site and a woman was talking in her profile about men having kids and referring to them as "baggage". Not an ex wife, and not in-laws but she said that kids from another marriage were just extra baggage to her.

Now I know that I don't have kids, but I would never think of my gf's daughter as simply extra baggage. So my question is this, does everyone that has kids think that people like me (childless) would consider kids "baggage" in a relationship?

Sorry for the long post, but this bothered me!

Hmm, I have no kids & never wanted them either, I also have never dated anyone with kids, so that would be a tough one for me.

WOW...I could not imagine anyone feeling that way...that is really sad...my kids are part of who I am....but ya know...come to think of it...I think my ex (not their father) looked at my kids in that manner, actually, their father did too....OUCH! I could never look at children that way and would not involve myself with someone that did

Well I have kids that are 15 & 18 and mine have been considered baggage and if that's what someone thinks then they need to keep moving on. I don't think of kids as baggage but I do prefer to date men with older kids or no kids at all because I just don't care to start all over again (and there is my issue with no tolerance for bratty/out of control kids). LOL

so i'm feelin a man who isn't happy where he is at and thinking on pursueing something else
not feelin in that way

The whole "kids as baggage" thing kinda depends on the person. Some actually do consider kids as "baggage" especially when dealing with failed marriages and the like. And then there's the whole deal with personality conflicts between the kids and the person in the relationship.

But it's a hard call to make.

with Angel being in her 40's and having a 16 yo, doubt we'll have any either

WOW is that the definition of baggage? then I guess I dont have a chance with some women then.

I dont have children and never thought of them as baggage but I have dated women with them and it allows me to see how I would feel about them. It has opened my eyes and I know I could be a father/father figure if the opportunity arose.

I think a lot of people go out of their way to take the term "baggage" as being offensive somehow. That's their choice.

To me, "baggage" just means anything you carry from a past relationship into the present, and which may impact in some way on future relationships. Period. Could be a job, could be resentments, could be a lot of things.

From that standpoint, I'd have to concur with the woman in the profile you mentioned.

I've dated women with children...my ex had one child that lived with us a while...and 4 grown kids...2 of which lived with us at different times. NEVER viewed them as "baggage". Actually got very close to some former SO's kids. One even referred to me as "dad". It does present challenges...but ones worth working through.

huh?

i guess i come with baggage...

just ignore me like everyone else on here and you'll be alright

Don't think he comprehended what you were getting at....

but i am right you just don't see it yet

Are people ignoring you? Want me to kick some booty...I will...where they at?

bring it on

for some that will be fine but then again baggage wouldnt be the choice of words. A special package deal maybe.

Everybody as baggage, it is called life. To some certain baggage are not acceptable but you cannot meet someone without baggage however small they are.