You have such a kind way of describing women over 30 years old.

Love those almond eyes.

That was my first thought, they are not blood related and if they are legal ages I see no problem.

I just had a 21 yr old ims me. What in common would I have with a man that age? I mean come on, I have two kids older than him.

I look better in person anyway.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rbMHLDY1pA

I heard of this kind of affection before. Like the woman who married the eiffel tower uh?

Ditto, but I do check out.

Sorry if it was, one can't keep up with every post. Wow, who couldn't understand this, it's written very simple?

I wish you much success on Mingle2. Don't leave there are plenty of nice people here, welcome.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0rbMHLDY1pA

This article was taken from Yahoo news.


Dave Singleton, an award-winning writer and columnist for Match.com since 2003, is the author of two books on dating and relationships.


I wasn’t ready for a serious girlfriend
“When I first met her, I felt a hot connection with this girl I knew nothing about. During our date, I got to know her better, liked her, and could tell she was really looking for a serious boyfriend. I could sense our expectations were different. I didn’t have the energy to explain to her that I wasn’t looking for my future wife right now, so I just passed.”
— Allan, 27, Westchester, NY

Lesson learned: The woman he wants (eventually) to bring home to mom may not always be the woman he wants to date right now. If the guy in question was just looking for casual dates and you had different expectations (which is a good thing, unless that’s all you wanted in the first place), you are much better off putting your energies elsewhere.

She was too self-absorbed
“She gabbed with me like I was a girlfriend. I guess I made her feel comfortable, since she had no problem telling me the minutiae of her life. She seemed very focused on how she was coming across. I wasn’t feeling it.”
— Bill, 33, Bethesda, MD

Lesson learned: The idea that men are totally focused on a woman’s looks is a big myth. That’s not how building an attraction with someone works. In this area, woman and men are alike. Most men don’t want a self-absorbed woman who’s focused solely on herself — her friends, her job, her hobbies, her goals, etc. Ask him about his life, too. Focus less on making an impression and more on facilitating the best possible connection.

“More than most women realize, men judge a woman less on looks and more on how they feel around her,” says Evan Marc Katz, author of Why He Disappeared. “‘Do I feel attractive? Do I feel masculine? Do I feel funny when she laughs at my jokes?’ Those are the questions he’s asking himself before he calls her again.”

I didn’t want to deal with any confrontation
“Sometimes women get upset when you say it’s not working for you. The attraction we had shared initially faded pretty fast. I don’t know why. She’d probably press me for some logical reason why I asked her out in the first place if the attraction was so iffy. But attraction isn’t created by logic.”
— Chad, 34, Washington, D.C.

Lesson learned: Some men are too immature or scared to be honest and straightforward with a woman about their feelings. The truth is simply that, somewhere along the line, the attraction and connection vanished. Of course, a man’s definition of “confrontation” might be the same as your definition of “friendly, respectful call.” But if he’s scared, he won’t be calling you.

I’m keeping my options open
“I had a good time on the date, but I’m focusing more on another girl I’ve been seeing for a few weeks. Who knows, I might change my mind and call.”
— Jack, 38, San Diego, CA

Lesson learned: The timing just wasn’t right for the two of you. He’s otherwise occupied, and it has nothing to do with you or your charms (or lack thereof). Dating can be like musical chairs; your date is simply keeping his options open until the right one presents itself. Always assume that your dates are seeing other people until there’s a mutual agreement about exclusivity. Remember, some men don’t call women back because there’s someone else who’s picking up steam in their dating race.

“While men excel at compartmentalization, women tend to have a more difficult time separating their feelings, so multi-male dating may be a bigger challenge for the female set,” says Kimberly Dawn Neumann, author of The Real Reasons Men Commit.

She was annoying
“She had this annoying habit of throwing her head back when she laughed. It was too hysterical and weird for me.”
— Josh, 29, New York, NY

Lesson learned: Some guys carry the Seinfeld curse; that is, they share George Costanza’s obsession of overly picky and shallow physical or behavioral traits when it comes to their dating lives. In her book, Why He Didn’t Call You Back: 1,000 Guys Reveal What They Really Thought About You After Your Date, author Rachel Greenwald notes that 78 percent of women she surveyed believed that a man hadn’t called her back for reasons beyond her control, i.e. the elusive “chemistry” or a career that intimidates men. The truth is that 85 percent of men surveyed felt the opposite. In fact, there were sometimes small and always-specific behaviors women exhibited which ended up being deal-breakers for the guys.

Both men and women can nitpick their dates into obscurity. Ask your closest friends if you have any controllable, attraction-inhibiting habits that warrant adjusting, such as avoiding eye contact when you’re nervous. But if you’re being judged on characteristics you can’t control, don’t spend time obsessing over what you could have done differently. Move on, because the next person will likely have different expectations altogether.



Send your dating questions and comments to him at Dave@Davesingleton.com.

You're right, sometimes things in the forums can get out of hand. If you mention something you don't like get ready to be put before the firing range cause that where some ppl are going to take you. Gotta roll with the punches I guess. You never know how ppl are going to take a thread.

Oh my gosh, not the makeup? Thank God for makeup, you wouldn't want to see me without it.

No offence to those who smoke, but I kissed a guy who smokes before and well.....


I don't mind if he drinks sociable or has one or two tattoos. I don't want a man who drinks all the time. I know from experience my dad died an alcoholic.

We don't frown on it, you're not understanding the opinions given here. Any man who chooses to date an older woman that's their business. Some are just saying because of the issues that can arise and what their preference is they choose not to, it's no biggie.

You are right, and I didn't mean to imply that all younger men are looking for a sugar mama. I believe it is a fact that women do mature faster than men and when I was in my forties it was just for fun. Most younger men aren't thinking about being a husband and ready make father when they just barely left the den themselves.

It can work, not saying it can't but just like any relationship you had better be able to address it's issue as well. As for me, no I want a man close to my age so we can watch each other grow old and wrinkle at the same speed. Just two old farts loving each other.

I have read your profile sir, and it's not necessary to explain God to me I am a Christian who has studied the Word.

I quote: "My vision is not only to be an unsurpassed asset to my country but to the entire world and you don't do that in your village alone."

Your vision, or His vision for you? If this is His calling for you then if God be for you then who can stand against you? I was just wondering with all the smarts you have it seemed in a country that has so many challenges you would be a greater asset there.

Morning all.