What did you discover about yourself Gypsy?

If he broke it off with her, why would he care who she talked to, sit with, danced with? and why try to make her jealous?

I know that everyone is trying to "sale" theirselves to some degree. You are trying to impress the other person. But, not to the point that this guy went to.

Okay i have always heard that men like competition. Is that really true? I mean REALLY?

I know the thrill of the chase and so on. But, say you have already dated, you stop seeing each other (his call, only thing he will say is that "it just was not meant to be" ?) and then everytime you see him he is watching you, you can tell he is jealous. He tries to make you jealous. He is the one who ended it remember. wtf?

why is he jealous if he is the one who ended it?

If the girl flirts with other men (okay on purpose) is that going to make him compete for her or is it doing irrepairable damage?

I seem to meet guys who are of two categories:

1) One night stands
OR
2) They want to start an "exclusive" relationship right from the start.

What happened to just going out to dinner, a movie, etc. Just dating?

I just danced with a guy the other night and he became very intense very quickly and it was almost like a infomercial with him trying to sale hisself to me. Geesh.

As Madea would say "Hallaluyerr". LOL.

I can understand talking about past relationships to some degree. But how about a man telling you on the first encounter "I was raped when i was 12". To much information to quickly. I get this **** all the time. I am a very caring person, compassionate, understanding. This kind of information is shared with me by most of the men that I date. Do they do this with other women? Am i putting off a vibe or aura that these men feel compelled to tell me these things? Is it them or is it me?

Thank you for your thoughts and I understand where you are coming from. Okay,maybe not all of the guys do this, but at least 90% of them. Truthfully.

Exactly. ?????

Every guy that I date it seems like within the first hour we are together they are telling me all of their deep dark secrets. What happened to them as a child, how it hurt when they broke up or divorced their exes, etc. Am I putting off some kind of vibe that they are picking up on? Do I look like a therapist? I have been told that I come across as very nurturing and compassionate. But crap. I am very guarded about my life and it really confuses me that these men would be telling this stuff to a date. No, this does not get them sex. I am not being a *****, but please, lets get to know each other a little bit better before you start revealing your skeletons. What gives?

Yes. Definitely yes. Was married to the same man for 26 years until he passed away.

They both exists. I have experienced both.

Do you get more than one TRUE LOVE or soul mate in your lifetime?

I have learned that there are different levels of love. My husband of 26 years died and he was the love of my life. I have had a couple of relationships since his death 3 years ago and though I "loved" these two men, they could not even begin to compete with the level of love that I had for my husband (even when we first met 27 years go).

How many of you have dated a user (money, car, place to stay, etc) Please tell me they are not as common as I have heard.

Maybe I am wrong, but I personally think this is a revenge thing on her part (and he probably deserved it). She just screwed him before he screwed her. She has never had this much trouble getting him back before. She lied, cheated, kept her boyfriend, and he is absolutely broke. He has no where to go. It is a shame when you are to embarrassed for anyone to know that you are back with her and to ask for help even from family. It's like they cannot cut or hurt each other enough but yet crave each other and don't want the other one happy. Is that not the definition of insanity? To repeatedly do the same thing over and over and expecting a different result? He was back with her 4 days and texting me. So he must have figured out that nothing had changed. GOD knows I don't want him back and most of all the DRAMA. I received a text from her Sunday morning, asking if he had contacted me anymore, he had called her at 3 a.m. and sounded drunk. I have not seen or heard from him (thank GOD). For some reason she thinks that he is with me. OH NO. I did not reply, She must have found out where he was, because she is the type to call or text until she has her answer. For some reason though I feel that this is not over, What do yall think?

I have found out that the day I told him not to call me anymore, he went back to her. She screwed him on his income tax and will not give him any of the money, he is on the verge of having everything he has repossessed, she kept the boyfriend and now he is the new babysitter. I know that he was ashamed of going back to her and asked me not to tell anybody. Is this justice?

I recently dated a guy that was recently divorced. His ex and him apparently had had a 8 year marriage with one child and this was a stormy tumultuous ordeal. She divorced him was remarried and divorced again in a matter of 3 months. During this period is when we met. She wanted him back. He and her would have screaming matches over the phone and he would tell her "i am not coming back, I am never coming back". She started seeing someone else and I could tell this really bothered him. I could not take the drama. I broke it off with him and that very night he was back with her. He says that he is torn between the two of us. She is like a drug that he cannot get out of his system. He never had anything nice to say about her. ANYTHING. I spoke to her the day that he and I broke up and she said that all he said about me was nice. That he knew that he was not good enough for me, but he was good enough for her. He would make comments to her about me "At K's house we eat off of glass dishes- not paper plates: At K's house I don't have to listen to screaming kids", etc. She seems content to sit and wait on him to come back. The day after we broke up I spoke to him and he still wanted me to take him back. I have not spoken to him since and then today he started texting me again.
I did not reply. They don't seem to want one another but don't want the other one to have anybody else. ???????

He is the shy guy. My little brother is also shy and says that he just don't have it in him to approach a women. Paralyzed with fear.

Yes. It takes a while for someone to be a "true" friend though. And only after they have accomplished this do you let your guard down and let your true self (secrets,faults and all) come through. Its a self defense mechanism of sorts.