thanx :)

Hey there.. Its been so long I figured this should be one of my first stops...

Opinions are great when you have all the facts.
In all truth? She is taking care of her children. Both her and my grandbabies father(that would be singular) work to take care of them. To pay for them and their care. They work opposite shifts so that child care costs are not a factor. However, I'm not going to go on a rant about that. That wasn't the point of this thread.

Thanks for your input though. And yes, actually, I was a very young mom. 16 to be precise. No one, and I do mean no one, took care of my children except for me and my husband. I worked, as did he, and many is the time that I sat down in the middle of the floor and cried right along with my children. I am not ashamed of the fact that I was a young mother, I had all five of my children by the time I was 22. While some might gasp in shock or horror. Let me say this, I regret none of it. And precautions are not always effective. As I found out with each of my pregnancies.

Sorry, I do not mean to go on and on. However, this is a sore spot. People that think young people can't be good parents and judge them on statistics. Well, statistics be damned. Statistics are a good base for knowledge or information, I will agree with that. They are not all inclusive though.

My daughter had her baby January 3rd. My daughter is 17. Young to be a mom however what is done is done. We make the best of it, she lives with her boyfriends family for alot of different reasons. The number one reason is that I can not make her stay home. At least according to NY State. She's picked a hard road and I wanted more for her but like I said, what's done is done and I love her and my grandbabies.

Her father will not talk to her. Has not spoken to her since I called him from the hospital when she went into labor. Even then he didnt want to talk to her but I guilted him into it. Now my daughter calls me and is crying because her dad won't talk to her, he hasn't seen the baby and she wants to know what she did. I have no idea what to say. It is not my place to make excuses for her dad. I stopped doing that years ago. However, its not right for me to tell her that her dad is just a stubborn jerk either. (Which I did not tell her). I was left saying, I'm sorry, but I don't know. Which somehow seems completely inadequate.

It hurts me when my kids are hurting and I can't fix their pain. I'm really ticked off and there is not a thing I can do to make her Dad call or even stop in to see her. I know it's his loss and someday he will regret his actions but it's the effect it has on my daughter that breaks my heart.

Any advice? or if not, thanks for letting me vent.

Thank you! Baby is great, mom is great, grandma is great, lol.. I came home last night and crashed for 12 hours.. Had been up for 36 hours on 4 hours sleep. I was whooped.

omg thats hysterical!

My granddaughter was born yesterday afternoon.

Kaydence Lynn-Marie weighing in at 7 pounds 15.5 ounces and 20 inches in length. She gave her Mom a few problems but after 6 hours of hard labor she made her entrance into the world screaming her beautiful little head off. LOL!

hmm.. I feel guilty sometimes when its something that I have done or said. I always strive to make ammends when it's something that can be fixed. There are some things out there that just can not be fixed and for those things; I learn to accept what I have done and learn from it.

I like those statements! :)

sits on the beach behind him drinking a cold one pointing and giggling

Thanks! (((((MsTeddyBear)))))) How have you been?

maybe a hug!

heya, welcome and have fun! :)

knows this from sniffin said diaper... lmao

is secretly a comic book hero :)

Thanks everyone... And its sad but the way that life goes.. I'm just sad that we never got to say goodbye..

Well, like I said, some will call it hypocritical. I am legally apart from my ex. The only reason I got upset over the thing was because there was no process to become seperated on his end. I did not date for a long time after my separation. I'm not one for rebounding. That's why my profile says I am happy with making friends.

Not really, it's there in my profile. I just figured that I had better point that out before someone else did. At this point I can not afford to file for divorce. Terrible excuse I know but it is a huge part of why it hasn't proceeded.

I stand up for people that arent able to stand up for themselves.
I stand up for what I believe in.

I let go of the things that can not be changed.

I guess I would have to say that with all these thoughts that I am a hypocrite.. lol... Let me explain why I say this.

I am still legally married. I am also legally seperated, for 4 years now. We live in completely different homes an hour away from eachother.

We do not plan to ever live as a married couple again though. I date sometimes but I always tell people that I am legally separated and not divorced.

The whole reason I started this post was because the man was still married, not legally separated and they still live together.