I hear ya there don't get me wrong I don't care where they are from or how they look it just that they are still ther and unless someone is stinking rich there will never be more than this (phone call@most) so you would think they would go after someone closer to home.

Well I like a pretty girl...but I'd have to say the smile and eyes, appearance doesn't really attract me......lol, I know, I'm wierd

Hi Welcome to Mingle.

I get the vibe you are a nice person but your profile is going to send even a nice guy running for the hills.

Sounds like you have had a tough time and I think most have sympathy for that but you have to take a deep breath and re-group and take one step at a time.

First is accepting you are the norm for a Mom of two. Yes you have a few pounds but you do have a pretty face and I see glimmers of a personality in some of the interests you mention. Probably a real nice person. But you HAVE TO STOP THE STINKING THINKING and DELETE all the whining. You need to be HERE, NOW and FORWARD. You do have a CHOICE not to repeat mistakes.

Would help if you have to polish up a little, stand up look right into the camera and smile so nice people will get a happy vibe from you and hopefully return the same. You have pretty hair; shake it out and let it look feminine and soft. NO MOM Scrunchies, MOM clothes, baby junk in sight. Even if it is hotter than it ought to be NO FLIP FLOPS. Get pictures showing you doing hobbies and things a nice guy would like to do on a date. Go to the park and have a friend shoot up a bunch of pics in morning light while it is still cool and you will look fresh and rested. Get a full length shot in a skirt or dress that does NOT look like maternity anything.

I would have one, and only one, family photo on the second row of pictures since most people are very touchy about having kids on line. I know I think it is a little paranoid myself but a good guy is not going to mind if you are a little over protective. All they want to know is ages and genders to start anyway. The whole issue of heritage is something to deal with a little later on. I have kids of several creeds and colors but I don't bother to tell people who are not going to get past their own bigotry the details of which are adopted and which are mine because what happens before they come along is not their business anyway. If they have a hang up you will catch on before a few conversations. You can always read a guys posts for pretty clear idea of their opinions.

As far as trying to figure out the winners from the losers it is just a time thing and keeping your eyes open. Have a check list. Good guys have some of the same basic traits so you want a guy that you can build a future with look at his past and present and don't get in a rush to get to the future. See if his duckie's are in a row. Don't waste your time on someone who isn't squared away and forget fixing anybody but yourself. Keep your drawers up and make him treat you the way you would want someone to treat your daughter. Nobody gets a crystal ball to read the future but you have to play smart and keep track of what you are told and how he acts. Just like a guy should check out you.

Second is put looking for a Baby Daddy #3 on immediate hold for a while. You have the cart before the horse if you do anything more than say is this the quality of person I deserve in my life. If he is not good enough for you then why even consider if he is Daddy material? Yea it sucks being a single parent but it is not terminal for you or your kids and you can find friends you can use for peer support if you join any of a number of parents groups, a church, even some of the better volunteer organizations. You are running your own Daycare business maybe you ought to check out Jaycees or Small Business Administration classes or even Habitat; especially if you are not currently a home owner. You date from a position of strength and it will be much better.

Oh, so you have met Shallow Hal and his sister Shallow Gal.

Dang, looks like the brothers missed out this time.

Hahaha!

Her book collection.

The title of this thread is humorous, because some people ask for an honest answer but don't like it when they actually get an honest answer.

For example, suppose that a woman asks, "Does this dress make me look fat?" How would she react if she received this honest answer?