I like to be sensual with my guy. Sit behind him and stroke and massage his scalp while he relaxes with eyes closed. Stroke his skin. Wash his body for him in the shower and ask the same in return. A lot of physical contact out in public with the occasional naughty grope. I also like to make him things. Sculptures that suit his personality. To be silly and laugh and make him smile. I like him to enjoy himself.

Great question!!

I always wanted to be an artist. By the age of 13 I'd let people convince me that I couldn't be successful as an artist.
I tried for years to fit myself into careers that were unfulfilling and finally came to the conclusion that I was gypping myself and that I deserved to follow my dreams. So I'm back to the art now.

Oh so you're normal!! Don't be so hard on yourself. Seriously, I think just about everyone on the planet has felt this way at least once or twice. You've been in a relationship for a long time and felt like you never really had to work at getting into one, so I think it's pretty understandable you'd be feeling rusty. Missy gives good advice about using the forums. Not only do you get to see how people behave and interact, but you get to just relax and have fun, and forget that you're seeking something. I felt the same way as you for quite a while after I signed up. I like the forums now :)





What she said.

There's a lot of good stuff in here. This guy put a lot of thought into his letter and you can hear his disappointment in people's lack of care and empathy for others. Thanks for sharing.

I think you just hit on the crux of the problem right there, Tawt. People who are sick require medical help. People who don't understand should not be involved in determining what kind of help, OR punishment they receive.

I prefer slightly younger than me to about a decade older, but there's room for that exceptional man.

Must hurt taking it off though!

Girlfrieeeend... You gotta lay that one to rest!! LOL

LOL well you could always keep on trying

LOL!! That second one's a good one! That would make me laugh! I think you should keep that one and deliver it in a playful cheezy kind of way

No, I don't think it should be excused either. I do think it should be looked at in a case by case manner, and there has to be a gooood deal of time spent in intensive therapy. I think the way a criminal gets a parole hearing should apply in cases where mental illness has been the cause of a horrible crime.

I can tell this is a hot topic for you. I think if it was as simple as "if you don't want to do the time", there would be no problem. In my mind it is akin to asking you to drink two cases of beer and then do logic puzzles. Schizophrenia isn't a state of mind where a person knows what is real and what is not. To them, it is absolutely real and they are living it. "Behave yourself" sometimes isn't an option.

I'm not saying they should get off scott free, but I think they need a different kind of accountability.

Hia Goat (lol)

I came on here a few months after splitting with my husband. It was a tactic to have some social interaction with single men so I wouldn't be so tempted to try and reconcile. At that time I was not ready for anything and was more being nosey than anything. I've had one date and would do another if I could find someone I'm interested in who lives near me! LOL

I'm actually not all that pressed to meet the special someone either. My life is still developing and I'm still nurturing myself and healing from past hurts. If I talk to someone and really click with them..... then maybe something will develop. But if not it's ok too. I guess it really is about the ride and not the destination.

I disagree with you here MoeMan. Laws are there to correct and deter. If the guy was in an altered state, which he clearly was, then punishing him when he's in his right state of mind will not deter anything, because he's not likely going to do it again AS LONG AS HE STAYS ON HIS MEDS. This is where I take issue. Somebody who has an illness that causes them to kill someone needs to be mandated to take meds. I understand the argument against that, but if they force sexual predators to be chemically castrated, surely it's arguable that a violent schizophrenic needs should mandated to also. His meds... not the chemical castration part. Sorry to all you men who are wincing and cringing at the word

So if we punish the guy who didn't really know what he was doing, we're just getting revenge. That's not what the justice system is supposed to be about.

Bipolar can cause hallucinations though Dodo. I have a friend who deals with that.

Yeah, I could imagine a lot of guys do it for the sensation too. It feels so much different when you lose the hair.

LOL or those bodyless images of those hairy heads?

Nah, I don't think so Harm. You're probably right about the controversy over the terminology, that always happens. But whatever we lable it, I hope people will always have help available to them when they need it.

Yowch!! No room for feathers there!

XD shaking my head

Hi Moe

LOL, oh Ross, I'm so sorry. But I read your profile and I think it's perfect. I always judge by the feeling I get from a profile. If they're not saying much, I move on, if they're separated and talking goo about living a long happy life with... etc... I move on. Your profile feels genuine and I think you should be true to you, and not change it because of the insecurities other people complain about.

My break up was amicable too. Heck, I even love the guy. But it is definitely over. I still get together with him and hang out and whatnot in a friendship capacity, and I think that is extraordinary. I'm not interested in a relationship with someone who wants me to be LESS of a loving person, cause that's not who I am.

The only thing I would personally be cautious about with a person newly separated is that they're secure in themselves and not rebounding. But that's something I would personally not worry about until I got to know the person well enough to gauge that.

The most admirable qualities a man, or a woman can have are honesty and open communication. You seem to have them both. I like your profile.