what u make of it then.imo it isn't love just is love has to be worked at. if only it were as simple as being just is.

there is indeed a difference and for all we know perhaps they do love back. some ppl however are not hiding from their sexuality and unfortunately still go along with the whole thing for whatever reasons. i do not believe ppl that are hiding from their sexuality are selfish as we have no idea what is going on or has gone on in their lives. personally i don't get it but thats just me. also i'm not sure they are robbing the other person of true happiness the other person may however be robbing themselves. relationships and sexuality are not always how they seem to outside parties. but each to their own i suppose.

yeah, maybe years ago, but i don't think there's a stigma attached to being gay any longer and people aren't hiding away behind some door in an attempt to be 'normal'.

besides, if they'd had a sexual relationship with me, doesn't that make them bi as opposed to gay or lesbian?

love is what u make it

unfortunately there are a great deal of gay men and women who do reciprocate and marry/live with members of the opposite sex for whatever their reasons may be. also a great deal of women fall in love with and again marry/live with gay men and again for whatever reasons. so i suppose it's not always as clear cut as we would like to believe (imo)

i don't think i could get to the point of being in love with someone and not know their sexual orientation.

surely, there'd have to be at least some reciprocation on their part before the feelings progressed to that level.

I would rather not say it on here.

Well we were talking before he came in and everything was fine, so I doubt he couldve been pissed at me and he had no reason to be! And how could there be a misunderstanding, we didnt even communicate in the bar, and like I stated, everything was fine and dandy on the phone and he knew he was coming to meet me, he has seen pics of me, so I simply dont understand the MISUNDERSTANDING part!!

But it is what it is, his loss not mine!!

I live at the end of a dirt/gravel road in a very small well maintained trailer park. My old neighbor remarried and moved into his wife's home. He recently sold his trailer, He asked me to come over to see if I wanted any of the tv's and some other stuff that was otherwise being tossed...

The new owner was also there. When we were introduced and I offered my hand to shake, he said "do you fool around?" I yanked my hand back before contact was made. For the next few mins that I was there he kept trying to make eye contact AND TOUCH MY ARM. He also asked me if I drink.

Later I learned that he is an all day every day beer drinker, that he is married to a very mousy women (wonder why)and that they (he probably) were evicted from the last trailer park they lived in.

I can not believe that I am going to be neighbors with a man who thinks his comments are a fine and dandy way to greet a total stranger. I see 911 in my future! They were there today and it icked me out, there goes the neighborhood.

Is it possible to meet the right person at the wrong time?

My first instinct is to say you can never love too much, but Ive learned thats bs.

Love is an action word as well. I say yes.. you cant love too much in your heart, but, you CAN love too much as in extending your love.


I have a rule to never extend myself any further than soemone extends themselves to me.

If you feel like you love someone too much, should you take a step back and try and become more distant,or just carry on and be open?

I don't care what they call it as long as there is brown sauce and a couple of slices of buttered buppy on the table to go with it.

i prefer the tatties(not mashed)version with sausage and onion, i like the corned beef version but it's more of a corned beef hash really.