It's true. I'm so over the excuse that people are "too busy to ______."


We're all busy!!! We all have: family, friends, work, dating life, pets, exercise, school, sick grandma, soccer practice, and snowboarding lessons.

Who hasn't been: asked to work overtime, stuck at home with the kids, busy doing laundry, or sitting in crazy traffic because the Democratic National Convention is taking over your city?

Yet somehow, someway, the world keeps going. People still meet and get to know each other and fall in love.

If it's important to you, you'll find the time to do it.

I'm not sure on this one. Part of me wants to agree with the two posts above me. There is a big difference between those years, a lot of growing up. It is a scary thought to think of someone college aged dating someone who can't even drive yet.

However, so many people say that age is just a number. My mother and my father met at 14 and 19. They are happily married at 68 and 62 (not her birthday yet).

But then again, this was in a small town in the early 60's when dates were chaperoned and premarital sex was much more uncommon than today. They waited until the honeymoon. (24 and 29)

IF you are going to do it, make sure you check out the local laws!!!! If you are not sure what I am talking about, go here:

http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Story?id=1121138&page=1

or

http://www.electrohack.com/?p=58

I love that show. Dexter is a sweet, funny, sexy boyfriend any yet he is a monster too.

I have some of the episodes on the promotional DVDs that Showtime sent out before each season.

Jenny has a good idea with the walking to your car together.

My college had a night time escort service for late classes. They would show up at your building with a car or a golf cart (depending on the location and distance of your parking lot) and they would take you to your car.

Look into it, you might have one. And get to know your classmates, perhaps there is a car pool option.

I'm happy.

I've been single for a year and I must say that after a painful struggle, I am content with my single life. The biggest problem I run into is a paradox of sorts.

(These following comments could apply to both sexes, I just happen to date men.)

The more confident and together a man is, the more attractive he is to others. However, this usually means he doesn't want to change his life. (What if it ends up bad?)

On the other hand, the more miserable and lonely a man is, the less appealing it is to date him. Unfortunately, this usually means he needs someone to change his life.

So those of us that are searching are often left with the option of attaining someone undesirable, or desiring someone unattainable.

Crazy life huh? But at least some of the stops along the way are fun.

BTW, I got the results back from my Herpes test.......

I love the rejection hotline!!!!! I couldn't remember the number.

Anyway, just wanted to say, phone blocking is a wonderful thing!!!!

Be careful!!! You might just get hundreds of replies to that.

This just goes to show the old saying is true..."be careful what you wish for."

I wonder who much time the pervs waste sending messages to people that are not interested????

Hmmm... I'm a woman and I think this is a bit excessive for a date, much less a date at your age. Maybe they leave you because they feel smothered?

Perhaps you should not try to be sooooo romantic in a cliched way (candle lite dinner and watching the stars).

Try just hanging out with her somewhere and talking, a coffee shop, (doesn't have to be DD, but it can. Be real with her, sincere, laugh and let her see your true heart, not so much imagery.

First of all, you are not ugly. Whoever said that has bad manners and poor taste. Second, stop calling her now. NO MATTER HOW HARD IT IS. Do whatever it takes, even if you have to shut down your cell phone.

Now on to more actual advice. I understand how you feel. And no matter how many people on here tell you to just "get over it", that is easier said than done.

My best advice is to stay busy. At first you might want to avoid the activies and things the two of you did together. This is a great time to go back to whatever you used to like before you met her, even if they feel childish. This is also the best time to try new things you never did while you were with her.

If you know anyone with a child from 18 months to 2 years old, spend time with that kid. I guarantee that you will end up smiling and laughing.

Workout, learn to play guitar, call old friends you fell out of touch with. Call your grandma and granda, maybe visit an aunt or uncle in another state.

Take care of yourself. Eat right, sleep enough, but not too much. Many people will float in and out of your life, but you will always have yourself to count on.

Time will heal this, if you allow yourself that time.

I'll call, but not too soon or too often.


Some men like it when women call, but most men don't like it when a woman calls all the time.

This is by far the funniest response to this post. I love it!!

I met Mr. Right once, his first name was Al.


He was alright.

My screen name is simple: I love sci-fi shows and I think butterflies are beautiful.

Soonest??? Before the 1st date is even over.

I fall fast and hard to. Then get hurt.


That pace works better for sex than for a relationship.

I agree. Great advice. No pic = no reply.

Seriously.