I totally agree with all the posts containing references to why a "good" man has become "not-so-good".

There are a lot of good men out here that have been crushed emotionally by a past love, I'm one of them. And it does make us wary and stand-offish.

I'd like to add that I have read many profiles (haven't we all) on this site, as well as others, and have been so surprised by some of the "pie-in-the-sky" desires women seem to have. They place the bar at a level so high that it's not likely to ever be met.

Some examples:
(1) I'm 5'0" and want a man 6'2"... what's wrong with the guy that's 5'5"? After all, you're 5'0"... do you carry a stepladder around in your purse or something?

(2) I'm 40 years old looking for a man that's 35 - 42. What's wrong with the man that's 45? And I thought that men were the ones that were the "superficial" ones.

My overall summation...

Women "say" they're looking for that great guy who is loving, devoted, dependable, hard-working, romantic, passionate, affectionate, honest, etc, etc.... but what I have found is that they only "think" they want this type. They find him, date him, get to know him and then find out (like it was said before) that he's no fun. Why is he "not fun"? Because he spends his time being the man he is... he's working to provide for his family, he's at home watching a movie with you, he's working around the house... in short living up the the responsibilities that he knows are his as a husband, father and provider.

You can't have it all ladies! It's okay to want it, and you can keep waiting for the "perfect" man to come along, but in all honesty, if that's what you're waiting for you might as well delete your profile and succumb to a life of being single.

Just my humble opinion.