of the relationship...then talk to him.

Drivinmenutz's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:48 PM

Try this. Tell him you are interested and if he is ever free (which he isn't) then look you up! It's morally and ethically wrong to get into a relationship without getting out of one...:cry:


kinda what im trying to say...flowerforyou

Drivinmenutz's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:49 PM


look, im not implying that she have him cheat or anything. But why stay with someone if you would be happier with someone else? This is what i am merely saying. Drop a few hints, see how he responds. The wonderful thing about guys is you can be more direct with them too. If he responds positively and acts interested you can confront himto some degree. Him leaving is GF for her will not mean that he is a bad person that follows his pecker everywhere it points him. I will admit though, i never took into any consideration how long he and his GF were together. If you are breaking up a very long term relationship i would urge you to stay out of it. But if it's only been going on a few months, than there is nothing wrong with seeing if there is something there. It's courtship. It goes through phases. Boyfriend/girlfriend stage is a bit of a trial. it has to prove itself over time. Engagement and marriage are totally different of course. Also, when you are in a relationship for over a year or longer that kinda falls under pretty much the same catagory as engagement.

And oh yeah, there is no "taking" people away from their relationship. It's a voluntary process. Even guys have free will ya knowflowerforyou :wink: :smile:


You're right they do, but if she does what you say, and he leaves FOR HER.... He very well will leave for someone else later. It's more of a character thing than a free will thing.. I would have no respect for someone who did that TO ME or FOR ME.

Let nature take it's course...after he is out of the relationship...then talk to him.


i do see your point, dont get me wrong...flowerforyou

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:52 PM
What goes around comes around. If you act on your crush and mess up some other person's happiness someone will come along and mess up yours.

shoesmonkey's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:54 PM
Go find your own puppy!

hikerchick's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:54 PM

If you want him that badly, I can teach you something that I know he'll like. devil

KIDDING glasses flowerforyou

Sounds like some bad mugumbo there. Run, don't walk.


teach me, teach me!!!!!!!

Drivinmenutz's photo
Wed 04/23/08 05:55 PM

Go find your own puppy!


laugh

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Wed 04/23/08 06:07 PM
If there is an established relationship, that is enough to tell you he is off limits to you, unless they BOTH agree otherwise. Otherwise, it is lying and cheating. If he wants you that bad, he'll get consent from her or break up with her before getting involved with you if he is honorable and worth your time and effort.

AdventurousOne's photo
Wed 04/23/08 06:59 PM

If there is an established relationship, that is enough to tell you he is off limits to you, unless they BOTH agree otherwise. Otherwise, it is lying and cheating. If he wants you that bad, he'll get consent from her or break up with her before getting involved with you if he is honorable and worth your time and effort.


I definitely agree with you!!! drinker Now just have to ask...what you think the percentage chances are to find a guy that is "honorable" as you mention? (serious question..absolutely no bad intended nor implied) flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

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Wed 04/23/08 07:48 PM
I have no idea, All I have is Faith.

AdventurousOne's photo
Wed 04/23/08 07:51 PM

I have no idea, All I have is Faith.


LOL..ok just askin. Yeh Faith is cute and Hope's not too bad either. bigsmile drinker flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

Brenda_Darling's photo
Wed 04/23/08 07:55 PM

sad ok here is the thing i have started to fall head over heals for a guy but he has a girlfriend and i really dont want to break them up and be that mean Whichgrumble if you know what i mean i just dont know what to do the more i talk to him the more i fall for him. please help!:cry:


Dont do it...back away slowly.

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Wed 04/23/08 07:57 PM


I have no idea, All I have is Faith.


LOL..ok just askin. Yeh Faith is cute and Hope's not too bad either. bigsmile drinker flowerforyou flowerforyou flowerforyou

flowerforyou

rebel_woman07's photo
Thu 04/24/08 09:11 AM

look, im not implying that she have him cheat or anything. But why stay with someone if you would be happier with someone else? This is what i am merely saying. Drop a few hints, see how he responds. The wonderful thing about guys is you can be more direct with them too. If he responds positively and acts interested you can confront himto some degree. Him leaving is GF for her will not mean that he is a bad person that follows his pecker everywhere it points him. I will admit though, i never took into any consideration how long he and his GF were together. If you are breaking up a very long term relationship i would urge you to stay out of it. But if it's only been going on a few months, than there is nothing wrong with seeing if there is something there. It's courtship. It goes through phases. Boyfriend/girlfriend stage is a bit of a trial. it has to prove itself over time. Engagement and marriage are totally different of course. Also, when you are in a relationship for over a year or longer that kinda falls under pretty much the same catagory as engagement.

And oh yeah, there is no "taking" people away from their relationship. It's a voluntary process. Even guys have free will ya knowflowerforyou :wink: :smile:


thank you hunn