I gather from some of the posts here that this used to be called something else (back in '06?), but regardless of the name, it's great to have a place to meet people that isn't trying to extort money out of relationships. I have checked out other websites (pay and non-pay) and have gotten "duped" by one (lots of phishing); I have also tried brick-and-mortar dating services and have been matched up with all sorts of goofballs. I guess being realistic is the key to success - if you act mature and just "go with the flow" (not expecting too much too soon) then your chances of having a quality relationship increase. I don't know much about chemistry or love or mutual attraction because I've been avoiding all that, but I'd like to think I could be the old dog that gets taught a new trick
("old" being a relative term, of course). A positive attitude and a hopeful heart is all I have to offer at the moment - fame and fortune will eventually follow (aided by exposure on this website).
Good luck to all you daters and lovers.

Your comments are interesting - in this day and age, the first reaction to "I've made it to age 45 without engaging in meaningless sex" is "I don't believe you." Are we so wrapped up in satisfying our own physical urges that we are incapable of exhibiting self-restraint? Or has it just become so acceptable to latch on to whoever we can talk into bed that casual sex is normal and virginity isn't? I will concede that I wouldn't call myself "normal" in the context of having healthy relationships, but I would also add that my standards for being comfortable enough to be intimate with someone probably don't match most other people's. I'm not saying that I consider myself "unique" either; I'm sure there are other men who haven't had sex by the time they turn 45. I just wonder if it's considered "scary" or "screwed-up" to still be inexperienced at that age. Thanks for taking the tie to reply, everyone.

I am 45 years old, and have never slept with anyone. I don't feel desperate, needy, like I'm missing a part of me, or like there's something "wrong" with me. I have an active imagination, and have no problem with the physical aspects of arousal. Am I the only one?