Hey (((((Hiker))))). Did you mean "check me"? I don't think guys are "supposed" to pay. I think if they are happy and willing to pay for the first date, it's indicative of their character. I mostly took issue with his statement that if the lady expects the guy to pay, she's a gold-digger.

And, as much as you'd like to deny it, you are a lady to me You are a woman of integrity, among other fabulous attributes (sorry - don't mean to tarnish your image ).

Now, get your butt back to work, young lady!!!!

Yes, it sounds like a ridiculous question, but honestly, I'm clueless. I went from a 3-year relationship with someone who started out as a good friend, straight into a 4.5-year relationship with someone who I thought was my best friend... who subsequently cheated on me numerous times. Never married... and never really 'dated'!

And now I find myself feeling empowered to be single, and clueless at the same time. I look upon women who meet lots of people & go out on numerous dates with both admiration & envy. How do I become one of them?

Hi sweetie. I am on question #2 out of 5 (including a three part one) and it's due at midnight and yet I feel the need to check on you..

I never understood why guys were supposed to pay, honestly. I guess I am no lady.

Plus I never go on dates, so....


The way I read the statement was to "never pay."

So I guess I would ask, does that mean never as in never ever throughout all the time "they" date. Yes that's gold digging. I know as a gentleman that usually the man will pay especially on the first date. Even furtherly if he asks her out. If it goes the other way, well then who asks should pay but to say never. That's gold digging.

After the first one to three dates, she should want to pay for something.

Hiker, Baby, what's up? This is a touchy thread. I don't like these based on my life experiences. Let's just go out and have some fun. I know you roll like that.

Any real gentleman would be honored to pay for his first date with a woman. Anyone who argues that needs a reality check.

I don't expect the guy to pay for the first date, but there won't be a second one where I will pay if he doesn't.

It's a test of character on my part.

That is all wrong. Why would you say that. I dated a Gold Digger and she never offered to pay either. Are you looking for someone to take care of you? Are you a user. This is modern society. What is see is a one way sign.

Any real gentleman would be honored to pay for his first date with a woman. Anyone who argues that needs a reality check.

Yes, it sounds like a ridiculous question, but honestly, I'm clueless. I went from a 3-year relationship with someone who started out as a good friend, straight into a 4.5-year relationship with someone who I thought was my best friend... who subsequently cheated on me numerous times. Never married... and never really 'dated'!

And now I find myself feeling empowered to be single, and clueless at the same time. I look upon women who meet lots of people & go out on numerous dates with both admiration & envy. How do I become one of them?

datin' is kinda like fishin'..put a little bait on the hook,throw your line in the water..throw the little ones back,cut the line if its an eel,mount the big ones

Dont be fooled, it's not the quantity of men, it's the quality of men