Thank you for all the replies. Interesting to see how differently everyone interprets this issue. My husband is the one who more desperately wants children (my career allows me to work with children so although I do want my own family I'm in less of a rush). With regard to our sex life, I have tried all sorts to spice it up (I would say I'm quite adventurous) but my husband is not interested. He really only likes vanilla sex and doesn't like to try anything different. He can get aroused although is often too tired for sex so just goes to sleep.
I truly am at a loss - its like he's my best friend but in a completely platonic way. He's not frustrated or upset or annoyed about sex - I genuinely don't think he thinks about sex at all. But what about me? Sex once every couple of months because he thinks he better do it because I'm getting all crazy because I'm so horny isn't fair or fun - he treats it as a chore. Just feeling miserable and looking for people who understand.

Been married for less than two years to a man I thought I loved very much. I think i still love him bit is getting hard and confusing.

Sex was never hugely important to either of us and with busy lives once or twice a week was enough to keep us happy and satisfied. It was never the major part of our relationship because everything was fine. Now we never have sex. We both wanted to start a family but my husband has no interest in sex. He is never aroused and he is never amorous. He is affectionate and cuddly, however I am so horny all the time because of the lack of sex (its been 3 months since we last had sex) that the platonic touching drives me crazy because i'm so desperate for satisfaction and to feel desired.

We have talked about this a lot together but there isn't much else to say...my husband has seen every specialist there is and they have established that he is perfectly healthy and can find no reason for his lack of sex drive. Six months ago i also found messages on my husbands phone from men and women from a dating site. He says he only chatted and wanted to see if he liked men because he thought that perhaps that was the problem. He said he quickly realised he didn't like talking to other people and was not aroused by any of the conversations. He promised me nothing else happened.

I just wondered if there are other people or there in the same situation that would like to chat and maybe make each other feel a bit better.