Ask her if she knows how to gap a sparkplug.
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Your sandwhich is done.
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Diane Lane
She's got IT. |
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Topic:
What does it mean if....
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It must mean you've just met me.
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Lilith,
I'm not a moron and I'm not thick. I understand yours and Sages point, but I have other feelings on the subject. I thought I'd explained it well enough. ![]() It's a shame that every conversation we've had seems to end this way. |
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There was a time I confided in nobody. Now I have 2 or 3 close friends who've tought me to trust.
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I appreciate the thought, but I'm just going to have to talk to her and insist that the conversation stays between us. It's just a shame that I have to explain it to her.
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Topic:
why?
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why men at their 40's or late 40's likes to talk so much about intimacy and sex? ![]() ![]() ![]() Maybe it helps with our grammar. ![]() |
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Then don't tell them their mother asked. Just bring up the topic in general and tell them it's not going to happen. I have no intention of telling them. My fear is that she will. You are missing Sage's point entirely. All kids fantasize about their mommy and daddy getting back together at some point. Having this conversation, [without saying mommy asked for us to get back together but I said no....] this is a useful and appropriate conversation to have. We've had that conversation. My point is that even though we've had it and they're basically understanding of the whole thing. I don't want their mother planting that seed in them for the sake of making me the villain. And yes, I know my kids won't think of me as a villain, I just want that book closed for them. |
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Then don't tell them their mother asked. Just bring up the topic in general and tell them it's not going to happen. I have no intention of telling them. My fear is that she will. |
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I would welcome the children of the woman I was with as I would expect her to welcome mine. My kids would always have the top spot in my heart, but baggage? that's a woman who can expect a lonely old age.
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Kids aren't dumb, they know how things REALLYare/were. Talk to them upfront, tell them "mom asked/mentioned....just don't think it would work for __________ reasons. any comments you guys want to make? I was upfont with mine & he respected me for it. He was in grade school, when I left. Sage, As always, well said. I know my kids are sharp and I encourage open conversation. I've just seen them cry too many times and I hope old wounds don't reopen. |
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My biggest concern right now is that someday when one of the kids brings up the subject of us being a family again, She'd say " Well I tried but your dad said no."
She's not vindictive, But she doesn't think before she speaks. My kids have been through enough. They don't need to wrestle with that. |
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Dating: X amount of dollars Wedding/Marriage: X amount of a kabillion dollars Kids: X amount of a kazillion dollars & more when they return home Divorce: X amount of a megazillion dollars & a few pieces of property Knowing in your soul you did the right thing: PRICELESS ![]() |
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Topic:
Why do women...?
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Why do women base their next move on emotion rather than logic?
( bury me deep ) |
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Topic:
Another best quotes thread
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Best movie quotes...
Leave the gun. Take the canoles. Clamenza, The Godfather. |
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My mind is made up with no question. I just threw thr subject out there 'cause I'm sure I'm not the only one here who's had this experience.
I appreciate all the kind words and support. |
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I'm going through the same thing right now. He oesn't seem to get that it is over, and its been almost 3 years now. It is a little easier for me since there is distance but i don't talk to him either unless i need to. I am proud of you that have kept things civil though. the kids don't need to be hurt any more than they already have. You've done good! Thank you. My family and friends tell me I should be proud. I just look at it as doing what you gotta do. |
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If her girlfriend say, " yeah he does look like Carl."
You might be the rebound guy Disclaimer: Carl is an arbitrary name. |
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For me, I can put up with alot But not betrayal.
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