"Your not a man just a really good friend"

I went out with her for 2 years, lots of good romance and good friendship. Then she says I'm her best friend and she never had a guy friend before, usually they just want to own her or have sex so she puts me in this box 'just a friend' So eventually I hook up with someone else and we lose touch.

3 years later I'm single so I look her up and she is single too. We are still good friends. She is beating her head against the wall over these guys that treat her like garbage, says she only wants one good man who will 'treat her right' and be her partner and best friend and the whole time I'm standing there WTF?

She seems to have this mental block and sees me as a friend. She goes on about how all these men treat her like crap and then says to me 'your not a man you're a really good friend' I'm like 'no.. I'm a man'

Now I'm getting ready to let her know how I really feel about her - I am that man she keeps talking about that wants to be with her and treat her right and I do love her very deeply. At the risk of our friendship how do I do this?

Vancouver Island north here. Eh to all Canadians on here.
I'm thinking of moving to Ottawa since I saw Danni

so you live in a dirty house full of dirty laundry and wont share your wine?

make a list of qualities that are important to you. physical social emotional spiritual so you get a clearer picture of what you are looking for., know thyself first.

Then when you know what kind of man attracts you then you may be able to pinpoint the kind of places that man would be and go there.

because men are always accused of being players - if he makes the first move you might think he is 'only out for one thing' and end the relationship. He needs a signal that you are wanting him to make a move. Some guys don't read signals very good , you may have to shout.

Thanks sweetestgirl11 you're the sweetest girl

I was just using traditional examples to make my point. There are no rules written in stone on how a good relationship works. A lot of us don't have a loving family to leave behind but we do have people in our lives who we mentor and who mentor us, that could be considered family.

there is a difference between a good man and a nice guy.
A nice guy who dotes on a woman will usually turn her off because her basic instincts lead her to seek a protector. Someone who will watch her vulnerable back in this cruel world. Bad guys come across as much more capable in that regard.
Also what will you provide for the children or the home to meet her needs? Are you going to be polite and get walked on by everyone or are you going to bring home the bacon?
These thing make the bad boys seem more capable but less willing so she does what she can to make him more willing. make sense?

You would be more attractive if you had a bit of an edge.

It's not even a gift - he's just taking care of your needs and protecting you from harm that's all. He loves you.

you reap what you sow
you are what you eat
garbage in garbage out

I think after being in a few relationships and having loved and lost and grown in maturity, gained lessons of life a man over 50 is looking mainly for maturity in a relationship. Some are after young women to boost their ego but that just means they are not done maturing.
A fully mature man is looking for a fully mature woman. One who understands the difference between a man and a woman and how they can compliment each other. Who understands the roles we play and wants to fulfill them.
A mature man knows a woman's needs in and out of bed, as the woman knows his. A man over 50 who is done playing games is looking for the woman just for him. That shares a similar world view and has similar goals so they are going in the same direction.
A man who is fully mature is on a journey, he has a limited amount of time to accomplish certain goals, he wants someone who will compliment him not hinder.
A mature woman has similar aspirations too and she needs a man to take on her aspirations and add them to his so they can work on them together. The protector and the nourisher. A woman wants to leave behind a loving family a man wants to leave behind a loving world.

Both matter
Age usually comes with a certain level of maturity.

no it isnt

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Love draws you but it wont take away your choices.

Hi I travel around these places a lot