I am truely glad that worked for you. I stand by what I said about respect though. It's a whole lot easier to repect somone you communicate with.

When I gave my ex-oldlady a second chance I think it just made her take me for granted. I was able to forgive the infidelity but failed to take into account the whole picture. The real issue there is trust and respect. She stayed faithful for awhile but she lied more in general and ended up cheating again. In the end I couldn't trust her and she didn't respect me. I guess you could say that one who cheats has a problem with respect in general. I mean to say, cheating is a disrespectful act. Can you gain somone's respect by giving them a second chance when they didn't respect you in the first place? Anything is possible, but not everything is likley. So, even when you take into account why they cheated i.e. not emotionally fullfilled or sexually or oppertunistic or what have you, the base problem is still the same. Respect and Trust.