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wow-eligee---i've read the whole story----i do hope all will be done and good--prayer being sent for your child--
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LG, if this were my daughter I would be all over this and up the a$s of every authority figure you encounter. Something is wrong, and it seems obvious that your daughter is in extreme danger. No child suffers so many severe bruises from ordinary play and clumsiness, unless they are regularly falling down flights of stairs. I am very concerned for your little girl. You need to get her out of there, at least for the time being. Find out what is going on and then decide where she is safest. Don't wait until an injury turns fatal. Better to be safe then sorry. You are her mother and you have every right to know what is happening to your little girl. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. She trusts you to protect her, so do it with every ounce of your being. Call for a welfare check everyday, show up at the school to look for new injuries everyday, ask the school to call in EVERY little infarction they come across. Something is not right and this little girl is in danger. Hell, I'd even hide outside their windows and spy on the scene when it comes to my kids wellbeing.
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Good Luck Eligee, hope things are working out for you and your daughter... what a mess...
Glad my EX wasn't around much.... |
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Edited by
ellgee1976
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Sun 04/27/08 01:34 PM
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LG, if this were my daughter I would be all over this and up the a$s of every authority figure you encounter. Something is wrong, and it seems obvious that your daughter is in extreme danger. No child suffers so many severe bruises from ordinary play and clumsiness, unless they are regularly falling down flights of stairs. I am very concerned for your little girl. You need to get her out of there, at least for the time being. Find out what is going on and then decide where she is safest. Don't wait until an injury turns fatal. Better to be safe then sorry. You are her mother and you have every right to know what is happening to your little girl. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. She trusts you to protect her, so do it with every ounce of your being. Call for a welfare check everyday, show up at the school to look for new injuries everyday, ask the school to call in EVERY little infarction they come across. Something is not right and this little girl is in danger. Hell, I'd even hide outside their windows and spy on the scene when it comes to my kids wellbeing. lily, thanx for your concern, however, i am doing everything i can legally do, the best thing i can do is to stay on the right side of the law in this. the school is documenting everything, every new bruise, even if it comes from falling down on the playground. as of right now, she's in SRS custody, in placement with her father. Cassie (the girl that did this to her) is out of the house, not allowed back under ANY circumstances. it's a sick game, but it's a game of waiting and patience....lots of patience again, thank you lily and shadowdog and everyone else |
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Ohhh girl I hate that she is with SRS and not with you but....better there then around where it happen. Poor baby. Prayers are with you girl as well as my heart.
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Ohhh girl I hate that she is with SRS and not with you but....better there then around where it happen. Poor baby. Prayers are with you girl as well as my heart.
she still lives at her dad's house, she's officially in SRS custody, but placed with her dad, ONLY cuz Cassie has been removed from the house...so, the only peole at my daughter's house, is her father, his gf, Karen, her son Lance, and Cassie's baby Erica, and their cats and dogs she's not WITH SRS, she's WITH her father |
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you need to call your lawyer..ASAP..and document everything...what time you called the ex what he said....that way when u go back to court you have documentation...even when u see your daughter,and notice brusing. I hope everything works out for you.
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you need to call your lawyer..ASAP..and document everything...what time you called the ex what he said....that way when u go back to court you have documentation...even when u see your daughter,and notice brusing. I hope everything works out for you.
am, and witnesses to everything thank you |
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Well i finally got the time to read everything now that the kids went to bed and i am very sorry about what happened and my thoughts and prayers are with ya that everything turns out for the best
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wtf
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Well i finally got the time to read everything now that the kids went to bed and i am very sorry about what happened and my thoughts and prayers are with ya that everything turns out for the best
thank you |
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Hey, LG, my dear friend! Glad to hear the psychopath is out of the house. You are a much better person than me, LG, in your patience and fortitude. I am afraid my temper would probably get the best of me, and I would do something I would later regret. I am proud of you for taking the right steps and hope and pray all goes well for you and your baby. Bless you both!
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LG....I don't know where you live but it must have one seriously screwed up legal system. For starters, you have EVERY right to know the details of this "investigation" since you are the child's parent. Anyone telling you otherwise should be tried for negligence. This SRS department should have removed your daughter from that house immediately and placed her with you. If all this had happened in Texas you would already have sole custody of her and the father would have nothing but child support payments and supervised visitation. What you are going through is ridiculous.
Next time your daughter is with you.....keep her. You said yourself that the custody question is just a matter of interpretation. Sounds to me like your ex-husband is working on borrowed time anyway. Keep the kiddo and dare him to try and take her. Betcha' he will lose. |
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Lawyer....
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There's a lot more to this story not being told. Like why don't you have her? The mother usually gets the kid. The options that you have depend on the reason you don't have your daughter. I know you said you don't have a job, but you don't get your kid taken away just because you don't have a job. There are lots of options and help for single mothers. I'm not attacking you or anything; I'm just saying there's more to the story. We need all the information to give correct advice. if you read the post...it says...they have joined custody...but he's keeping the girl away...not a legal desicion...that's dad's doing... |
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and ellgee...
put up a fight...if i knew my child was hurt, i'd move heaven and hell to get something done... |
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Hey, LG, my dear friend! Glad to hear the psychopath is out of the house. You are a much better person than me, LG, in your patience and fortitude. I am afraid my temper would probably get the best of me, and I would do something I would later regret. I am proud of you for taking the right steps and hope and pray all goes well for you and your baby. Bless you both!
thanx lily, it's tough, but i have to stay on the right side of the law with this, that way if something else happens, she'll go straight to me, and he'll have the supervised visitation, and she'll be safe, period. |
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agree with kristy. i, for one, would not be sitting in a bar waiting on a phone call if my child were at a police station. in florida, for a dad to get custody he just about has to walk on water.
the first concern is for the child. if she were mine, i would not rest until i knew all the facts, had a plan in place for her to stay in a safe and healthy environment and got child welfare services involved. |
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Edited by
ellgee1976
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Thu 05/01/08 08:29 PM
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For starters, you have EVERY right to know the details of this "investigation" since you are the child's parent. right, and again, once they saw the divorce papers, i got the answers i needed, in order to protect the privacy of my daughter, they needed to see proof that i have joint and shared custody. i personally wouldn't want just anyone walkin in and askin about my daughter, and then have their questions answered. This SRS department should have removed your daughter from that house immediately and placed her with you. why in the world would i want to competely turn my daughter's life upside down, when SRS forced this Cassie girl to leave my daughter's home? the way the law works, in ALL of USA, is that an issue has to happen before anything can be done, you're not gonna sue someone unless they've done something, right? my daughter is safe in her father's home, so far, if that proves to be unsafe, she WILL move in with me full time..until some issue happens, again, she's going to live her normal life, the same way she has for 3 yrs now. If all this had happened in Texas you would already have sole custody of her and the father would have nothing but child support payments and supervised visitation. What you are going through is ridiculous.
all im going thru is almost equal to what her father is going thru, he has guilt of knowing HE brought this girl into my daughter's life, not to imply he knew it was happening, or that he's guilty, this could happen to anyone with kids. Next time your daughter is with you.....keep her. You said yourself that the custody question is just a matter of interpretation. Sounds to me like your ex-husband is working on borrowed time anyway. Keep the kiddo and dare him to try and take her. Betcha' he will lose.
with him having residential custody, that wouldn't hold water at all...understand..our divorce papers read "7:30am-7:30pm on days as agreed upon mutually" you tell me what that means to you? means regarless, he has her from 7:30pm till morning as much as i appreciate your concern, i have to stay on the right side of the law...just incase |
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agree with kristy. i, for one, would not be sitting in a bar waiting on a phone call if my child were at a police station. read the first post again, i was told to STAY PUT. so i did...those of you that STILL don't understand...i live in a town of maybe 2,000 people, everyone knows everyone, and on a Tuesday night, at the only bar in town, it's DEAD, there were literally about 8 people in the bar that night, that includes the bartender.... the first concern is for the child. if she were mine, i would not rest until i knew all the facts, had a plan in place for her to stay in a safe and healthy environment and got child welfare services involved. good thing she's not your's then, cuz i have all the facts, i have a plan in place for her to stay in a safe and healthy environment, SRS is child welfare services, they're involved, and im still not resting well knowing this has happened to my daugher. it's been 3 weeks since this happened to my daughter, and i still wake up crying, cuz i picture the bruises on her butt, and what she must have gone thru, how she prolly felt while it was happening, her fear, and her sadness. so please don't try to imply negative things about me, or how im handling this, i have to try to continue thinking logical about this, consider all the options, and do whats best for my daughter, let alone my other 2 kids. if i were to let my emotions control my actions, i'd have beat the daylights out of Cassie, the minute she and i were in the same room, i'd have nailed my x hubs in the balls for bringing this girl into my daughter's life, and then again for not allowing me to see her for 2 week prior to this...however, exactly where would that get my kids? without a mom? do i really want that? the answer is no |
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