OK, I'm going to come out and ask this, because it's something I personally battle with all the time. I'm thinking maybe some other women here would appreciate this, too.

Scenereo from the female pov: You meet a guy when you're out with friends, and flirt and have fun. You're attracted to him, he's attracted to you. It's all good. But then (and this could be a day or weeks in the future after meeting, depending), you have your first "makeout session", for lack of a better term, and you freeze up. Why? Because you can't relax and enjoy it for fear that his roaming hands will grab a little *too* much and he'll be grossed out. You hid the fact that you weren't toned everywhere pretty well when you weren't touching each-other that much, but now? Now it's all you can think about, and it's ruining everything.

So, that's the girl's POV. Guys, can you give a picture of the GUY'S pov in this scenereo?

Again, I honestly want to know, and this may be a very good place to ask. Please be honest. Thank you for your answers.

ok if he cares about you and hes really into you hes not gonna care how you look!and if he does hes a tool!but if someone really cares about you there arent gonna care how you look!

at least from my point of view i would think that if you are attracted to this person then it should not matter where you are "toned and untoned". If they cannot accept that as part of you then the attraction is sort of false and i personally would not feel comfortable either

I have never thought of it that way

in general women worry too much about specific body parts.....Men like women....all shapes and sizes ...men don't really care........well maybe the shallow ones do....but not real men

Lady, you might have imagined that you hid it all that well, but the guy wasn't astonished or intimidated. He knew. From the first time that there is interaction, we know...and if you're supersensitive about it, then we either poke and jab and make it a topic...or else we respect your vulnerability and wait for you to talk about it.

The bulges are not the cause of embarrassment; the lifestyle that is ongoing and protecting/creating bulges is the cause of concern.

And it isn't an issue. If you're right for each other, begin letting yourself think of years together, and working on every bit of life together...otherwise you're just imagining that a meaningful loving relationship will wreck upon discovering some cellulite, or a few wrinkles, or hairy areas.

You've got the grit to talk about it with twenty zillion strangers, so what's the big deal with one guy you're thinking is stupid about it?

Mingle is just too cool. It's nice meeting men who are so forthright and open-minded!

I feel that way about my breasts and stretch marks, since I had a child. I figure that I am who I am and I'd rather trade my son in for a shallow superficial guy.

After all, I'm not hot for ear and back hair but it's not a dealbreaker for me.

If I have gotten to that point with someone, I am not all that concerned with anything other than the fact that she's attractive to me.

If a guy were to get to that point, and then stop being sttracted because of something like that, he isn't much of a man anyway.

He's a puddle.

Stop caring? Perfection doesn't exist, as long as you are comfortable.

--I misunderstood the question the first time.

Nah, he's a "nice guy".....

I've never experienced that. However, unless you get really lucky, alot of men are out of shape, too, so they're hardly in a position to reject you because of that.

All this for "not toned?"

Girl I am far from "toned". But I love my body. It's soft and warm and sexy!!

I was totaly built for pleasure

And not for speed!

Oh dear, not the nice guy!

I'm not hot for ear and back hair but it's not a dealbreaker for me.





So.....What you're saying is I have a chance?????

No one is perfect and only the shallow would be so stupid !Lilith I used to tell my X look at the reasons for the stretch marks .Our beautiful babies .People stress out too much over superficial crap !Life is what it is !

You crack me up....

LMAO!!! Good thing I'm not one of ' those '. LOL

Hiya, Lilith. Haven't had a chance to say hi to you recently.

Now THAT I totally agree with.

Hell...I would be more worried about it that Snarky should be. LOL

I am a tubby dude.

Hi there right back... I've not been on much... Lost my best friend and another friend is very ill.