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Edited by
nurjoyce
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Sun 04/13/08 09:37 PM
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On another site- I was IMing a guy, single dad of a 6 year old daughter. Sounded nice, then he said he was moving that he was helping his daughter's mother out, but now can be on his own.
I said- "so you are currently living with your ex?" He stated she was not his ex- an old best friend that he made a mistake with and now will always be there for her. I said- "whoa, always be there?? emotional or support with $$?" He stated both because she has a multiple personality disorder. So I told him- We are not a match....... He then started to tell me I was shallow because I was giving up the most amazing man I would ever meet and how all his friends tell him how outstanding he is. When I said great, but I would be happy to be a friend, but we are not a match. He went into this feel sorry for me thing and told me about how he worked since he was 12 etc... have I ever been lit on fire. I said...lit on fire no, but sexually abused, attempted murder- yeah. Most of us do overcome tramatic struggles. So Mister Amazing called me a waste of time. Was I wrong? Heartless? I never understood when someone said do not have baggage...I thought we all had baggage...but geezzzz |
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Not at all,,,, I think you did the right thing
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Edited by
Moondark
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Sun 04/13/08 09:39 PM
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On another site- I was IMing a guy, single dad of a 6 year old daughter. Sounded nice, then he said he was moving that he was helping his daughter's mother out, but now can be on his own. I said- "so you are currently living with your ex?" He stated she was not his ex- an old best friend that he made a mistake with and now will always be there for her. I said- "whoa, always be there?? emotional or support with $$?" He stated both because she has a multiple personality disorder. So I told him- We are not a match....... He then started to tell me I was shallow because I was giving up the most amazing man I would ever meet and how all his friends tell him how outstanding he is. When I said great, but I would be happy to be a friend, but we are not a match. He went into this feel sorry for me thing and told me about how he worked since he was 12 etc... have I ever been lit on fire. I said...lit on fire no, but sexually abused, attempted murder- yeah. Most of us do overcome tramatic struggles. So Mister Amazing called me a waste of time. Was I wrong? Heartless? I never understood when someone said do not have baggage...I thought we all had baggage...but geezzzz Yep. Better off. Dated a guy for a while that was kinda similar. He didn't live with her, but he would drop everything and anything if she needed help with anything. Talk about time to cut the apron strings with the ex's. Should never have to play second fiddle to an ex. |
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I dont think me and my friends have ever gone around saying how outstanding each other are, thats kind of gay. hes a fruit and a nutjob. the end.
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well you dont ned to waste your time on him and if he didnt want to be your friend it is his lost!!!!!!!!!
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dont sweat it... at least all of this come out now, instead of later.
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no your good on that one... that could just turn out to be a mess for you i mean why would you want to walk into that???
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Hell No! You Did What Needed to be Done. Good for You 
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Very Scary...
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I dont think me and my friends have ever gone around saying how outstanding each other are, thats kind of gay. hes a fruit and a nutjob. the end. yeah im on board with this dude |
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On another site- I was IMing a guy, single dad of a 6 year old daughter. Sounded nice, then he said he was moving that he was helping his daughter's mother out, but now can be on his own. I said- "so you are currently living with your ex?" He stated she was not his ex- an old best friend that he made a mistake with and now will always be there for her. I said- "whoa, always be there?? emotional or support with $$?" He stated both because she has a multiple personality disorder. So I told him- We are not a match....... He then started to tell me I was shallow because I was giving up the most amazing man I would ever meet and how all his friends tell him how outstanding he is. When I said great, but I would be happy to be a friend, but we are not a match. He went into this feel sorry for me thing and told me about how he worked since he was 12 etc... have I ever been lit on fire. I said...lit on fire no, but sexually abused, attempted murder- yeah. Most of us do overcome tramatic struggles. So Mister Amazing called me a waste of time. Was I wrong? Heartless? I never understood when someone said do not have baggage...I thought we all had baggage...but geezzzz Yep. Better off. Dated a guy for a while that was kinda similar. He didn't live with her, but he would drop everything and anything if she needed help with anything. Talk about time to cut the apron strings with the ex's. that is what I said. I have been in a similar situation. He said no I did not understand his situation. I said the key word is similar, that I know I could not say exact. OMG--- |
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well you dont ned to waste your time on him and if he didnt want to be your friend it is his lost!!!!!!!!! awe- 
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red flag... run fast
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dont sweat it... at least all of this come out now, instead of later. yes- I am glad just sometimes makes you think because he stated I had no compassion. I said I dedicate my life to compassion- I am a nurse! for 25 years so far |
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ditto here I think you did the right thing
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Yeah funny, apparently these kinda people are a dime a dozen... lol
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That is not lack of compassion; that is self-preservation. You had every right. And I don't know of a single person over 30 who doesn't have SOME kind of baggage (although some more than others).
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Joyce, just let him tell his story, WALKING.
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Joyce, just let him tell his story, WALKING. thank you sweetie- |
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 YOU LET HIM GO,,,,OMG...Joyce..
He would have been such a great MATCH for his EX....lol...lol..lol 
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