I built a home, in my heart, for you...

That Home - Cinematic Orchestra (Extended Full Version)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8Q-TWgfHmNo

Haha! Thanks...I'm full now :)

An old guy named Ray picked me up yesterday and we went to install a toilet in this woman's house. It was a run down house and when I walked in I knew right away that it was a single mom. There were toys everywhere, unpacked boxes, a general sense of disorder. Ray told me she just got a job and had just bought the house. Ray is much older than me (87) and I told him I would handle all the heavy stuff—he could sit and supervise. He seemed to like this idea, so he sat on the edge of the tub and talked to me while I was installing the toilet. He told me that he had come to this house and helped put in the floor in the bathroom, because there had been significant water damage. I couldn't help wonder the plight a lot of single mothers have; the man is gone and this has placed them in a role they were never meant to fill alone.

I've known a lot of single moms. Most of them seem to handle this without any problems, but deep down I'm sure they wish they didn't have to. I wish they didn't have to, either. Having to handle the load by themselves has desensitized a lot of single moms; by necessity they've had to become tough, independent and fill the shoes of the missing male. As I was laying on the floor of this single mom's bathroom, installing her toilet, I couldn't help wondering how bad her divorce was and how it had effected what she now thought of all men. There is a growing epidemic of this sort of thing in our country today and I can't help thinking it's all just a set up for what is to come.

What a better way to wreck the family than to separate the man and the woman and have them reverse the roles, with the man being the bad guy. It's an ingenious plan, because the man is the head, and isn't that a typical plan of attack—destroy the head, and the Body will die.

Makes you wonder, doesn't it?

Aww, thanks. I haven't been teased in a while :)

I was blessed just reading this, Mortica. Amen, sistah :)

Hi Newbie. I just posted this because most of the women in my own life fall into one of these ten categories. I'm not saying every woman is like this, just the ones I've known.

I actually like a woman who doesn't wear any makeup and is naturally beautiful. A lot of men like to have some attention from the woman they are attracted to. There's nothing wrong with this, unless you're one of those rigid types.

Some Nigerian guy on another dating forum. I found it interesting, because most of it is so true. I find myself encountering a lot of #10s.

He he...I dunno. Don't you?

10 Reasons No Man Wants to Marry You


You are getting older and almost all your friends are
married; including that ugly, short and fat Jane! Yet
you think you are a good wife material, but you are still
single and getting really worried. Well maybe guys are not
looking your way because you are guilty of a number of
these offenses:

1. You are too haughty. You are the “independent” type
that acts as if you don’t give a damn about guys. Your
oversized ego has beclouded your reason for so long to
make you think you don’t need men and you can do well
alone all by yourself. Typically, you will quickly size
up the guy and bring him down with intimidating looks and
sarcastic responses. Well, I suggest you marry yourself.

2. You are looking for Mr. Perfect. You want a well-
built, neat, romantic, hardworking, honest, God-
fearing, faithful, dark, tall and handsome gentleman
man from a good background who has a good job, drive a
good car and loves you unconditionally. I’m afraid that
perfect guy you read about in a romantic novel isn’t
real. He only exists in the writer’s imagination – and
yours. Wake up girl. You’ll never find a perfect guy –
anywhere. Just like you, everyone else is imperfect.
Accept that fact or wait for the guy to emerge from the
book and marry you.

3. You smell desperate. Men have a special ability to
smell desperation in a woman. Unfortunately, we find
that odor very offensive and avoid it like a plague. Now
your parents and friends are asking you frustrating
questions about marriage, and you are so sick of those
questions so you’d do anything to get the next available
guy to marry you. You need a man so badly and justifiably
so. Unfortunately for you, the more desperate you are,
the less attractive men find you.

4. You pay too little attention to your appearance. You
don’t want to look like a Naughty Lady. So you always
dress down, don’t wear make up and are unkempt. You
are just pathetic. Even stunningly looking ladies are
still in the husband-haunting market; and you really
think a guy will leave all the attractive women and come
for you because he’s “good guy”? Well, if your goal is
to have him sleep with you, some men won’t mind. But if
it’s to get him to marry you, then, you are so mistaken.
Haven’t you been told that men are visually stimulated?

5. You pay too much attention to your appearance. The
fact that men are visually stimulated doesn’t mean they
are unreasonable. Some men may make awkward choice of a
sex partner, but when it comes to a life partner, men are
painstakingly selective. If not you’d be married by now.
Every man dreams of marrying a decent lady, not some
Naughty Lady who won’t mind going Unclad on the street
to get cheap attention.

6. You are rather too sexually naive. Each time he
talks about sex, you act like he has just committed a
crime, because you are a virgin or you don’t want to
appear promiscuous. When you do that you only make him
wonder how boring or frigid you are in bed. Normal men
like sex. And whether you want to agree to it or not, if
he doesn’t have a hint that you can satisfy him sexually
(either practically or by insinuations), he’s put off
(most of the time) subconsciously. That’s when men say
things like “there’s no chemistry”, “I don’t feel her” or
“we don’t connect”. In other words, your insensitivity to
his libido repels him.

7. You are too boring. If you could choose between two
guys with equal qualities in all ramifications except
that one is boring and another is interesting, which of
them will you rather pick? The interesting one of course!
So why do you think if he has to make a similar choice,
he’ll prefer the boring you to an interesting lady? You
excuse yourself by saying “I’m the quiet type”. Being an
introvert is different from being boring. Men are logical
by nature and therefore they tend to be more futuristic
species. So, he’ll picture the two of you alone in your
home. No one looks forward to a boring home. Some ladies
are uninteresting and uninterested.

8. You nag. This is by far one of the most annoying
behaviors a lady can exhibit. It is alarming however
how many women nag. All in the bid to get him do what
she wants, when she wants it and how she wants it, women
typically become nags to achieve their ends. This is
rather selfish and insensitive. No matter what you hope
to achieve, nagging will never get you anywhere. And it
will drive men far away from you.

9. You are insecure. It is normal for women to need
constant reassurance. What is not cool however is for
them is to make their guys’ lives impossible because of
deep-rooted lack of self-confidence. Insecurity is an
awful but common issue amongst many women. No matter what
the guy does, it hits their weak point. If he looks there,
he’s checking out another girl. If he’s busy with work, he
doesn’t love you. If forgets an important date, he doesn’t
care. If a lady calls him, he’s cheating. You suspect his
every action and inaction and react awfully even to well-
intended gestures. That way, you will drive every man in
your life away, and fast.

10. You are too stubborn and rigid. Being principled is
an admirable thing, but being unreasonably unbending is
unattractive. All in the name of being principled, you
go around with a lousy air of sauciness and you want
a million guys to come asking you out? Your very long
list of do’s and don’ts that must be strictly adhered at
all times in all condition is not a plus but a minus. You
are unbendable, unreachable and unteachable and you
actually pride yourself about it. Well, I got news for
you; you are going around with red beeping alert that
says “keep off guys, I am a robot!”

Nope.

A circle jerk is a guy who gets jerked from one woman to the next, because they don't know what they want, can't make up their mind, are too cold or indifferent to get attached or just enjoy jerking guys around.

As to how they look? Very tired.

Yeah, the women.

I waited thirty years for the love of my life to come back. I didn't sit in one spot and be miserable about it though, I just harbored this secretly. Lo and behold she came back into my life in 2011, but then she was gone shortly after. So...moral of the story? If the watched pot doesn't boil, get another one.

Hmm, I'll have her.

Yep... :)

The reason love doesn't work anymore is because people have too many conditions on it. You can't take something like love and say, "Oh I want to find the love of my life, but as long as he has a job or has this or that or whatever..."

Love happens; it doesn't need you to make it happen and it certainly doesn't work if you hang conditions on it.

Huh? Ahem....I was referring to the name of this thread. I'm not sure what you mean by the other stuff.

Amen to that :)