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ElaineSeekingJerry
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Wed 07/23/08 03:04 PM
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I adore kids so it wouldn't really matter to me one way or the other. And I have gotton 6 to adulthood (only 2 of which were of my body) without killing anyone 
Hey, that's no small feat (hey, summer vacation alone is enough to do a person in!!  ), so you have both my respect and admiration! 
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I knew there was a reason I gave you a glowing testimonial and made you one of my Favourites!
Very well put ... as usual, TK. |
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SINGLE or TAKEN? - part 7
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single...but crushing 
oooh! details ... we need details! 
(sorry, living vicariously through you today  )
Single - although I did have a marriage proposal from a complete stranger last night, so things could turn on a dime 
 I plead the 5th!
A proposal??? oh WOW! What did you say?
I think the sound of me closing the IM window button was the only answer he needed! 
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Good advice and a good 'push' ... thanks, RO!
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I'll be completely honest. If I had a choice, I'd choose A. I've never been married before, so it would be nice to jump into it with someone that hasn't done it before either. Now let's be realistic. You don't get to choose where your heart takes you, so I'd follow it down any of the four paths offered. Completely agree on your last point - but I think on a site like this, when you're looking at profiles and deciding (anonymously, from the comfort and distance of your own home) who you will/won't contact, these factors MUST come into play, even slightly, if people are honest. I just enjoy hearing people's thoughts, so thanks for yours! (If I was in your position I think I'd likely prefer A too.) |
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Thanks for taking the time to explain your rationale, hesearches - I really appreciate that. I think deep down most of us do indeed have a preference, whether we're willing to admit it or not. I have my own concerns with each of the 'choices' outlined - bringing someone into my life, as well as my children's is going to be a huge adjustment and it's not one I take lightly (nor do I mean to imply that others do).
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Topic:
SINGLE or TAKEN? - part 7
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single...but crushing
oooh! details ... we need details!
(sorry, living vicariously through you today )
Single - although I did have a marriage proposal from a complete stranger last night, so things could turn on a dime
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I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kids
But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children? yes...and thats why I'm still single 
I hear ya ... it's a tough spot to be in. I guess I remember what I was like before I had kids of my own - and how much I now realize I didn't know *humble laugh* about how gruelling (and rewarding, no question) the process of raising children can be - it would take someone special to step in and fill that role for my kids, esp. because they already have an incredible father. Hmmm ... |
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A, B, and maybe C...I usually don't deal with divorced men but if they don't have any kids...I may make an exception. I appreciate your honesty and input. I realize that we rarely get to 'pick and choose' all the ingredients that go in to making up our 'ideal' partner, but it's interesting to know what people lean towards, if given the option. |
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I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kids
But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children? There are plenty of people who do not have kids who would get along well with kids. I agree. I think being a step-parent would be a tough role to play, however, and they'd have to be a really strong person to put up with possible jealousy from the kids, the ex, etc. Glad to hear so many people are open to the idea - makes me more optimistic about my prospects! |
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It wouldn't really matter to me. No preference at all? You must be very open-minded and accepting ... great qualities! 
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I've never been married and have no kids so ideally I'd like someone in the same boat I can totally understand and appreciate that. Thanks for your input! |
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I wouldn't care...just want a mate...I get along great with kids
But do you worry about how someone who didn't have children of her own might interact with your children? |
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Does anyone worry about the dynamics of bringing two families together, though? I guess I haven't seen a lot of 'success' stories in this regard and it makes me a little hesitant.
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If you were to enter into a serious relationship, which category would your "ideal" mate fall into? (assume they had all the other qualities you're looking for):
a) never married with no children b) never married with children c) divorced with no children d) divorced with children Feel to explain your rationale as well ... |
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Topic:
navy help needed
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I think you should go anyways you've missed out on so much.I know you wanted your other child to go as well but if that isn't possible than you could consider going by yourself .It probaly would mean alot to your daughter 
Yeah, that does suck -- sorry to hear about your Mom's ailing health. Relationships can be so complex and the pain very deep. I hope that things will improve for all of you as time progresses - try to stay positive; sounds like you've got all your children's best interests at heart, and that will be rewarded, I truly believe that. |
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navy help needed
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Being the 'bigger person' is exasperating and frustrating - but this has got to be one of those times ... do NOT miss this occasion to be there for your daughter (even if it doesn't seem of paramount importance to her now -- it likely will as she ages). Take a deep breath, remind yourself that this is all and only about supporting your daughter, and let the rest go.
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Topic:
imperfect
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Wouldn't that be a relief - to be able to just unburden ourselves of the insecurities and self-doubt? To know that all our 'dark' would be received with as open arms as our 'light'?
Thank you for that ... |
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Now see? This is the kind of silly advice that gives people (ya know the ones - no photo, headline says "Looking for Mrs. Older" or something equally sauve) the green light to IM me out of thin air and in the second sentence tell me they want to marry me! Quit laughing, it happened to me last night!
PLEASE stop telling people to express their feelings! 
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Topic:
w00t!
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Ya lost me, brother!
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