rugby is cool, but i find flaws in your nfl logic, gladiators wore helmets and skirts in the ultimate
man's "sport".

OP - not a fan of cowboys, i'm a diehard fan of the purple and black, ravens!!

That's a scary question.
You are basically asking "How can I manipulate a guy to make sure he doesn't judge me for harming him just enough to get him to go away?"

This question is asked a lot, by both men and women.

Of course people have been answering this question in practical ways for a very long time.

It's pretty easy.

1. You lie, knowing how they will emotionally react to it, or just painting a picture where there's only one outcome.
2. You only date a-holes so you can ultimately lay all blame on them.
3. You find some other way to hurt them, sometimes a lesser hurt to avoid the bigger one, sometimes a bigger hurt to them to mask the smaller hurt of guilt to yourself.
4. Try to accept blame and make yourself feel bad, in penance, flagellation, i.e. "it's not you, it's me."


Those are pretty simple to figure out, though.

So I'm wondering if you are really asking the question in the OP or are you just trying to get moral support from internet strangers because you have this self image of being a "good" person but you have to do what you'd judge as "bad" things and have no desire to accept responsibility for that behavior because it might conflict with how you perceive yourself.

Then, the answer is even more simple if you just realize that there is no such thing as an absolute "good" person. That every human being is going to cause harm to another no matter what you do, no matter how nice and civilized you are, you can't guarantee how another person is going to emotionally react or feel, and you have to just find what works for you, what your own psyche can feel comfortable with.