... I'm the Otter ...

When she reaches down your pants and grabs your full attention?

When it feels right, you go for it. You should be slowing working you way up to it throughout the date though. If you are dropping her off at home and you haven't touched her all night, a kiss will feel awkward. But, if you have been slowing working your way up it feels natural. So, put her arm on yours as you walk. Touch the small of her back as you whisper in her ear. Etc.

Nah, someone stuck an onion in my mouth to stop me from screaming..

My eyes are watering at the thought of it!

<<<<<<<Let me speak to my people,we'll get right on this.

....a nasty, snide boss?

Due to the recent economic fiasco (Thanks Obamanation), we had a hiring freeze and a particular person's job went away. Rather than letting things fall as they may be, she was appointed to be the head of our department (with no experience) and our director was stripped of his authority.

Since that time, this person has totally let the power go to her head and is THE most vile person to all of us that have been in the department for years, yet putting on the nines for anyone else within the company.

I refuse to let her get the best of me, but this person blows in and out of the office without speaking to any of us. When she does, it's like a Linda Blair moment as she spews so much nasty.

I have always been taught that you keep your friends close, but your enemies closer. I have been overly sweet when she is around and when other employees come to me with issues, I go out of my way to share laughs and create a pleasant experience because I know that it bugs her.

Any creative suggestions (other than praying that she gets hit by a bus) how to set her up for failure?

I think I would be more pissed at Bush, he is the one who got us into this economical mess!! I also have a jerk for a boss, but with newpapers going down all the time I have to swallow it and try to focus on getting the job down and then forgetting it at the end of the day!!

Snarky, I'm pretty skinny and I have the same concerns. I have been on dates where the men said, "I normally like a little meat on my women". I've been in a make out session or two where they grabbed by hip bones which made me uncomfortable. I think we all have body issues regardless of our size but beauty is really in the eye of the beholder. The look in one man's eyes can make you feel like the most beautiful woman. Good Luck.

it goes a type of bread? i don't know if that's bad or not. at least it didn't go awry

hey little girl.....i have candy !

I'm guessing it's rarely a concern with the man.

Some arbitrary percentage of men won't care because they aren't looking long term anyhow.... it's just about right now. They just want to have a good time, and likely want you to have a good time too. They've already assessed your physical attributes and are ok with you for the situation.

And the other percentage is likely really in to you and it's a step further in connecting to you. At this point they've long since dealt with any physical considerations.

Unless it turns out you have a swastika tattooed on your belly. That can be a little unsettling.

It has happened to me several times. The Women are usually more or less drunk and decide I need to be kissed. The last time was about four months ago when this woman I never met came over to me and wanted to see how long the hair was on the back of my neck. I said "OK" and when I leaned forward so she could see she planted one on me.

Another time I was munching pineapple at the snack area and this great looking woman I had known for years but never had any "close" contact or even flirting (she was married). She walks up to me and says "hello" and before I can even swallow the pineapple she has her tongue down my throat.

There are others.

To a stranger? No. And yes, they'd get slapped.

99.99% of my "extra curves" are in the belly and from my kids. Mostly I'm cool with it because, after all, five kids could totally mess up a woman's body WAY worse than a few extra pounds! I kinda won the lottery there.

But today I was sitting there thinking... and realized that it's a major issue for me in that kind of situation, which sucks. So I thought, "why not ask about it? You've learned a lot from Mingle already. Why not this?"

Thanks for these answers. Both genders. I mean that. It can help a lot to see things from the other side.

Lady, you might have imagined that you hid it all that well, but the guy wasn't astonished or intimidated. He knew. From the first time that there is interaction, we know...and if you're supersensitive about it, then we either poke and jab and make it a topic...or else we respect your vulnerability and wait for you to talk about it.

The bulges are not the cause of embarrassment; the lifestyle that is ongoing and protecting/creating bulges is the cause of concern.

And it isn't an issue. If you're right for each other, begin letting yourself think of years together, and working on every bit of life together...otherwise you're just imagining that a meaningful loving relationship will wreck upon discovering some cellulite, or a few wrinkles, or hairy areas.

You've got the grit to talk about it with twenty zillion strangers, so what's the big deal with one guy you're thinking is stupid about it?

This thread is so inspiring me to redo my profile.

"I am not a beauty queen but am not butt ugly either. I am somewhere in between. I am not a biotch...but play one on tv and have the talent of bringing it out when the situation calls for it. I can be "nice" if you deserve it. But, I can be really bad, too. "

How is that for a start? In the meantime, I am going to sit back and take notes. I am not looking for a Brad Pitt or George Clooney...a Patrick Swayze would be nice...hmmm. I am looking for someone that compliments me and makes me feel that special something that no one else does.