well, we were kind of busy, we were both working and studying at the time. but I felt I was the only one trying to save the friendship, so I just stopped calling her... Then we talked on the phone just when it was my or her birthday and that was all. I´m a very straightforward person so one time we got together and I just told her that this friendship was not working for me, that I needed a real friend, not just someone on the phone. She told me she was just trying to give me some space since I was in a relationship , but I told her that was an excuse. We talked about it and she said she was going to try to call me and get together more often, then she went on a trip for 6 months and she appeared at my house for my birthday, acting as if we had been in contact all that time (obviously she didn´t call in those 6 months) So this time, I was really pissed off, and I just told her that I could never "pretend" to be her best friend and that maybe we just wanted different things in a freindship. I haven´t spoken to her ver since..
......and that´s the story of how I lost a best friend :-(

although she´s a very good person ... to me , she didn´t even try to saty friends..

I think Delilady explained it faaar netter that I did. I agree with her

In my case, i didn´t replace my best friend with my boyfriend, it just happened that way... I couldn´t replace my friendship with my best girlfriend with anyboby. In fact, I ended my relationship with that boyfriend and spent time with no friends at all. Then, this girl friend and I tried to solve our issies but couldn´t...

so, it clearly depends on the situation the person is going through, as Delilady just said

thet really pisses me off!!!

Well, I can tell you what happened to me.. I do not think it´s going to help much...but here it goes..
I used to have a best friend, someone who was lke a sister to me, but then we just stopped seeing each other... and NOT because I had a boyfriend at the time,( it was because i got tired of calling her to get together and do things together and she never called me back)So we distanced from each other, in a way I lost that best friend

Before losing my best friend, I became friends with my boyfriend, we both did (the situation kind of helped too, cause we were almost all alone, with no friends, so we became best friends)

Friendship is something I look for in a relationship, i don´t know about the rest, but being able to trust someone is an important part in a relationship, and I think that if I can´t trust the one I love completely, then it´s not worth it...

sorry if this didn´t help much :(

are you a mind reader or what??!! I just happen to agree with you in most of the threads!! haha
:-)

Yeah, I think attracting nobody is better than attracting the wrong one again!!! hahah :-)

nobody would even notice I´m gone, so .... no,... they wouldn´t even bother to look through my stuff

I just couldn´t agree more!!

I don´t seem to attract any type at all lately......
but I used to attract many liars and manipulative cowards...

no luck for me!

people who lie ... I hate it, and they are everywhere.... and the get away with it, that really pisses me off!

A means to an end, Joy Division!!!!!!

yeah!!!

;)

Totage: I do the same with my two little nieces, so far they seem to like a hug once in a while, and the eldest is very affectiionate. I think that if I didn´t have the chance to have that kind of relationship with my parents, at least I´m going to try to have it with my nieces

Kartage: thanks for your Happy b-day. I tottally agree with what you said, about people being in a constant rush. ut i do not think i´m depressed, I do think i have bad days and particularly my b-day was an awful one, but now i´ve got a whole year in front of me to organize a good one next year!! hahaha

I agree!!!!!

I agree with you Joel!!!

People think that sex is everything nowadays, and it´s obviously what they sell to us in the media.It is what sells and most people buy it. It´s sad but true... once a man/woman gets bored, they´ll move on to another thing, the next person who turns her/him on

I agree with spicing it a little bit, if you´re adults and with both consent. But I´m against the idea of "spicing it" just to prevent him/her from ending the relationship...

I just agree with Joel
that´d all
:)

First of all thank you so much for still being here sending me your greetings,(Pacific and caliente) it`s so nice!!!

I almost though this thread was dead by now so I was surprised to see you kept writing...

Joel, the country I live in is not horrible, only the people I know are horrible, hahaha. I must admit, I am used to my family forgetting or ignoring me on my birthday ... it´s a family thing, they sometimes seem to be very cold people and it sounds awful but they aren´t that bad,they just say "happy birthday" and give me a kiss on the cheek and that´s all.they are not into parties , that´s all. Although i was a bit surprised that my siblings acted that way, because they do know what I´m going through and they didn´t even call me or send me a congrats message. Well, my sister did, at 1 pm saying her cell phone battery had run out (took her 24hs to notice she didn´t have any battery charge!! seriously?)

Anyway, that group of students who made me a birthday cake helped me feel better and all you comments too!!! I also bought a nice take-out dinner the other day , only for me! and I will get that precious beer I owe myself!!! maybe this weekend...

It´s hard but I have learnt that being alone is better than having bad company

so, thank you all!!!

:-)

Erinx: I can totally relate to what happened to you, though it was not the exact same situation it was very similar. My ex-bf was a "compulsive liar" too...
It only takes courage to stand up and say "goodbye" and it hurts what he did, but eventually we all move on... or so they say...

I´m just glad many of the people here are not willing to put up with that and they have strong values as regards cheating and doing this "childinsh things" (I´m sorry, but I can´t stand that behaviour at all and the fact that he lied about it makes it just even worse)

So, stay strong girl!! :-)

I think I do believe in them even though that has never happened to me before. Love at first sight is similar to a "unicorn, UFO, witch, or a miracle": If we have never seen one of those we may not believe in any of them, but we all hope they exist (except for wotches.. unless they are good witches...)

I agree with Erin, Caliente and Mariah. You all have a good point there

I agree with Singmesweet, there has to be some physical attraction, i´m not going to lie about that. But for me that´s not enough. The one quality that is a MUST for me is honesty. Then, of course, good sense of humour and friendship, I mean, someone you can count on and rely on as a friend

Well... I begun having changes in my life since las year in November... and I think I´m just in the middle of it... trying to forget the bad things that hurt me 6 months ago, I´m slowly moving on.... and I´ve decided to cut down on bread!!! 5 days and counting! :-)

I still have to change so many things, emotionally and physically, (of course by my own choice!!!) I hope I achieve my goals