Heavy Beard

When viewing a profile male or female, what things would make you think twice when looking for a potential partner/relationship or friend?

Here are one or two of my put offs ~

1. They show the top half of their body, naked.
2. They are laying on a bed or couch in a seductive way
3. They are holding an alcoholic drink or cigarette in their hand or are surrounded by
alcohol.
4. Misspelt words.
5. They are clearly lying about their age.
6. They are 30 years your junior and their starting line is "Hey Babe"?

Do you have any pet peeves?

I'm new here. Would love to hear suggestions about my profile..

Solid text but I would smile in your pics. If I don't see a smile, I assume the person is unhappy or has no teeth.

Nobody wants to wake up in the morning with somebody they consider "ugly" next to them.

I turn 60 this year (if I make it).
I met my current gf on this site about 3 years ago this October.
So far, its working well.
I'm here for the forums, as entertainment.
When I'm with her, I need no other entertainment so I am not here.

Some people have become cynical as they age. Some have not.
Personally, I don't think I am cynical but I am wiser and I do use better judgement. I do have better emotional control and more maturity in how I think.
I've put away childish things. I don't play with other people's hearts.
I respect the experiences of others. I understand other's need to express themselves as they feel they need to. I try to refrain from making assumptions and deal with things at face value. I try to live in reality instead of delusion.

The "online dating" tool is effective if you use it correctly. Like any tool, it is designed to do a job and when you try to do a job it is not designed to do, its not a very good tool at all.

Many people have the idea "online dating" is 'actual' dating. It is not.
Dating requires physical presence and personal interaction in real-time.
The online tool is there to help you find someone with whom you can meet and have an actual date with. If you never meet, you are using the tool wrong.

The actual dating step is pretty much the same as it was for most of your life. You learn about the other person, you allow them to be themselves while they allow you to be yourself and you embrace the similarities to create a more intimate relationship.

When them being themselves fills you with joy and
When you being yourself fills them with joy
You embrace that connection to fill both of your lives with joy in one another.

If the joy is broken in any step of that connection, you move on and gain wisdom from your experience.
You don't need to hurt them because they didn't live up to being someone you decided they should be.
Such childish games should be behind you now.

At 60 years of age you should know and understand yourself and what you want in your life. You date to find someone to share that with in a loving, caring manner. If you are still playing mind games, you will have trouble finding that special connection. Likewise, if you choose poorly, you will be miserable.
Choose wisely.

60 is tough, retired on fixed income, no overtime. no transportation to keep costs down...i know how good of shape i am in not going to go out with someone in worse shape...just qualified for medicare which covers a lot and going to get things looked at and hopefully by the time the lockdown lifts i will be ready to date.

The "dating scene" when you're over sixty is exactly like the "dating scene" when you were fifty, forty, thirty, twenty, or sixteen. Do things you like to do. Go to places where like minded people go. Be open and friendly. Sure you're gonna meet some goobers here and there. But you also might meet someone you really like to hang out with.

60 is tough, retired on fixed income, no overtime. no transportation to keep costs down...i know how good of shape i am in not going to go out with someone in worse shape...just qualified for medicare which covers a lot and going to get things looked at and hopefully by the time the lockdown lifts i will be ready to date.

I just gave up dating. I'm slim, I have been all of my life. Most all of the women in my area, claim to be "Comfortable" How can you claim that, when you're hauling around 50+ pounds of extra weight? I see them lumbering around, many limping, or their feet hurt. (Very easy to see) A couple times, I've put on 10-15 pounds during the winter, and my knees start sending me hate mail. A few I've gone to dinner with, can put away more food than I could ever.

Am I picky? Yes, I'm allowed to be. Just as much as they are. Or even more so, as I have learned. They all seem to be living in the mainstream. I'm not into that at all. I've gotten pretty content with my lifestyle, since I got out of the dating loop. It's been almost ten years since my last date. Wanna bore the life out of me? Start talking about your kids/ grandkids. I'm sorry, I didn't have any. I dated a few widows. Invariably, I'll see a shrine erected to their past away mate someplace in their house. If I do, chances are very good, that some discussion about their dead mate will come up.

Do I date? Nope. I don't care to, anymore.