As a Christian, it isn't for me.
Sex outside of marriage goes against Christian principles.

The Mods actually do their work around here and will lock the topics for too much influx and fighting amongst members.

no its all in your head..lol

MaJayJay, just wait till the "holier than thou's" come in condemning anyone who is ok with the concept.



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Ummm....self sabotage would be you thinking he wasn't into you (or attracted to you) and thus you sabotage things even before you give it a shot. Just sayin....

I'm beneficial to all my friends.
I've never had a fwb.
It is an interesting concept.
I used to think it would be ideal...not so much any more.
I don't want sex with a friend. I want it with a partner.

*pulling out my lawn chair, microwaving popcorn, waiting to see how long till the topic gets locked*

How do you screw up a good friendship?...Having benefits with them....

sometimes a woman will think you are not interested in her romantically if something sexual does not happen, she will think she's been "friend - zoned"

(though I can think of worse places to be - the "zone" = usually a death knell to romance) FYI

Exactly and that kind of mindset comes from people automatically associating sex with relationships. Which they are not entirely associated with one another, you can have either one without the other.

I want both, but then again if you have a great love, won't everything else be great too. I am not sex crazed but you know when you are in the beginning stages of getting to know someone and all you want to do is be with them in every sense of the word. I like being around him a lot, but I don't have that crazy sexual urge. I am curious, of course. Maybe I am just more mature than in previous relationships. I don't know. Does thatmake any sense?

Don't know specifically the context/direction of your statement, forgive me if I read it wrong. But no need to be scared that a good one will get away. Sex in itself is not needed to keep a good one, to keep the one that truly cares. If he/she truly cares for and or about you, they can and will wait with pleasure.

I would have sex with him and then treat him like garbage for the sake of it

Thanks, I am just scared that a good one will get away. Maybe the whole attraction thing is my self sabatoge. An excuse for it not to work.

I truly do apologize for that, don't mean my statements to come across so belittling or belittling at all. Again, I do apologize. My comments aren't specifically towards a person so to speak. Just words in response of words on a general note.

if your not attracted to him it wont last. he could be the sweetest guy in the world but if you do not feel anything for him it will most likely end badly. As someone suggested, tell him you'll go on a date with him. That evening really talk to him about what he wants , what he expects from a relationship, then at the end of the night kiss him. if theres no spark, sit him down and explain that you adore him as a friend, but thats as far as you could ever see yourself going. you dont want to corrupt your friendship by dating and it ending badly then never speaking again. However, you could say no now and there would always be this "what might have been" thought. better to know and try than go forever never knowing.

Hell of a thing isn't it...

Not saying that I've been perfect with this, but am proud or I guess happy to say I've only been with 2 women and plan to only make a third after marriage. The moreso correct way would be just purely through marriage, but unfortunately it's something I've already done and can't take it back lol.