I am 45 years old, and have never slept with anyone. I don't feel desperate, needy, like I'm missing a part of me, or like there's something "wrong" with me. I have an active imagination, and have no problem with the physical aspects of arousal. Am I the only one?

At 45????????? At the least, Id say you are an extreme rarity. I have to wonder, are you a boy who doesn't know how to SHARE his "toy's"?

I think they made a movie about you a few years back. Actually, that might be one of the coolest things I've heard. Are you saving yourself for marriage or haven't you met that special someone? Or do you have no interest all together.

I have so many questions.

Me too. Or could he possibly be pulling our collective legs?

We have been had!

You think so too, Shoes?

His profile says he's old-fashioned, so maybe he's one of those people who doesn't believe in screwing every woman he dates? Hmmm, what a good idea.

yes

Nope, I'm 24 and don't have sex...I've had sex of course, but really, you're not missing much that your mind can't substitute.

This is a joke, it has to be.

Your comments are interesting - in this day and age, the first reaction to "I've made it to age 45 without engaging in meaningless sex" is "I don't believe you." Are we so wrapped up in satisfying our own physical urges that we are incapable of exhibiting self-restraint? Or has it just become so acceptable to latch on to whoever we can talk into bed that casual sex is normal and virginity isn't? I will concede that I wouldn't call myself "normal" in the context of having healthy relationships, but I would also add that my standards for being comfortable enough to be intimate with someone probably don't match most other people's. I'm not saying that I consider myself "unique" either; I'm sure there are other men who haven't had sex by the time they turn 45. I just wonder if it's considered "scary" or "screwed-up" to still be inexperienced at that age. Thanks for taking the tie to reply, everyone.

Never to late to start..


start turning em out

I don't think it's scary or screwed up

To each his own

But I don't wanna be with a man at that age who has no good

Hard core experience


Jmo. Jmo. Jmo. Jmo

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin at 45 for you...

Does not mean that those of us who are not still virgins in our 40's are

wrapped up in satisfying our physical urges and are incapable of exhibiting

self control. And all of the sex some have had is not meaningless...

I think it's sad you have not had the kind of love in your 45 years

that comes with sharing the experience of making love to another.

I agree, I've had a lot of very meaningful sex.

It is very sad that you've not experienced that joy. The vast majority of people do not wait as long as you have. You seem quite defensive, why are you waiting so long? Has to gone on to the point where you avoid relationships or intimacy or what?

Well, as Ladylid2012 said above...potentially sad you haven't experienced meaningful sex. But looking back at your original post...you don't seem bothered by the lack of sexual experience...more by whether that makes you abnormal. Who knows? Probably a question best put to a professional...a therapist...rather than our opinions based on our experiences, which, however valid for us are mostly irrelevant experiences for you. Good luck...and seek happiness...by your definition.