Of course we must divorce the two. The physical self and the sex appeal that one gives out will radiate to some people, but not all. Your inner self. Your personality. You, will also appeal to some not all. Please don’t make assumptions regarding men. We, people, black, white or brown are all bespoke. Personally I am looking for a relationship and I expect it to go like this: Wow, she is sexy! Amazing we connect! OMG we have so much in common! Can’t wait to see her again. I’ve got stomach cramping. My head is spinning. I feel like I’m in love