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God bless you Trinite, but you are never going to "get it" much as I will probably never fully appreciate your mind set. Men and women are wired differently. In addition, I'll just bet you are approached by men that are attracted to you all the time. Your viewpoint is entirely different. It's the difference between throwing a bullet and shooting a bullet. 
Men and women are wired differently and thank goodness for that... No I am not approached by men all the time. The ones who do write me do ask questions of a genuine nature which I respond, some are of the younger set who appreciate a good sense of humor and sarcasm... some who write that are looking for a quck roll in the hay get blocked...I think it's an aura you put out, available or not. Even single where I was located at, the men had a different mindset and while I did attempt the POF dating, the men were very misleading... so it's not just men getting 'hosed over'. It took a man in different country to capture my interest and we are very similar yet very respectful of our individual lifestyles, he has his interests, I have mine. The irony is he was single, never married, no kids and I have 2 mariages under my belt and 3 kids. Took 2 previous relationships to figure out what I was doing wrong. Hell try a different country... you would be a hit at the next high school reuniuon... 
My viewpoint is different  Einstein said it best...“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
Yes there is a difference in throwing a bullet and shooting one(  ), but they both are determined by the one holding it all in their hands and their target.... 'touché' 
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Edited by
Trinité
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Sat 02/07/09 01:33 PM
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Funny how it's almost always the hot chick saying "It's your attitude, it's your attitude!"
Not an attack, but judging by your picture, you'll never understand where Drew (or me) is coming from in his outlook. What I do see are men looking at the outside of the trophy and not seeing what is inside to make the trophy... from what I read you are being visual(judging by your picture)... which granted plays into attraction, but there is more there.... Maybe you feel like you are left with the leftovers because you that is your mindset... maybe change it up and look elsewhere for this woman on a pedestal for you.... you are not going to find Betty Crocker at the local bar lol you go out for a nice steak at a nice restaurant, not stop Burger King... venture out to these places where the one u r seeking would hang out. That would be exclusive higher end department stores, day spas, gyms, better yet personal trainer who could have connections  , on certain charity boards, clubs as in golf or yachting...
Nothing wrong with high standards, but maybe realistic ones... looking at stats, yes by the time a woman reaches 40, she has been married once, twice, sometimes more... by 40, yes children. It is rare to find a man in his 40's with his shyt together, who has not been married and who is not a baby daddy, stable job and now wants to dive into a relationship. Bottom line, there is someone out there for everyone, you just have to be open to them and let your guard down... and Drew having a right to bitterness is your prerogative, but kind of defeats your purpose on dating site... it would be a redflag to the females as bitter baggage... so it works both ways... just a thought. 
How about russian roulette???
Ah Jess.... lol.... I found a nice 50 calliber barret
The funny thing is that the settling list changes day to day and year to year, do you think our grandparents made such statements?
Debreeze, you should post the list(what a woman wants in different ages on a separate thread) from your POF thread copied from here.... lol and no I don't believe our grandparents made such statements... different worlds. |
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i guess i'm wondering why it is that i am not finding someone deserving of a truly decent man such as myself, and why do i feel that i am always going to be a consolation prize? why can't i find a woman who has figured it out before she fvcked away all of her youth with all of the a55holes? and why is it that what i have to offer is only good enough for the women older than me and the ones who i don't find attractive? yeah, i'm a bit bitter. Sorry Drew, but that last sentence says it all. Changing the mindset toward something more positive could possibly help, but not until you address the bitterness issues.... good luck in your journey.
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What things do you consider
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*****. Anytime I smell it, eat it, or see it, I get horny. Is that the calico kind or a different breed, not that I'm against people eating cats... some say it taste like chicken LOL
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Answer this............
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 do you think boobs are overrated?
Well I say the nutsack is underated....
Seahawks being surprised at this? LOL Okay with boobies you can nurse, wear tassles... or give yourself a black eye while running funny through Gypsy's thread... but think of the power of the nutsack... first we could discuss the vaporlock agenda but that would last at least a week LOL... as I said...'underrated' |
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Answer this............
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do you think boobs are overrated?
Well I say the nutsack is underated....
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What things do you consider
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I was thinking foods...chocolates, oysters, sushi, some liquor *hiccup*
My better half from the peanut gallery yelled out 'a pair of high heeled red pumps'....  I don't own red ones
lol
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I feel like I am better off being alone. Your not alone. You may live alone, but you have friends and while some friends may not understand all that you feel, there are those out there who do. days where the quiet is just unbearable
Some days quiet days were nice, but when they get to be unbearable, turn on some music that lifts your spirits, turn on the tv, watch a movie to break that silence... I miss the companionship and security that I thought was mine when I was married.
I was told to grieve the lost relationship as that is what a divorce can feel like, a death... of two people going separate paths. I was not able to get a pet because of lease, but get a pet if you can, it's that caring nurture that we are wanting to feed. Moms, wives we nurture, we take care of things and people... somehow, though we put our own personal needs on the backburner. This may be an opportunity to explore some things you have always wanted to. Join a group, get a hobby, second job, volunteer, travel... take care of you. You know what? I am not half bad! One day, I will find someone who feels the same. Just not today.
Who better to know when you are ready than yourself and trusting your gut instinct! You are much better than half Very proud of you for taking steps to get off that cycle of an unhealthy relationship.
In summary I have come to one conclusion about dating in my 40’s, it goes back to the game of our teens. Spin the bottle and hope like all hell that sucker lands on the person you want to kiss the most
I love the wisdom I have gained over the years and from those experiences it enabled me to not only make healthier choices, but understand boundaries and also to know what traits and characteristics I wanted in a partner. My partner I happened to meet here back in 07. There's a difference in having fun, humor in dating, but game playing is for the younger set... imo I think I'll go stick a fork in my eye now.
Removes fork from ljcc1964's eye.... here's some scissors, run and go play lol
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Comes dragging in wagon filled with more wood, squirts the fire with kersosene
Stacks the wood in a semi organized fashion with easy pull rope wagon access from the chair station. Refills coolers with ice, tosses in some of this Stella stuff to last the weekend
Gets warmed up, tosses bag of marshmallows over to lawnchair after fixing 2 for myself
Listens to radio... 
nite peoples of the fire 
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Runs in and tosses down firewood that took me a week to cut (swiss army sknife my arse)
ahhh nice fire going
okay back upstairs to watch the bowl game....
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Movies A-Z
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O Brother, where art thou?
(( didn't I have this one last time.... "O" lol)) |
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Movies A-Z
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Underworld: rise of the lycans
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Movies A-Z
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Quick and the Dead (kinda like some posts in Mingle
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Movies A-Z
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O Brother, where art thou?
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True Blood?
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no spoilers please
 
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Movies A-Z
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Kill Bill
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Topic:
The Ultimate Bored Thread
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Tic Tac Toe anyone?
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Topic:
The Ultimate Bored Thread
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Craving Meat
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Omaha is known for it's GREAT restaurants. Yes Oldsage down in the Old Market district there are some great ones! |
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Topic:
HAS ANYONE REALLY HOOK UP?
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If you check out my profile, you will see all the people I have met, in person, from this site. Including my fiance. 
You and the Captain gave us all hope! Even for us who managed the 'long distance' and for that I say thanks Miss E
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