I seem to meet guys who are of two categories:

1) One night stands
OR
2) They want to start an "exclusive" relationship right from the start.

What happened to just going out to dinner, a movie, etc. Just dating?

I just danced with a guy the other night and he became very intense very quickly and it was almost like a infomercial with him trying to sale hisself to me. Geesh.

Consider yourself lucky.
I don't even get one night stands, but that's kinda my fault since I'm not really looking for one night stands.

The internet.

Ummm who knows not sure anyone knows what a real date is muchless dating anymore thanks to technology,,,heck it is near impossible to even get a conversation on the phone other than texting

Too many people are watching those uber-sappy romantic comedy movies and TV shows, where it's all about the melodrama and the "long-term relationship". That, and people are too anxious to get serious about something that they shouldn't be getting too anxious about.

Considering the way things are these days, isn't " selling himself " exactly what a man has to do??

Isn't that basically what dating, when it's stripped down to it's essence, all about??

A guy has to prove, in some way, that he is " worthy " of another date.

Some guys take it too far, or push a little too hard. But they are only doing what they feel they have to do.

I think it was the women's movement. We are all equal now. If you want to go on a date you should ask out the man you want to date and show him a good time.

looking for love in all the wrong places?

Funny thing about that movement...I figure about 5 out of every 100 women would actually do what you suggested.

The rest simply didn't " move " with the movement. Not only that, but they refuse to even consider doing so.

Should that stop men from treating women as equals?

I know that everyone is trying to "sale" theirselves to some degree. You are trying to impress the other person. But, not to the point that this guy went to.

It really sucks when they propose on the first date.

I prefer they do it on the 3rd date!!

One-night stands are the best way to peek into a person's soul and discover if you think they are the "ONE."

I highly suggest them.

Once you are out of school, there is less time for just hanging out with friends, fewer social opportunities, work and daily life responsibilities interfere with having fun and spending time on the most important things in life.

Time Management.

Men and Women get desperate. We want good sex, excitement,
friendship, love. We want the security of a special understanding.
We want to feel relaxed without pressure. There are a lot of conflicting needs. The solution is effective time management and the right attitude.

what happened to "just dating"? i think dating just for the sake of dating is kind of pointless. I wouldn't want to start a relationship right off the bat, i know that's scary, but i would only begin dating someone that i would potentially want to be in a relationship with. If your goal is "just dating", then you're going to get a lot more people just looking for one night stands. Typically, many people date just so they can find someone that they are sexually compatible with. unfortunately, consequences aren't even considered, but the short-term benefits are always the first thing that comes to mind. I've met and known women that only wanted to date for the sake of dating-to meet new people, they think that guys are just disposable and they just pick the one that's the next best thing to what they actually want. you have to wonder what's wrong with someone who just goes to movies and dinner with you and then nothing beyond that after a handful of dates. they should at least declare their intentions or want to know your life somewhat deeper than just the 2 hours they spent with you a couple times a week. if someone is trying to pick you up on the dance floor, well... that's what people do when they go to night clubs. don't go dancing if you don't like being hit on or people "selling themselves" to you. I wish i had a girl put that much interest in me while at the club, so far what i've run into are drunk ditzes with the personality of a block of wood. i don't know what else to say other than relax and see who comes along, that's all any of us can do

This problem seems to be a sign of the times. We have all the old problems of "you have to kiss a lot of frogs" combined with the reality of uncurable STDs.
As we get older the normal game playing makes less sense so there is a tendency to rush in ways that would have been unthinkable when we were young. I am not offering solutions, just contemplation. Talking some before a date seems to make more and more sense.

So, when you're selling yourself on a date, are you acting like yourself or someone you think your date will like?

op .....

You say "one night stand"...like it's a bad thing.......?????

Me?? I am who I am. Take it or leave it. lol

Then why are you worrying about proving yourself? Just be yourself.