The mixed and derogatory responses you’ve encountered reflect a common and complex social contradiction around women’s sexuality. Many men promote or expect openness and freedom in sexual expression, yet when women exercise that agency, they may face harsh judgment, slut-shaming, or “gaalis” (insults). This double standard is rooted in deep-seated cultural norms, gender stereotypes, and power dynamics.

Women’s sexual agency is often policed to maintain traditional notions of “respectability” and control over female bodies. When women challenge these norms by asserting their sexual freedom, it threatens those societal expectations and can provoke backlash. The contradiction reveals how society can promote sexual liberation rhetorically but still punish women for embodying it.