Mankind's purpose is to procreate or cease to exist. In order to procreate, mankind must have sexual encounters unlike certain animals that can do it all by themselves. Since we "ain't got it like that" we strive to satisfy that urge to procreate by having sex... we satisfy the urge to have sex by falling in love... so I ask you Mr. Einstein..? which came first..? the chicken or the egg?

I'm totally in love with both of them... apples and oranges... they are the same (as in fruit) but they differ... I thoroughly enjoy both.

I think different women want different things from guys... but I know the one thing they all don't want universally... a P***Y of a man. One is enough, why would they want another one?

It sounds like you've never been allowed to be comfortable with him because he seems to be edging from the "more than friends" angle, despite you making it clear that's not what you want. If he'd backed off to "just friends" you may have been more inclined to relax and enjoy his company. I've had "friends" like that too. If they don't accept it, you just have to cut them loose unfortunately. "Gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure."


I'm just curious... Does he?... or Has he?... ever told you about this one person he is so in love with? Not afterwards but while it's happening at the time. Mom always told me that if someone is interested in you... they never mention anyone else. I've used that as a barometer to tell if we can just be friends or if they (or even I) was just trying to work it in another way. Mom is a smart ole' gal... She was right every time.

Okay... Let's lay it out. To women "Nice Guys" in the friend zone are guys that are just trying a different tact to manipulate you, ie: "If I contunue to be nice to her, and just hang around in a non-threatening way... she will eventually realize I'm the best thing for her and give me what I want." What men don't realize is... to women, this is the equivalent of the "Fat girl with low self-esteem" to men.

When you lower your standards to accept "whatever is easiest," you are picking "Low Hanging Fruit." Might as well pick the apples from the ground that are rotten because you don't have to climb the tree to put in effort and get the sweetest apples that get the most sunshine at the top. Never settle. The payoff is worth it.

Both... If I have a FWB and we agree that we are exclusive as far as unprotected sex... then I'm taken. But that takes a ****-load of trust before reaching that point. I can still go out (and so can she) but I have to trust (and so should she) that we'll live up to at least THAT much committment. She or I can say "I want that with someone else" and it's over. I don't ask questions that I don't want to know the answer to until then. She can go out to the movies with others etc... I can go out etc. BUT if me (or she) and movie-mate have sex... it is not regular (that's for the FWB] and it is with protection ONLY.

BTW... this has only happened twice in my younger days... it's hard to find a FWB with the same frame of mind that you can trust like that.

It's a dangerous world out there. I ended a nice relationship with a great lady because she lied about the protection issue and I found out after I put her under the spotlight with my rubber hose.

One of my ex-wives that I mentioned was an excellent houskeeper and mother while I provided and the other suffered from a Diva Complex and wanted me to do nothing but sit up under her instead of handling my Biz-Ness... guess which was which...

Been married to both. Black first... Then White. I based neither on color but how we got along after meeting and being friends for a while. I just don't discriminate. After being with both... the only color I think we should all be looking for is... Beautiful...