A pretty lady... with:

Mentally... intelligence
Physically... a perfectly shaped (not so much a "huge") ...*ss

I guess that means "A pretty, smart lady with a great *ss." if we are gonna say one thing.

I am a Highly Dedicated guy... Oh sorry, I meant Medicated...

"Would you like to...?" ... "You're welcome... I Think"... "Will you?"... Aw SHUCKS!

I had the same experience and it was a relationship. She was single and I was living in my own place so it was not a "forbidden affair" or anything like it for us. I learned so much about relationships and sex from her that it developed my overall view of women. Overall maturity and intelligence attracts me regardless of the number (age) involved.

Age only represents chronological years not life experiences.

When I was in my teens I went to a predominately white school. That is when I first started noticing the beauty of some of the other girls. I thought both black and white (and everything else) were beautiful. They would not touch me but I wondered if things would change in my lifetime. I said it would in the year 2000.

In my twenties... things eased up a bit and I began getting attention from all races. However, it was kept in secret (their preference) not to "embarrass" them. Occasionally there were rebellious ladies but they paid dearly by losing their jobs, etc. for being with a black man. I cared a lot about our situations and lost one lady who married another because I took too long to ponder whether I wanted to bring interracial children into a world that hated them during the 70's and 80's.

Now look how things have changed. It's no longer taboo to have an interracial little girl talk to her white mom about "heart healthy" and leave Cheerios on her black father's chest on television. No longer are those children hated... they are called "the beautiful children." Most of all... Other races (Chinese, Europeans, etc. and even Hispanics) have a ways to go to catch up with accepting blacks into their race. I don't discriminate at all... and I think there are plenty beautiful black, white, Hispanic, Chinese... et al, but I gotta say... give it up to the Caucasians for being more open than most other races towards blacks.

A bit of advice that might help. Remember that communication between a woman and a man at first contact is mostly non-verbal. If your eyes meet, hold your gaze about one second longer than she (not three seconds or more because that could be viewed as gawking.)

You are afraid of being rejected which is what makes you shy around women. Nobody likes rejection but nobody can say they have never experienced it... think of it this way... it makes you as normal as the next guy. If you would approach her, make your comment about something going on around the two of you first. Never comment on her body or come off phony. If she gives you an opening to continue the conversation, she's interested or at least not repulsed. If not... move on. Think of how many beautiful women you have seen in the last five years... a hundred or so? If she moves on, just say to yourself: "ninety-nine to go'"

Sounds like he at least made peace with you before he died. I hope he made his peace with God also. I hope you have not had to bear another abusive relationship since.

Went without it for 2 years. After six months, I was able to tolerate not having it. After a year, I was able to paint over the scratches I left all over my walls and began to feel like I would survive life.

Then....Bam-Boom-Biff-Wham... had it again (3 months ago) and was afraid of the monkey on my back... after the third time The soldier was fully into the battle again... but alas... she was a HO... (Hoe, hoh, whore?) who wanted to sleep with every man she met online...

I only have 5 more months before I can tolerate not having it again, 11 months and I can paint the walls again...etc.

I'm curious. Did he change his ways or did you not hear from him again?

and just exactly WHERE on her are you kissing? Hmmmm?

I guess when I was younger I was "Cougar-Bait"... now I'm just "...Smart as H*ll!"

You nailed it: Self Control

Many people don't realize that men who abuse actually lose self-control. Even while they are abusing, they know it's wrong and that's where the guilt comes from. Then people come down on them and it makes them angry all over again then they lose self control and the cycle continues. They have to have it interrupted at the guilt stage as in your case to make a difference but it must be done while not appearing to condemn although it's dastardly behavior. But we were talking about the women so I'll go back to that. If she is going to stop it; it must be at this stage also but it can be tricky because she also cannot make him angry or the cycle starts again.

Don't make me sound like a psychologist... no I'm just psycho!!!!

Unfortunately, that's when a lot of women are looking at the "Big Picture." Saying to themselves: "He isn't this way all the time." or "I must be doing something to set him off so I gotta find out what I'm doing wrong so he'll stop." As some others have said "For the marriage or the kids... or for the sake of the relationship."

If they can be shown the "Bigger Picture" they will see the kids are not alright unless she is alright... the marriage is not happy unless she is happy, etc. This goes for the abuser also because he (more like IT) is in it's own tiny little world of beating on what's weaker to make himself feel important.

When Momma's happy... EVERYBODY is happy

This was kind of my observation... about everything being relative. I think I've always had an attraction to older women. Now that I'm older (or I should say "more seasoned?") I still feel this way but first to attract me is "a beautiful mind"... but I still need to be physically attracted. It seems to me that when some women are younger, they rely on their looks so much that they don't make as much effort developing their intellect. Hence, I don't find as much in common.

Now take a mature woman who took the time to take care of her mind... body... and soul... what do you have? A smart, sweet, intelligent...WINNER all around! Those are rare indeed, but I know they exist as I've met a few. Ah, balance is a wonderful thing.

I guess the question is... How much older or younger are you willing to accept?

Have we noticed that when people are 30yrs old they can like fifteen years older and ten years younger. When people hit 50yrs old they like fifteen years younger and only ten years older?

I'm Just Sayin'

If that happens I'll create an underground movement... and then a Terminator named Arnold... and have a lady named Conner who has a child... Hey, that sounds like it would be a cool movie!

They can test tube or clone all they want... It will never take away the sexual urge... but then again; they may create ANTI-VIAGARA... or ANTI-CIALIS... OH NO!!!! WHAT'S HAPPENING TO BOB!!!???

Awww Shucks Ma am' With a doll like you... you can change the rules of the game anytime you wish... I would still play...

I've also known it to change as time goes on in the same relationship... so we must be alert.